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Dating a Non-Ten Clubber

AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
edited December 2007 in All Encompassing Trip
How and when is it appropriate to mention the "PJ obsession"?? Should it be brought up straight-away on the first date?...or as a friend offered "laid right out there". Or...as it is potentially "freaky" to some...should it be saved to be discussed after dating for awhile?
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    justamjustam Posts: 21,395
    Wait until the person knows and loves you! :)
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    Drop The Leash 10Drop The Leash 10 Posts: 7,011
    bring it up whenever you want. hes gonna find out sooner or later.........fuck u snow plow!...............thankfully my friend thats gonna be my girlfriend thinks my obsession is awesome. dont fret. if he cant take you for who you are then he is not worth your time.
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    Once I get out of this town


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    chiquimonkeychiquimonkey Posts: 9,337
    justam wrote:
    Wait until the person knows and loves you! :)
    that's what i was about to say. by that point they've fallen hard and resistance will be futile. at least that's what i did lol :D
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    drtyfrnk29drtyfrnk29 Posts: 846
    I eased the wife into it. However Mer, explaining the Jeff Ament "real doll" is going to require some delicacy. :D
    I'm so dangerous I smoke dynamite.

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    dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    dating is over-rated.. only archaeologists should do 'dating'
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    drtyfrnk29 wrote:
    I eased the wife into it. However Mer, explaining the Jeff Ament "real doll" is going to require some delicacy. :D

    Hmm...Well...considering it bring it everywhere with me...that might be a challenge.

    P.S. Did I mention I'm supposed to be meeting this person in 30 minutes and I'm not even dressed yet?! Yeah, I'm stalling..
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    SpunkieSpunkie I come from downtown. Posts: 5,643
    I would recommend not freaking the other out and keep it zipped.
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    Solat13Solat13 Philadelphia Posts: 6,996
    Like anything else, wait to you're comfortable with that person. I mean telling someone you have a pearl jam obsession is not a bad thing. It may not be their cup of tea, but if they like you enough they'll either accept it or even cooler try to share in it.
    - Busted down the pretext
    - 8/28/98
    - 9/2/00
    - 4/28/03, 5/3/03, 7/3/03, 7/5/03, 7/6/03, 7/9/03, 7/11/03, 7/12/03, 7/14/03
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    - 5/12/06, 5/13/06, 5/27/06, 5/28/06, 5/30/06, 6/1/06, 6/3/06, 6/23/06, 7/22/06, 7/23/06, 12/2/06, 12/9/06
    - 8/2/07, 8/5/07
    - 6/19/08, 6/20/08, 6/22/08, 6/24/08, 6/25/08, 6/27/08, 6/28/08, 6/30/08, 7/1/08
    - 8/23/09, 8/24/09, 9/21/09, 9/22/09, 10/27/09, 10/28/09, 10/30/09, 10/31/09
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    harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    I'm not gping to give any woman the time of day who doesn't like my PJ obsession.. PJ is first
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    as long as they don't like nickelback or creed, it'll be all right..
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    drtyfrnk29drtyfrnk29 Posts: 846
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Hmm...Well...considering it bring it everywhere with me...that might be a challenge.

    P.S. Did I mention I'm supposed to be meeting this person in 30 minutes and I'm not even dressed yet?! Yeah, I'm stalling..
    AC: Oh hey Brian, sorry I was late. Jeff wasn't ready.
    Brian: Why is Jeff made of rubber? And why does he have lipstick all over his neck and crotch?
    I'm so dangerous I smoke dynamite.

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    nfanelnfanel Posts: 2,558
    AmentsChick wrote:
    How and when is it appropriate to mention the "PJ obsession"?? Should it be brought up straight-away on the first date?...or as a friend offered "laid right out there". Or...as it is potentially "freaky" to some...should it be saved to be discussed after dating for awhile?
    :D

    love this thread...haha.
    yeah, i think it depends on the situation. normally i like to hold off on explaining the EXTENT of my obsession. i should clarify that on the first date i "laid right out there" that i had been to a ridiculous amount of concerts. date three he saw my apartment and said "oh, you have pearl jam art?" (as my walls are decorated in poster). if he calls again i may get into the whole message board thing and take the pj coasters out of hiding. :p
    i think the trick is to geeeently ease into it....haha.
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    drtyfrnk29 wrote:
    AC: Oh hey Brian, sorry I was late. Jeff wasn't ready.
    Brian: Why is Jeff made of rubber? And why does he have lipstick all over his neck and crotch?

