treating domestic employees like garbage.

GraySaturday

AmentsChick wrote:

I get it, too, sweetie. The family I work for is amazing and treat me INCREDIBLE well...but I get it from the parent's at J's school when I pick her up. They won't talk to me...treat me like I don't exist. In their eyes, I don't...I'm an employee...not someone to socialize with (or even smile at!).

totally! I've been to gymboree classes where the patents stand on one side and the nannies on the other! What is that crap? Even my OWN friends and family are weird about me being a nanny. Sorry I'm not a rocket scientist but it doesn't make me any less of a person. I work hard, I care about my jobs and I make great money. Nannying was a choice for me. So many people are quick to judge.

Lizard

sorry to hear that! Those kind of people probably treat everyone like sh*t because they are MEAN PEOPLE!!! and they suck!!

AmentsChick

GraySaturday wrote:

totally! I've been to gymboree classes where the patents stand on one side and the nannies on the other! What is that crap? Even my OWN friends and family are weird about me being a nanny. Sorry I'm not a rocket scientist but it doesn't make me any less of a person. I work hard, I care about my jobs and I make great money. Nannying was a choice for me. So many people are quick to judge.

It's funny you said that!! Wednesday mornings is when Mia has her http://www.jwtumbles.com class. There are about 4 other nannies in the class with the rest being parents. That's EXACTLY how it is. Nannies socialize...parents socialize...never together. I guess it's like that at most jobs, right? Like when Joey tried to integrate the museum staff when he worked with Ross??

acoustic guy

AmentsChick wrote:

It's funny you said that!! Wednesday mornings is when Mia has her http://www.jwtumbles.com class. There are about 4 other nannies in the class with the rest being parents. That's EXACTLY how it is. Nannies socialize...parents socialize...never together. I guess it's like that at most jobs, right? Like when Joey tried to integrate the museum staff when he worked with Ross??

I can not believe its like that.
Bastards. Some nerve huh?

Brain of J.Lo

GraySaturday wrote:

I swear I've worked for a few families and they are all nice and talk themselves up as being different then the rest but then they all seem to settle into a snotty way of treating me. There us no respect for my schedule. Its not that hard to call me and ask me to stay late, but to just assume and come home whenever you want is do rude! I have a life outside of slaving away for a family.

Okay here is an example. NORMALLY my boss is really good to ne and treats me like I'm human but the other day she had a friend over who was weird to mr and wouldnt look me in the eye or speak to me. So my boss sorta got an attitude with me around this girl and asked me to sit with the baby on the floor next to the table where they were having their lunch date so they could watch the baby play. I'm sorry but that's degrading. And then when they were done eating the girl whispers to my boss and my boss looks over and is like "we're done eating as much ad we're going to eat, you can pick at it now if you'd like" what???? Yes let me beg for your scraps. It just made me so mad because she toots her own horn about how she is so wonderful but the moment someone is crappy to me she jumps on the bandwagon!

That's fucking outrageous. :(

I'm really sorry you were treated that way. It's a shame when people buy into the idea that they have the right to treat others in a degrading way. I find it especially offensive when, as in your case, they are showing off for their friends. I had some similar experiences in my years of working retail, but they probably stung a little less than this did because I was working with strangers rather than someone I had come to like and trust.

iluvcats

GraySaturday wrote:

totally! I've been to gymboree classes where the patents stand on one side and the nannies on the other! What is that crap? Even my OWN friends and family are weird about me being a nanny. Sorry I'm not a rocket scientist but it doesn't make me any less of a person. I work hard, I care about my jobs and I make great money. Nannying was a choice for me. So many people are quick to judge.

but what would we do without you? You are vital. Screw them.

meme

GraySaturday wrote:

I swear I've worked for a few families and they are all nice and talk themselves up as being different then the rest but then they all seem to settle into a snotty way of treating me. There us no respect for my schedule. Its not that hard to call me and ask me to stay late, but to just assume and come home whenever you want is do rude! I have a life outside of slaving away for a family.

