How do you get over a broken heart?

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  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    catch22 wrote:
    i know for me, when you get your heart broke it's a big blow to the ego. when you think someone was your soulmate and you weren't "good enough" to keep them, it knocks your confidence a bit. so it helps to go out there and see that there are other people out there that will be interested in you. just don't rebound into another relationship. that doesn't work out quite so well.

    I couldn't have said it better myself.
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • An Animal
    An Animal Posts: 129
    Casual sex works ! What you doin' later? :D
    "I am ahead, I am advanced, I am the
    first man to buy all of Stones
    underpants" E.V. during DTE 7-9-03
  • Jeremy1012
    Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    Drink and time.

    That's just me though. Don't take it as advice, it's a fucking horrible method.
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    catch22 wrote:
    i also suggest casual sex. i can help on that count. but seriously, a few casual flings are good. i know for me, when you get your heart broke it's a big blow to the ego. when you think someone was your soulmate and you weren't "good enough" to keep them, it knocks your confidence a bit. so it helps to go out there and see that there are other people out there that will be interested in you. just don't rebound into another relationship. that doesn't work out quite so well.

    rebounding into another relationship doesn't work great. You do have to allow yourself time to be alone and heal. have a few flings, keep yourself busy but really, give yourself time alone to shed the mental baggage. Otherwise, you'll just bring it into your next relationship.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • stevieraveon
    stevieraveon Posts: 413
    The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
    Bob Loblaw's Law Blog: "Why should YOU go to jail for a crime someone else noticed?"
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    stevieraveon wrote:
    The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

    That doesn't always work. I'd become attached. I can't have casual sex.
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • catch22
    catch22 Posts: 1,081
    Whizbang wrote:
    rebounding into another relationship doesn't work great. You do have to allow yourself time to be alone and heal. have a few flings, keep yourself busy but really, give yourself time alone to shed the mental baggage. Otherwise, you'll just bring it into your next relationship.

    i'm a living example of this ;) nobody here wants to end up like me, hehe.
    and like that... he's gone.
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    catch22 wrote:
    i'm a living example of this ;) nobody here wants to end up like me, hehe.

    LOL...you're only a little bitter.
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • tylerpjtx
    tylerpjtx Posts: 201
    you can really let this be an advantage to you. you now have a whole lot more time on your hands to do all the things you want to do. i would suggest spending lots and lots of time with friends and being active and doing somethign new every weekend. its the best cure by far from my experience.
    all these burning battlefields are now behind us, life has brought us here together to remind us, that love will rise above it all and just keep growin, life keeps flowing and every moment starts right here with us
    -mason jennings
  • OffHeGoes29
    OffHeGoes29 Posts: 1,240
    No one can answer that but you.
    BRING BACK THE WHALE
  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    catch22 wrote:
    i'm a living example of this ;) nobody here wants to end up like me, hehe.

    well....it's not like you corner the market on having baggage. ;) everyone has it. Just a matter of whether you bring it to the table torn open and tender as opposed to packed away in the closet as part of your experiences in relationships.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • Ayedavanita
    Ayedavanita Posts: 1,443
    Thanks for all the advice everyone!
    It's been months and I thought It would be better by now.
    I'm hangin' in there though!
    "You think I got my eyes closed but I'm lookin' at you the whole fuckin' time..."
  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    Ayedavanita wrote:
    Thanks for all the advice everyone!
    It's been months and I thought It would be better by now.
    I'm hangin' in there though!
    You either let it squish you or
    pick yourself up and try, try, again...

    you will find happiness within yourself and then you find the happiness on the outside...
  • Ayedavanita
    Ayedavanita Posts: 1,443
    dunkman wrote:
    phone a hitman

    Nah, I can take care of that on my own. Although I think it would look more like the scene from Resevoir Dogs....lots of suffering! lol
    "You think I got my eyes closed but I'm lookin' at you the whole fuckin' time..."
  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    Ayedavanita wrote:
    Nah, I can take care of that on my own. Although I think it would look more like the scene from Resevoir Dogs....lots of suffering! lol

    I have had the chance to kill the ex "legallly" on more than one occasion... I could have done it but Id rather just let him sit and rot on this earth in in his own pain!
  • Ayedavanita
    Ayedavanita Posts: 1,443
    KosmicJelli wrote:
    I have had the chance to kill the ex "legallly" on more than one occasion... I could have done it but Id rather just let him sit and rot on this earth in in his own pain!

    Watching them squirm and suffer is much more fun!
    "You think I got my eyes closed but I'm lookin' at you the whole fuckin' time..."
  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    Ayedavanita wrote:
    Watching them squirm and suffer is much more fun!

    I couldn't agree more.. :D
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!

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