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    xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,084
    jojo wrote:
    very true



    most of us are to some extent knowing your self is far more important than any lil fault

    we are all human

    well said.

    and at some point there will be someone who makes those small insecurities go away with some type of action such as a soothing word or some encouragement.
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    Chicago 2007
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    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
    can do. I don't go and say,
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    well said.

    and at some point there will be someone who makes those small insecurities go away with some type of action such as a soothing word or some encouragement.

    Which is where good friends come in handy! :)
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,084
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Which is where good friends come in handy! :)

    good thing i'm in the 10 club then. :)
    Reading 2004
    Albany 2006 Camden 2006 E. Rutherford 2, 2006 Inglewood 2006,
    Chicago 2007
    Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
    Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
    Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
    Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
    Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
    Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
    Fenway 2, 2018
    MSG 2022
    St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
    "I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
    can do. I don't go and say,
    "I'm gonna beat this guy up."
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    good thing i'm in the 10 club then. :)

    Yup! You're a great guy!! We need to find you a great girl!!!!! :D
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,084
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Yup! You're a great guy!! We need to find you a great girl!!!!! :D

    thanks. the last girl i thought had an interest in me, claimed to like pearl jam even said she had "Evenflow" on her ringtone, but she went in a different direction.
    Reading 2004
    Albany 2006 Camden 2006 E. Rutherford 2, 2006 Inglewood 2006,
    Chicago 2007
    Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
    Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
    Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
    Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
    Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
    Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
    Fenway 2, 2018
    MSG 2022
    St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
    "I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
    can do. I don't go and say,
    "I'm gonna beat this guy up."
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    thanks. the last girl i thought had an interest in me, claimed to like pearl jam even said she had "Evenflow" on her ringtone, but she went in a different direction.

    She was a Creed fan, huh?! ;)
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,084
    AmentsChick wrote:
    She was a Creed fan, huh?! ;)

    no, i think she was a bong fan. which i should have realized when cypress hill's
    "another hit from the bong" was her myspace song..
    Reading 2004
    Albany 2006 Camden 2006 E. Rutherford 2, 2006 Inglewood 2006,
    Chicago 2007
    Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
    Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
    Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
    Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
    Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
    Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
    Fenway 2, 2018
    MSG 2022
    St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
    "I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
    can do. I don't go and say,
    "I'm gonna beat this guy up."
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    South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,708
    AmentsChick wrote:
    She was a Creed fan, huh?! ;)

    The ring tone was actually "Photograph" by Nickelback

    I feel sorry for the X-man ;)
    NERDS!
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    no, i think she was a bong fan. which i should have realized when cypress hill's
    "another hit from the bong" was her myspace song..

    That would turn me off immediately
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,708
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    no, i think she was a bong fan. which i should have realized when cypress hill's
    "another hit from the bong" was her myspace song..

    That song was very popular in my summer after I got out of high school :)
    NERDS!
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    South of Seattle wrote:
    That song was very popular in my summer after I got out of high school :)

    Yeah...but you live in Portland! ;)
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,084
    South of Seattle wrote:
    That song was very popular in my summer after I got out of high school :)


    what is that like 1993, 1994? i actually like the song, it's got a cool sample.
    Reading 2004
    Albany 2006 Camden 2006 E. Rutherford 2, 2006 Inglewood 2006,
    Chicago 2007
    Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
    Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
    Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
    Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
    Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
    Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
    Fenway 2, 2018
    MSG 2022
    St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
    "I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
    can do. I don't go and say,
    "I'm gonna beat this guy up."
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    South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,708
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    what is that like 1993, 1994? i actually like the song, it's got a cool sample.

    Summer of 93' a couple of months before my 1st PJ experience.
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Yeah...but you live in Portland! ;)

    hehe :)

    Yeah it is pretty much legal aspirin here. Sometimes I feel like we are not part of the US sometimes. :D
    NERDS!
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    xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,084
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Summer of 93' a couple of months before my 1st PJ experience.



    hehe :)

    Yeah it is pretty much legal aspirin here. Sometimes I feel like we are not part of the US sometimes. :D

    1993 was a good year for music and sports in new york, made ninth grade somewhat tolerable.
    Reading 2004
    Albany 2006 Camden 2006 E. Rutherford 2, 2006 Inglewood 2006,
    Chicago 2007
    Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
    Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
    Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
    Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
    Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
    Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
    Fenway 2, 2018
    MSG 2022
    St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
    "I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
    can do. I don't go and say,
    "I'm gonna beat this guy up."
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    South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,708
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    1993 was a good year for music and sports in new york, made ninth grade somewhat tolerable.

    Yes it was. One of the funnest music years ever for me really. Well 94 was good too.


    Oh yeah, Dating Sucks. It's always good to find a pit girl/or guy. Whatever floats your boat.
    NERDS!
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    xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,084
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Yes it was. One of the funnest music years ever for me really. Well 94 was good too.


    Oh yeah, Dating Sucks. It's always good to find a pit girl/or guy. Whatever floats your boat.

    91-94 was a really good era musically but that's for another thread. finding someone who appreciates that era of music is rare these days.
    Reading 2004
    Albany 2006 Camden 2006 E. Rutherford 2, 2006 Inglewood 2006,
    Chicago 2007
    Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
    Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
    Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
    Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
    Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
    Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
    Fenway 2, 2018
    MSG 2022
    St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
    "I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
    can do. I don't go and say,
    "I'm gonna beat this guy up."
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    aNiMaLaNiMaL Posts: 7,118
    Solat13 wrote:
    Personally, I think most people can handle the concerts, the poster collections, all the cds and boots and vinyls, but I think explaining the message pit might be a bit much for most people. ;)
    Agreed!!! Everything except the Pit I can explain without sounding like a total freak...
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    Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Solat13 wrote:
    That may be the case, but I'm sure that person had something they're really into. And if they don't it's their loss. It's good to be passionate about something whether it be that special someone, a band, a team, etc.