    That's fricken hot!! :D

    And...who knows...if everything goes smoothly, you might be meeting D on Saturday!! :D
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    SpunkieSpunkie I come from downtown. Posts: 5,643
    Good luck, AmentsChick. Stay safe.
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    Solat13Solat13 Philadelphia Posts: 6,996
    nfanel wrote:
    :D

    love this thread...haha.
    yeah, i think it depends on the situation. normally i like to hold off on explaining the EXTENT of my obsession. i should clarify that on the first date i "laid right out there" that i had been to a ridiculous amount of concerts. date three he saw my apartment and said "oh, you have pearl jam art?" (as my walls are decorated in poster). if he calls again i may get into the whole message board thing and take the pj coasters out of hiding. :p
    i think the trick is to geeeently ease into it....haha.

    Personally, I think most people can handle the concerts, the poster collections, all the cds and boots and vinyls, but I think explaining the message pit might be a bit much for most people. ;)
    - Busted down the pretext
    - 8/28/98
    - 9/2/00
    - 4/28/03, 5/3/03, 7/3/03, 7/5/03, 7/6/03, 7/9/03, 7/11/03, 7/12/03, 7/14/03
    - 9/28/04, 9/29/04, 10/1/04, 10/2/04
    - 9/11/05, 9/12/05, 9/13/05, 9/30/05, 10/1/05, 10/3/05
    - 5/12/06, 5/13/06, 5/27/06, 5/28/06, 5/30/06, 6/1/06, 6/3/06, 6/23/06, 7/22/06, 7/23/06, 12/2/06, 12/9/06
    - 8/2/07, 8/5/07
    - 6/19/08, 6/20/08, 6/22/08, 6/24/08, 6/25/08, 6/27/08, 6/28/08, 6/30/08, 7/1/08
    - 8/23/09, 8/24/09, 9/21/09, 9/22/09, 10/27/09, 10/28/09, 10/30/09, 10/31/09
    - 5/15/10, 5/17/10, 5/18/10, 5/20/10, 5/21/10, 10/23/10, 10/24/10
    - 9/11/11, 9/12/11
    - 10/18/13, 10/21/13, 10/22/13, 11/30/13, 12/4/13
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    Yeah, the last non-10clubber I dated said these exact words to me, "Well, I knew you were into Pearl Jam...but didn't realize to what degree". NIGHTMARE. And...yeah, I'm stalling...
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    Solat13Solat13 Philadelphia Posts: 6,996
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Yeah, the last non-10clubber I dated said these exact words to me, "Well, I knew you were into Pearl Jam...but didn't realize to what degree". NIGHTMARE. And...yeah, I'm stalling...

    That may be the case, but I'm sure that person had something they're really into. And if they don't it's their loss. It's good to be passionate about something whether it be that special someone, a band, a team, etc.

    And if someone doesn't understand that, they're not the right person.
    - Busted down the pretext
    - 8/28/98
    - 9/2/00
    - 4/28/03, 5/3/03, 7/3/03, 7/5/03, 7/6/03, 7/9/03, 7/11/03, 7/12/03, 7/14/03
    - 9/28/04, 9/29/04, 10/1/04, 10/2/04
    - 9/11/05, 9/12/05, 9/13/05, 9/30/05, 10/1/05, 10/3/05
    - 5/12/06, 5/13/06, 5/27/06, 5/28/06, 5/30/06, 6/1/06, 6/3/06, 6/23/06, 7/22/06, 7/23/06, 12/2/06, 12/9/06
    - 8/2/07, 8/5/07
    - 6/19/08, 6/20/08, 6/22/08, 6/24/08, 6/25/08, 6/27/08, 6/28/08, 6/30/08, 7/1/08
    - 8/23/09, 8/24/09, 9/21/09, 9/22/09, 10/27/09, 10/28/09, 10/30/09, 10/31/09
    - 5/15/10, 5/17/10, 5/18/10, 5/20/10, 5/21/10, 10/23/10, 10/24/10
    - 9/11/11, 9/12/11
    - 10/18/13, 10/21/13, 10/22/13, 11/30/13, 12/4/13
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    AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    Solat13 wrote:
    That may be the case, but I'm sure that person had something they're really into. And if they don't it's their loss. It's good to be passionate about something whether it be that special someone, a band, a team, etc.

