kids told: ""Do Not Marry a Muslim Man."

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edited February 2007 in A Moving Train
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,253824,00.html?koranftw

By Liza Porteus



The father of a North Carolina ninth grader who was given "anti-Muslim" literature in class says the material handed out is not an issue of free speech, but of slander and defamation.

"First of all, it slanders, things like, Mohammed is a 'criminal,' is 'demon possessed' ... that just made my blood boil," said Triaq Butte, whose daughter, Saira, participated in a ninth grade orientation seminar at Enloe High School in Wake County, N.C., where the material was distributed.

Butte is a non-practicing Muslim; he said his wife is Christian and his children are taught to accept and respect all religions.

"So for a person like me to feel like that — I've never been to a mosque — to feel like that … for me to feel such hideous attacks, they were not just pointing out failures or weaknesses in Islam or Muslims, they were just attacking."


A representative from the Kamil International Ministries Organization, a Christian group based in Raleigh, was invited by a teacher to come and speak to the class. He handed out literature that compared the teachings of Jesus with accusations against the Prophet Muhammad.

Among the materials handed out was a pamphlet called "Jesus not Muhammad," as well as one entitled, "Do Not Marry a Muslim Man." The latter pamphlet compares parts of the Koran with those of the Bible, such as:



— "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself for her." (The Holy Bible, Ephesians 5:25)

It warns women not to be lured into marrying a Muslim, even for his "dark good looks, education, financial means, and the interest he shows in you."

"You may be excited that you found the 'tall, dark, and handsome man' you have been looking for. His sweet words and attention may blind you regarding the power, importance, and influence of his culture and Islamic faith," the pamphlet says. "Because in the United States, we have freedom of religion, he may agree that you can remain a Christian and you may think there will be no problem with such a marriage. But do not be fooled and become a victim of his religion, Islam, which has very oppressive rules regarding women's status and rights. Such marriages will never be out of trouble."

Butte said he tried talking to the school principal and the teacher, but so far, has not received much of a response beyond "diversity of opinion" and "freedom of speech" reasoning.

"I pointed out to [the teacher] there's a limitation … to free speech," Butte said. "For example, you can't have the KKK come to the school distributing their literature."

Butte said the school's principal, Beth Cochran, told him, "we encourage the exchange of ideas and although what …[was] passed out was inappropriate, we welcome anyone from the Muslim community to come and talk to the students."

"In my view, I think they need to recognize that this is not just free speech and diversity of opinion, which I totally respect," Butt said. He continued: " have no problem with anyone talking about Islam and its weaknesses, and I'm prepared to do that myself — what I don't like about it — but to slander Islam is unacceptable."

The Council on American-Islamic Relations wrote to superintendent of the Wake County Public School System, asking for an apology to the students, disciplinary action against the teacher, a review of policies regarding what outside speakers are allowed to say in class, and more diversity training.

"It is unconscionable for a teacher at any public school to abuse his or her position of trust by forcing such hate-filled, inaccurate and intolerant materials on students," CAIR Legal Director Arsalan Iftikhar wrote in the letter.

"One can only imagine what a Muslim student in the class might have experienced and how students of other faiths will now regard their Muslim classmates."

CAIR spokesman Ibrahim Hooper told FOXNews.com on Thursday that the group had not received a formal response. Cochran, the school's principal, did not return calls for comment

At the very least, Hooper said, someone from the Muslim community should have been invited to come to school to give the Muslim perspective on the same day as the Kamil representative.

"At least that would have been something, but to just bring in this person, presented by an authority person like a teacher, 'here's someone who's going to teach you Islam' ...

"If he was going to stage a public forum and denounce Islam, that's fine," Hooper said. "[But] this was a captive audience with captive minds who were offered no rebuttal to this type of bigotry."

Kamil Solomon of the Kamil International Ministries Organization declined to be formally interviewed.