Okay here is an example. NORMALLY my boss is really good to ne and treats me like I'm human but the other day she had a friend over who was weird to mr and wouldnt look me in the eye or speak to me. So my boss sorta got an attitude with me around this girl and asked me to sit with the baby on the floor next to the table where they were having their lunch date so they could watch the baby play. I'm sorry but that's degrading. And then when they were done eating the girl whispers to my boss and my boss looks over and is like "we're done eating as much ad we're going to eat, you can pick at it now if you'd like" what???? Yes let me beg for your scraps. It just made me so mad because she toots her own horn about how she is so wonderful but the moment someone is crappy to me she jumps on the bandwagon!

That's pretty serious and disrespectful stuff there. You will have to balance the good and the bad, but if ever something more exciting comes your way, I would definitely have no regrets dumping them.

Brain of J.Lo

gabers wrote:

Unfortunately, there are many people who feel they are better than others. I say you have an honorable and important job, no less so than a teacher or a cop.

I can't imagine hiring someone to give regular care for my child and then treating them as anything other than a family member! It's absolutely one of the most important jobs in the world.

GreenTeaDisease

It's probably because a lot (not all...) of people who have domestic employees or are around the domestic employees of others may be the exact same people who would treat someone else like crap, not necessarily "rich" people, but the subset of them who are concerned with status/class/etc.

...if that makes any sense...

like if having nannies or maids were more common among the middle class, then maybe they would be less likely to be treated like crap? I dunno, I knew what I wanted to say but it's not being articulated well...

AmentsChick

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

It's probably because a lot (not all...) of people who have domestic employees or are around the domestic employees of others may be the exact same people who would treat someone else like crap, not necessarily "rich" people, but the subset of them who are concerned with status/class/etc.

...if that makes any sense...

like if having nannies or maids were more common among the middle class, then maybe they would be less likely to be treated like crap? I dunno, I knew what I wanted to say but it's not being articulated well...

I understand...and it makes alot of sense to me. I mean, of course it's not always true...but many times it is.

Brain of J.Lo

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

It's probably because a lot (not all...) of people who have domestic employees or are around the domestic employees of others may be the exact same people who would treat someone else like crap, not necessarily "rich" people, but the subset of them who are concerned with status/class/etc.

...if that makes any sense...

like if having nannies or maids were more common among the middle class, then maybe they would be less likely to be treated like crap? I dunno, I knew what I wanted to say but it's not being articulated well...

I understand what you're saying.

It wasn't a coincidence that the customers that I served at Bloomingdale's were a lot more likely to treat me poorly than the customers at Macy's were. There was a definite sense of entitlement present in my Bloomingdale's customers.

GraySaturday

THE funniest thing happened after I posted this rambling complaint today!

I went downstairs to talk to my boss in her home office, and there was a list of life goals for their family on the white board. (Which has been there all along) BUT, "Selling the house" was now listed on the top as the #1 thing to do. So I'm standing there, and I'm like, sell the house eh? And she was like "Errrr.. ummmm.. yeahh.... My husband and I are interviewing people to list the house, and then we are thinking of moving away to the suburbs, instead of the city, like we told you before"
So I'm standing there like.. uhhh... (I had told them when I started, that I would never drive to the suburbs again for a job, since I had left my last job because of the hour + commute) And she was like, I'm sorry we were gonna sit you down next week and tell you.
So she goes on to say that its fine because she has NO idea how long it will take to sell, could be a day, could be a year, etc.. and that whenever it sold, I would just leave. I'm like.. "Huh? I can't just hang out here until the job goes away, I have bills, and I have a life!" So I tell her that I am going to start looking for a job, and if a great once comes up, that I am not going to pass it up because she has no idea when she is leaving.

Then... she gets all teary eyed, and she's like.. "are you gonna cry?!?! Because I am!" And I laughed, and was like, "No, I'm good, thanks"

SOME PEOPLE! Buttttt... the madness may be over! I don't think I'll be trying for a new nanny job.. I'm a little over this!

Anyone in Chicago hiring?? I have a resume!

