Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
thebetterman
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So the other day I got an email from an ex-girlfriend of two years (the relationship ended 2.5 years ago?) saying that she was sorry for lying to me about cheating on me and that she was still not over that fact she lied just to hurt me. Whats weird is that I have also heard her call me a pansy, cry baby and that i was a prick to her. And she did this all in a way she knew I would hear it and this was all in the last few weeks. She has been bringing up memories about when we were together. Last time she did this was when I started dating my current girlfriend and boy did she go insane, and when i say that i mean really insane.
So anyone got any good psycho ex stories!
So anyone got any good psycho ex stories!
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yeah, I got one. my ex, who I was with for two years, actually did cheat on me, lie to me, and treat me like shit. took advantage of me in every way shape or form, and then expected me to stand there by his side while he decided to waste his life away. I learned what I did wrong in my past relationship after this relationship ended, and I truly felt bad for what I had done in the past. Lies hurt so much, more than anything in the world. I learned my lesson, and I still feel bad for my past actions. That is all.
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I feel bad for my past actions too, too many times I put up with shit I wished I didn't. I've definitely learned from the past too, never allow yourself to be used. I propose that you never forgive this kid, he sounds like the same douche I went out with, a dirty little stay out.
yeah, she sounds like a bitch to me. she deserves nothing but the worst in her life. maybe that is exactly what she is getting, maybe she has already learned her lesson, maybe she changed and meant her apology. hard to say when you have no idea what is going on in that persons life. if i can forgive someone for physically assaulting me, then, yeah.
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An apology two years later is like lite beer, its a waste of everyone's time. And besides, its not like she did it for the right reasons, she wanted to make herself feel better. Its funny that the apology was not for anything but the lying about cheating, which she just went through... not the other stuff I had to put up with for so long while we were together, and still afterwards.
If you can forgive physical assault, i'm impressed. I can forgive most people for most things, but she was a slap in the face too many times
Unless you want to elaborate on her actions of "insanity", then it's tough for me to make a call.
It sounds like she is just really lonely and confused. You might try responding to her e-mail with how you're genuinely concerned for her mental health, that you honestly cannot see the two of you getting back together no matter what happens, and that you would feel more comfortable if she moved on with her life.
If anything, all of the negativity that she is displaying amongst your social group is an attempt on her part to create drama between the two of you, which would then fulfill her fantasy of being "involved" with you again.
For example, if you were to respond with, "Why are you talking shit about me, bitch?", she would think, "Awwe, he really does care what I think of him."
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when i started dating my current boyfriend i thought his ex was going to show up to our work and start something with me. Which would have really sucked because we were hiding our relationship from our friends at work not knowing how our manager would take it. Thank god she didn't show up, and i think the only reason she did not was because she went to school in another state.
What if she just genuinely wanted to apologize though, nothing else. Just to move on with her life, people do that, right? I've had a friend do that to me before, and well, although I am still not their friend, at least they themselves are in a better place, emotionally.
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I agree, sometimes it takes people a long time to realize what they did and the effects their actions had on people. But don't you think they should be apologizing for the other person and not themselves?
STORY 1:
I was seeing this girl for a few months, but things just weren't working out. We talked about it and she asked if we could stay friends. I don't normally do the friends thing after dating, but I agreed to it because I didn't have any real feelings for her. We got together the following weekend and had a good day together.
At the time, I had mentioned to her how I was planning to head over to London (UK) for New Years, as I didn't want to stay around Toronto. A few days after we got together, I got a 2.5 page e-mail from her. The first 2/3 of the e-mail was her going on like "I have something to ask, but I don't know how." "This has been on my mind for a while and it has to be asked". Finally she got to the point. She wanted me to stay in Toronto and spend New Years with her. Obviously, this was a request from someone who's more than a friend.
I called her to talk about it and she completely flipped out on the phone. She started going on about how I was irresponsible as I should have stopped traveling for work (at the time, I was traveling no more than 2 days a week) the moment we started seeing each other, so we could spend as much time as possible together. Her rant went on for nearly 10 minutes, at which time we ended the call and both agreed it was over.