FOX News' Sharon Fain and Reid Plyler contributed to this report.
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  • KannKann Posts: 1,146
    That's an example of a crazy idea.
    Trying to exchange ideas in class on a religion is great, and salutary.
    Trying to give ideas to a class on a overly generalized group of people according to religion seems stupid, racist and incredibly intolerant.

    "It warns women not to be lured into marrying a Muslim, even for his "dark good looks, education, financial means, and the interest he shows in you."
    I'll stay speechless.
  • check out the groups website
    http://www.kimo4jesus.org/

    nothing but a racist front. Not very "christian" like is it, more KKK
  • what i'd like to know is what the fuck a public school was doing having a religious group like that come in the first place.

    leave it to FOX news to not even mention that this violates the separation between church and state.
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  • barakabaraka Posts: 1,268
    what i'd like to know is what the fuck a public school was doing having a religious group like that come in the first place.

    I thought the same thing after reading the article. I can see how this is going to end. A ping pong game between sterotyping muslims & christians.
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  • baraka wrote:
    I thought the same thing after reading the article. I can see how this is going to end. A ping pong game between sterotyping muslims & christians.

    this just reinforces my conception of america as two countries masquerading as one.
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  • barakabaraka Posts: 1,268
    this just reinforces my conception of america as two countries masquerading as one.

    interesting..can you elaborate?
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  • darkcrow wrote:
    — "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself for her." (The Holy Bible, Ephesians 5:25)

    And yet, in the same book: "I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee."--Genesis 3:16
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  • El_KabongEl_Kabong Posts: 4,141
    rigneyclan wrote:
    And yet, in the same book: "I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee."--Genesis 3:16


    this was always my favorite from the same book:
    http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=5&chapter=22&version=31&context=chapter
    Deuteronomy 22:28
    If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, 29 he shall pay the girl's father fifty shekels of silver. [c] He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.


    soooooo...if you rape a girl, as long as she wasn't supposed to be married your only punishment is marrying her and paying her did 50 bucks!?!?!?!?

    how nice of em...i know you were raped, dear, but you HAVE to marry him, oh and you can NEVER leave him!!!

    sickos!
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  • barakabaraka Posts: 1,268
    El_Kabong wrote:
    this was always my favorite from the same book:
    http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=5&chapter=22&version=31&context=chapter
    Deuteronomy 22:28
    If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, 29 he shall pay the girl's father fifty shekels of silver. [c] He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.


    soooooo...if you rape a girl, as long as she wasn't supposed to be married your only punishment is marrying her and paying her did 50 bucks!?!?!?!?

    how nice of em...i know you were raped, dear, but you HAVE to marry him, oh and you can NEVER leave him!!!

    sickos!

    yeah, old testament is pretty hard-core.
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  • baraka wrote:
    interesting..can you elaborate?

    well for one thing, my observation can be quantified if you look at the popular votes of the past two presidential elections. the country was almost split 50-50 for each candidate both times.

    then you have the fact that the media is increasingly partisan and sacrificing journalistic standards for sensationalism. people are increasingly getting their news from sources that make no pretenses of even-handedness, like blogs or 'indy media' for example.

    political discourse in america is so polarized, it's almost like the left and the right don't speak the same language. they each get their information from what amounts to propaganda, their only conception of each other is that the 'other' is so unequivocally wrong that the "true" explanation for how another person can be so wrong is that they are somehow fundamentally corrupt, be it morally, intellectually, spiritually, whatever. so there's no real intelligent public discourse in america anymore, unless it's between people who already agree with each other. and it's not hard to see how that just turns into people psyching each other up to hate the 'other' more.
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  • barakabaraka Posts: 1,268

    political discourse in america is so polarized, it's almost like the left and the right don't speak the same language. they each get their information from what amounts to propaganda, their only conception of each other is that the 'other' is so unequivocally wrong that the "true" explanation for how another person can be so wrong is that they are somehow fundamentally corrupt, be it morally, intellectually, spiritually, whatever. so there's no real intelligent public discourse in america anymore, unless it's between people who already agree with each other. and it's not hard to see how that just turns into people psyching each other up to hate the 'other' more.


