treating domestic employees like garbage.
GraySaturday
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most of you know that I'm a nanny. I also have a college degree and will be in graduate school in the fall. Now I know that a lot of people might think being a nanny is an easy job or a joke or whatever. But where do people get off treating me like I am some low class slave that owes them something?? I constantly see people treating their nannies/sitters/housekeepers like total crap. It makes me really sad to see how people react when they ask me what I do. Its not like I said "I'm a crack whore". A nanny's job is difficult. It can be a constant struggle. I am always getting flack and being treated like some poor little slave maid by people who are friends and family members of the people I work for. What is wrong with some people?
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my nanny has been with us for 24 years!, and I'm 24 yers old!....she's like my second mother. I adore her...she's the best human being in the whole world...(after me of course
PS: I didn't know you work as nanny...what a nobel work
If I employed a nanny who did a good job (because good ones are HARD to find, believe me) and whom I trusted with my kids every day....I would NOT let my friends and family members drive him/her away. Period. I would personally kick their butts.
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they sound stuck up. ask amentschick if she experiences this, she is a nanny as well.
you are an attractive lady, maybe they are jealous of you!
but yeah, it sounds like their opinion of people is from the Renaisance era.
8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
10/10 - Brad in B'more
What is wrong with some people is unfortunately they feel superior to you because of your job. I deal with the same thing. I am not a nanny, but I run a fitness center and teach cardio/strength classes, and I get some people who just talk down to me and don't want to follow the rules in class that are there for everyone's benefit. I happen to have a M.S. in Computer Science, but a variety of circumstances, including wanting an active life, led me to what I (quite successfully) do now. Some people base worth on the job you do, or the amount of money you earn. Its very sad. Not trying to hijack away from nannies but this behavior is directed at a variety of professions, and it is very rude. We are all human and honest work, no matter what line, deserves respect.
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To pull a phrase from another thread currently on the first page: douche bags.
My brother-in-law has a nanny and we treat her like a part of the family.
there you are.
- brain of c
Okay here is an example. NORMALLY my boss is really good to ne and treats me like I'm human but the other day she had a friend over who was weird to mr and wouldnt look me in the eye or speak to me. So my boss sorta got an attitude with me around this girl and asked me to sit with the baby on the floor next to the table where they were having their lunch date so they could watch the baby play. I'm sorry but that's degrading. And then when they were done eating the girl whispers to my boss and my boss looks over and is like "we're done eating as much ad we're going to eat, you can pick at it now if you'd like" what???? Yes let me beg for your scraps. It just made me so mad because she toots her own horn about how she is so wonderful but the moment someone is crappy to me she jumps on the bandwagon!
Maybe you shoud refer to yourself as an "Au Pair" instead. That demands respect. Or at least confuses people.
Unfortunately, there are many people who feel they are better than others. I say you have an honorable and important job, no less so than a teacher or a cop.
When did you get cleaned up?
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It sounds like the friends and extended part of the family act like you are a slave....."oh yes masta.....Isa clean tat up for ya righ away"
Fuck them.
You should really speak your mind in a nice way. From what I know of you, you sound like a keeper, I bet money its hard for them to find good help.
Speak your mind.
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
Sorry that people treat you like crap, GS.. maybe they just think you are a bitch
I get it, too, sweetie. The family I work for is amazing and treat me INCREDIBLEY well...but I get it from the parents at J's school when I pick her up. They won't talk to me...treat me like I don't exist. In their eyes, I don't...I'm an employee...not someone to socialize with (or even smile at!).
Thanks
I think you should seek other employment, and give your reasons for ending your tenure as being a gross lack of respect and common courtesy.
I wish I were dismayed at the behavior, but unfortunately, I am not surprised. I have worked as a Preschool teacher, and a Director of a preschool, in a very affluent neighborhood. I have had people offer me their old clothes, and ask me to come to their homes to watch their children on weekends, or over the parent's vacationing time. One asked me if I would be willing to stay on site late - as it wasn't inconvenient for me to do so (I was actually preparing for the next day) I allowed the parents to have a late pickup (after school officially closed) The Father picked up the child 3 hours late and tried to give me a 20 dollar bill.
I think that it is part of human nature to begin to classify people based on their direct link to services given. People in the service industries are often given rude/shabby treatment because the person in the direct servicing role feels that they are "paying" for YOU and not your skills, time or qualifications.
The fact that your current employer is taking her cues from a friend's behavior implies that she has a tenuous hold on her own social position. It's the old check to charity mentality. you write a check to the local shelter, so when you see a man sitting under a filthy blanket in the rain your conscience is clear enough for you to walk right by him - and still view yourself as a "friend to the homeless" you may even get a sweatshirt or license plate frame to help you pronounce this! (depending on your check size)
hang in there, but keep your eyes open for a different position.
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It's funny you said that!! Wednesday mornings is when Mia has her http://www.jwtumbles.com class. There are about 4 other nannies in the class with the rest being parents. That's EXACTLY how it is. Nannies socialize...parents socialize...never together. I guess it's like that at most jobs, right? Like when Joey tried to integrate the museum staff when he worked with Ross??
I can not believe its like that.
Bastards. Some nerve huh?
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
That's fucking outrageous. :(
I'm really sorry you were treated that way. It's a shame when people buy into the idea that they have the right to treat others in a degrading way. I find it especially offensive when, as in your case, they are showing off for their friends. I had some similar experiences in my years of working retail, but they probably stung a little less than this did because I was working with strangers rather than someone I had come to like and trust.
but what would we do without you? You are vital. Screw them.
8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
10/10 - Brad in B'more
That's pretty serious and disrespectful stuff there. You will have to balance the good and the bad, but if ever something more exciting comes your way, I would definitely have no regrets dumping them.
I can't imagine hiring someone to give regular care for my child and then treating them as anything other than a family member! It's absolutely one of the most important jobs in the world.
...if that makes any sense...
like if having nannies or maids were more common among the middle class, then maybe they would be less likely to be treated like crap? I dunno, I knew what I wanted to say but it's not being articulated well...
I understand...and it makes alot of sense to me. I mean, of course it's not always true...but many times it is.