Well ... it wasn't over. Two weeks later, I'm at home and there's knocking at my door. I open it and it's her. She wants me to attend a work party with her and try the relationship again ... but I must agree to change my work schedule to suit her. LOL Ya, like that was going to happen. Well that turned in to a massive fight, as she didn't want to leave.
A few days later, I'm at work and get a call from my building security guard saying I have a guest. I tell him I'm not expecting anyone. He asks this 'guest' their name and she says 'Jennifer'. I tell him I'm not expecting anyone named Jennifer and asked him to describe her. It was her. I told him not to let her in. She repeated this at least 6 more times over a 2 month period. Eventually, she stopped.
That all happened about 3 years ago. Last October (2007), I was living in Boston but came to Toronto for a week. Not even 5 minutes after I left the airport, my cell phone rang and her number was on the display! I didn't pick up and she didn't leave a message. She called multiple times that week, but I refused to pick up each time. Personally, I was a little freaked out that she knew I was in Toronto that weekend. I can only guess that she knew it because of my blog, but I started my blog after we broke up so I'm not sure how she would have found it.
Now I'm back living in Toronto, but I haven't heard from her. Hopefully it'll stay that way! Being stalked sucks!
STORY 2:
I won't go in to extreme detail on this one, because it's recent and I'm still pretty hurt about the whole thing. It started with her expecting me to be okay with her continuing to be in a non-intimate relationship with her ex. Then I was continually lied to, being told that things were over between her and her ex when they really weren't. We broke up and got back together months later, when her ex was apparently out of the picture. That didn't last too long, as I discovered I was just being used and she had no intention of having a serious relationship together, even though that was specifically discussed before we got back together. Her ex even came back in to the picture during this time.
ugh ... I can't go on talking about this, as it's getting me too upset. The only reason I am posting is because reading other people's experiences makes me feel better as I know I'm not alone in this. Maybe my stories will help someone in the same way.
I have to agree here. Sometimes people need to do the right thing just to move on, perhaps that's all she wants. Email her back "appreciate the apology, hope life treats you well" then move on with your life (just as you have been). If she doesn't, that's her problem. Just delete emails from her from here on out.
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OMG!!!! That's a WONDERFUL question! I think it's about having people around them who they know have some level of feelings which are more than just an average friend. They fall back on that when they feel they're missing that in their lives.
I got the 3rd degree from an ex when I refused to have any contact when we broke up. I just can't simply be 'friends' with someone I have strong feelings about.
I have never been friends with any of my ex's, but I have made a HUGE mistake of pretty much revolving my entire life around them and barely leaving myself for friends. I have learned not to do that anymore, and now, thankfully, I am not a complete loser. haha. And yeah, I think it is the feeling of comfort that girls like, but I'm not a typical girl, I like the new and the "uncomfortable." Things have changed so much that I have gotten used to the feeling alone.
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To all the women out there, there is no such thing as being "Friends" with a guy, all they want to do is have sex with you. Its true, men have no desire to be friends with women, its just waiting their turn untill they are up next. Ask any guy, they will agree.
BUT, I think some women know this and use it to their advantage.......
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Yo Golden, Thanks for the effort. This really helped me out. I just came back home from breaking up with my girlfriend for doing shit like this. It's a terrible feeling but it's good to know that somewhere out there there's someone who can share the misery with you!
Be strong man!
Sorry to hear about your evening, but trust me when I say you did the right thing tonight. It really does hurt like hell, but life goes on and the pain lessens over time.
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Well ... my ex who wanted me to change my work schedule to conform to her needs probably sees me as the crazy one. Hell ... even the other ex I spoke about in my post has probably spun things in her head to make me at fault. Given that neither of them are in my life anymore, I don't really care what either of them (or any of my past girlfriends) think of me.
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wouldn't you fight for what you believe in? It like calling your passion something crazy. The thing is, with time, people move on with their lives, and better themselves. Healing takes time. My last relationship, I was over it half way through our two years together. Not even a month later after breaking up, I moved on. I couldn't be happier than where I am today. I sometimes have hope in humanity, it's truly wonderful to see someone change to better themselves. My best friend did so, and now, I couldn't be more proud of her.
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The one's that aren't crazy, usually are boring. So, good luck!
It really helps if you're crazy yourself.
It's nice to have those moments, isn't it? Most of the time, my faith in humanity is hanging by a thin thread.