    And if someone doesn't understand that, they're not the right person.


    Liquor...that's what that guy was really into.

    Anyways...I need to put the finishing touches on. Bye people! I love you!
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

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    vital5vital5 Posts: 5,486
    dunkman wrote:
    dating is over-rated.. only archaeologists should do 'dating'
    I thought dating was reserved to Proctologists? :eek: and again.... :eek:
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    Drop The Leash 10Drop The Leash 10 Posts: 7,011
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Liquor...that's what that guy was really into.

    Anyways...I need to put the finishing touches on. Bye people! I love you!
    Good luck!
    I will be what i could be
    Once I get out of this town


    9/29/04;6/27/08;6/30/08;8/23/09;08/24/09;5/17/10
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    vital5vital5 Posts: 5,486
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Yeah, the last non-10clubber I dated said these exact words to me, "Well, I knew you were into Pearl Jam...but didn't realize to what degree". NIGHTMARE. And...yeah, I'm stalling...
    Keep it under your belt... along with the fact that you're a psychopathic axe weilding murderer ;)
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    BinFrogBinFrog MA Posts: 7,292
    I think I laid that card on the table on the first date, and 9 months later we're still together.
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    Urban HikerUrban Hiker Posts: 1,312
    I think you need to get it right out there. Who knows, maybe they too are a 10C member. I think you need to know if they have a lower number, it might make them worth dating at least through the next tour year. ;)
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    corycory Posts: 736
    I turned my wife against The Jam. I was heart broken when she told me this. I almost round house kicked her in the neck. Instead, I threw in Vitalogy and popped 4 hydrocodones.
    Revive the heart of the heartless...

    Why would you start was has no end?
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    colorsblendcolorsblend Posts: 173
    AmentsChick wrote:
    P.S. Did I mention I'm supposed to be meeting this person in 30 minutes and I'm not even dressed yet?! Yeah, I'm stalling..

    Good luck on the date!

    I say if music comes up, mention you like PJ. The whole "obsession" thing.... wait a few dates and see how it goes with him. Like other posters said, there has to be something he's very passionate about.
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    The ChampThe Champ Posts: 4,063
    tish wrote:
    Good luck, AmentsChick. Stay safe.

    And remember 'Amentschick,' don't invite the fucker over to watch movies alone unless you're willing to canoodle on the couch..
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
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    corycory Posts: 736
    The Champ wrote:
    And remember 'Amentschick,' don't invite the fucker over to watch movies alone unless you're willing to canoodle on the couch..


    Haha....and don't dress like a French whore. I also wouldn't leave crotchless panties laying in the floor.
    Revive the heart of the heartless...

    Why would you start was has no end?
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    The ChampThe Champ Posts: 4,063
    cory wrote:
    Haha....and don't dress like a French whore. I also wouldn't leave crotchless panties laying in the floor.

    I hope 'tish' is taking notes ;)..
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
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    corycory Posts: 736
    The Champ wrote:
    I hope 'tish' is taking notes ;)..

    I will not speak bad of anyone.

    I will not speak bad of anyone.

    I will not speak bad of anyone.

    ;)
    Revive the heart of the heartless...

    Why would you start was has no end?
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    The ChampThe Champ Posts: 4,063
    cory wrote:
    I will not speak bad of anyone.

    I will not speak bad of anyone.

    I will not speak bad of anyone.

    ;)

    It's kinda like a public service announcement regarding how to keep safe while practicing proper dating etiquette....
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
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