    And if someone doesn't understand that, they're not the right person.
    great post :) with me it usually comes up within an hour :o but it's not my fault... either they ask what music I'm into or we get talking about travelling and they ask who I went to all those places with or why copenhagen or whatever. I just answer but I do keep it to a minimum. It's not that I'm afraid to freak them out because if they're freaked out because I'm passionate about something, that's just stupid... but I want them to realise I'm capable of talking about other stuff too :)

    Now on to read the rest of the thread :o I'm sure it's all been resolved by now anyway :o
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
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    Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Ok...I met one bad apple...but the rest I've known are the best guys in the world...and I mean it!!!!!!!
    sorry it didn't go so well :o

    At least you got your ONE bad date out of the way... next guy's gonna be a keeper :) or you may be like me and go through 7 or 8 before finding him but if that's what ya gotta do :o:)
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
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    Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    AmentsChick wrote:
    I've also heard "You have to put yourself out there...". I don't know what to believe anymore.
    You have to do whatever the fuck you want :) seriously... if you're in the mood to 'put yourself out there' this week, do it... if you're in the mood next week to let 'fate' take over, do it. Just don't let any of it rule your life and HAVE FUN :) Laugh at the bad dates cos they are funny to look back on :o
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
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    Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    vital5 wrote:
    oh please :p everyone is hot to someone ;) You just don't love yourself? :) heh
    chick, he has a great point here... so soooooooo true!
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
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    PoncierPoncier Posts: 16,252
    AmentsChick wrote:
    He wasn't a very nice guy, it turns out. He didn't even walk me to my car.
    So he failed the male equivalent of the "Sonny test" (Bronx Tale reference), he isn't worth your time.
    This weekend we rock Portland
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    PoncierPoncier Posts: 16,252
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Dating sucks ass.
    Only on a real good night...wait you never go ass to mouth...;)
    This weekend we rock Portland
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    PoncierPoncier Posts: 16,252
    jojo wrote:

    but you know if lou or ponc or even cory weren't married maybe just maybe :p
    There's always the chance one of us gets divorced (my money's on Lou).
    This weekend we rock Portland
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    nfanelnfanel Posts: 2,558
    Poncier wrote:
    So he failed the male equivalent of the "Sonny test" (Bronx Tale reference), he isn't worth your time.
    you know, that stinking movie. now every time i reach over and open a guy's door (after he opens mine) i feel like he's going to think i'm only doing it because of that movie! the famous test!
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    PoncierPoncier Posts: 16,252
    nfanel wrote:
    you know, that stinking movie. now every time i reach over and open a guy's door (after he opens mine) i feel like he's going to think i'm only doing it because of that movie! the famous test!
    Of course nowadays most cars just have the remote to unlock the doors, so we need a new Sonny test. Cause if you are dating a guy where the Sonny test still applies, he needs a better job and newer car. ;)
    This weekend we rock Portland
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    nfanelnfanel Posts: 2,558
    Poncier wrote:
    Of course nowadays most cars just have the remote to unlock the doors, so we need a new Sonny test. Cause if you are dating a guy where the Sonny test still applies, he needs a better job and newer car. ;)
    well they can still come over and actually open the door. it's rare, but it happens! :)
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    Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    AmentsChick wrote:
    How and when is it appropriate to mention the "PJ obsession"?? Should it be brought up straight-away on the first date?...or as a friend offered "laid right out there". Or...as it is potentially "freaky" to some...should it be saved to be discussed after dating for awhile?

    I brought it up straight away with my last non-Ten Club member date... I didn't hear the end of it, caused great hilarity and he thought it was an excuse to take the piss.

    I wouldn't mention it just yet, maybe throw some hints in but don't say out and out:

    "oh btw... I'm completely obsessed with Pearl Jam... you know! the Seattle based grunge band, had a few famous songs in the 90's"
    *breaks into OHHH I AHH I'M STILL ALIVEEE!!!*
    "remember?! REMEMBER?!"
    *pants*
    "Eddie?! EDDIE VED-DER! KING JEREMY THE WICKED!!!!"
    *continues to pant and look psychotic*"

    As he gathers his belongings and runs for the nearest door....

    No, I wouldn't recommend that at all *shakes head*
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
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    dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    my wife isnt a ten-clubber.... i see no issue with this.. if you go on a date and talk about PJ all night then you've got a issue :)
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
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    Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    I brought it up straight away with my last non-Ten Club member date... I didn't hear the end of it, caused great hilarity and he thought it was an excuse to take the piss.

    I wouldn't mention it just yet, maybe throw some hints in but don't say out and out:

    "oh btw... I'm completely obsessed with Pearl Jam... you know! the Seattle based grunge band, had a few famous songs in the 90's"
    *breaks into OHHH I AHH I'M STILL ALIVEEE!!!*
    "remember?! REMEMBER?!"
    *pants*
    "Eddie?! EDDIE VED-DER! KING JEREMY THE WICKED!!!!"
    *continues to pant and look psychotic*"

    As he gathers his belongings and runs for the nearest door....

    No, I wouldn't recommend that at all *shakes head*

    :confused: why? What's wrong with that?
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
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