DaytimeDilemma

GraySaturday wrote:

Anyone in Chicago hiring?? I have a resume!

Good question.

AmentsChick

GraySaturday wrote:

THE funniest thing happened after I posted this rambling complaint today!

I went downstairs to talk to my boss in her home office, and there was a list of life goals for their family on the white board. (Which has been there all along) BUT, "Selling the house" was now listed on the top as the #1 thing to do. So I'm standing there, and I'm like, sell the house eh? And she was like "Errrr.. ummmm.. yeahh.... My husband and I are interviewing people to list the house, and then we are thinking of moving away to the suburbs, instead of the city, like we told you before"
So I'm standing there like.. uhhh... (I had told them when I started, that I would never drive to the suburbs again for a job, since I had left my last job because of the hour + commute) And she was like, I'm sorry we were gonna sit you down next week and tell you.
So she goes on to say that its fine because she has NO idea how long it will take to sell, could be a day, could be a year, etc.. and that whenever it sold, I would just leave. I'm like.. "Huh? I can't just hang out here until the job goes away, I have bills, and I have a life!" So I tell her that I am going to start looking for a job, and if a great once comes up, that I am not going to pass it up because she has no idea when she is leaving.

Then... she gets all teary eyed, and she's like.. "are you gonna cry?!?! Because I am!" And I laughed, and was like, "No, I'm good, thanks"

SOME PEOPLE! Buttttt... the madness may be over! I don't think I'll be trying for a new nanny job.. I'm a little over this!

Anyone in Chicago hiring?? I have a resume!

Well, good...see, everything happens for a reason. A great set of parents are out there looking right now!!

failedpersephone

GraySaturday wrote:

THE funniest thing happened after I posted this rambling complaint today!

I went downstairs to talk to my boss in her home office, and there was a list of life goals for their family on the white board. (Which has been there all along) BUT, "Selling the house" was now listed on the top as the #1 thing to do. So I'm standing there, and I'm like, sell the house eh? And she was like "Errrr.. ummmm.. yeahh.... My husband and I are interviewing people to list the house, and then we are thinking of moving away to the suburbs, instead of the city, like we told you before"
So I'm standing there like.. uhhh... (I had told them when I started, that I would never drive to the suburbs again for a job, since I had left my last job because of the hour + commute) And she was like, I'm sorry we were gonna sit you down next week and tell you.
So she goes on to say that its fine because she has NO idea how long it will take to sell, could be a day, could be a year, etc.. and that whenever it sold, I would just leave. I'm like.. "Huh? I can't just hang out here until the job goes away, I have bills, and I have a life!" So I tell her that I am going to start looking for a job, and if a great once comes up, that I am not going to pass it up because she has no idea when she is leaving.

Then... she gets all teary eyed, and she's like.. "are you gonna cry?!?! Because I am!" And I laughed, and was like, "No, I'm good, thanks"

SOME PEOPLE! Buttttt... the madness may be over! I don't think I'll be trying for a new nanny job.. I'm a little over this!

Anyone in Chicago hiring?? I have a resume!

That is really rad! good for you!

I think in that home you were furniture...so this is great news... I lovethe fakey cry too! hahahaaa!

Heineken Helen

failedpersephone wrote:

That is really rad! good for you!

I think in that home you were furniture...so this is great news... I lovethe fakey cry too! hahahaaa!

me too... well done grey... I also think you should tell her how demeaning she can be... take her down a peg or two... if she's the kinda person she comes across as being, I doubt it would prevent her from giving you a good reference, she'd probably give you a better one to make up for it.

moxie

People will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you.

With this job that I'm working now, I decided in the beginning that $7/hour isn't enough to let people talk to me like I'm their bitch. It's only been a month, but I haven't been fired yet.

know1

I thought we only treated the foreign employees like garbage.....

boxwine_in_hell

Just make sure the nanny cam is off when you smack the little bastards around.

iluvcats

so....

what do you two nannies think of that old movie, "the hand that rocks the cradle?"
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104389/
I wanted to choke the father, he thought she was great.