    I understand what you are saying. It's rare to find intelligent discourse anymore. And sometimes those on each end of the political spectrum spew the same hate and intolerance. But, it's not all. The 'fringe' usually make a bigger stink, but I think you'd find that most of America tends to fall right in the middle when it comes to politics, for better or for worse. And really, with the exception of social issues, the republicans and democrats are not all that different. Clinton was a 'moderate' really. He wasn't overly liberal.
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  • The only thing I agree with is "dont marry a mulsim" and here is why...... my sister has been dating a muslim for 4 years now and about once a month he beats the shit out of her, last month he put her head into a wall. Her head went through the wall, and everytime he beats her he says "this is how we do it in my dads country"which is Pakistan. his brother is the same way and so is his father. They have no respect for women and they are control freaks. I dont mean "they" as in all muslims but I havent meet many who where not like that. My sister should have left him a long time ago, but evey time she says the same thing "It wasnt his fault" the tipikal thing a beaten women would say. Thats why I feel the way I do.
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  • I do know many muslims and do not know any who beat their women. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I don't think that it is fair to characterize muslims as women beaters. Violence against women does not discriminate much along religious lines. Christians, atheists and many others beat women as well.
  • darkcrowdarkcrow Posts: 1,102
    The only thing I agree with is "dont marry a mulsim" and here is why...... my sister has been dating a muslim for 4 years now and about once a month he beats the shit out of her, last month he put her head into a wall. Her head went through the wall, and everytime he beats her he says "this is how we do it in my dads country"which is Pakistan. his brother is the same way and so is his father. They have no respect for women and they are control freaks. I dont mean "they" as in all muslims but I havent meet many who where not like that. My sister should have left him a long time ago, but evey time she says the same thing "It wasnt his fault" the tipikal thing a beaten women would say. Thats why I feel the way I do.

    firstly i feel very sorry for your sister... i have a sister and i know that if her guy touched her i would make sure he would never be able to do it again...

    all that aside... men of all religions and done beat their women... i understand your feelings but i think it;d be wrong to use it as a "muslim men beat their women"... a lot of my muslim mates have been very resepectful their girlfriends.
  • darkcrow wrote:
    firstly i feel very sorry for your sister... i have a sister and i know that if her guy touched her i would make sure he would never be able to do it again...

    all that aside... men of all religions and done beat their women... i understand your feelings but i think it;d be wrong to use it as a "muslim men beat their women"... a lot of my muslim mates have been very resepectful their girlfriends.

    I know not all muslim men beat women and I know it happens with whites blacks and ect. Im just saying me personaly I have not meet many muslims were not controling. Im not saying I hate muslims or anything. As I was typing I started to get pissed off, but I dont mean to offend anybody. And I told him it better not happen again.
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  • PaperPlatesPaperPlates Posts: 1,745
    what i'd like to know is what the fuck a public school was doing having a religious group like that come in the first place.

    leave it to FOX news to not even mention that this violates the separation between church and state.


    http://enloehs.wcpss.net/info/enloeprofile.pdf


    not 100% sure, but I dont think separation of church and state applies to a non-public school.
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  • CommyCommy Posts: 4,984
    sourdough wrote:
    I do know many muslims and do not know any who beat their women. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I don't think that it is fair to characterize muslims as women beaters. Violence against women does not discriminate much along religious lines. Christians, atheists and many others beat women as well.

    you know, my neighbor is Muslim, and he married someone I have known my entire life. I know's he's hit her before, and he treats his daughter very badly. He is garbage, as far as human beings go.


    Having put that out there, he doesn't represent all Muslims. He's just an asshole. To tell kids in school that all Muslims are like this is misleading, and creating a dangerous stereotype.
  • AhnimusAhnimus Posts: 10,560
    I wouldn't marry a muslim. I wouldn't marry a christian, I wouldn't marry a jew and I wouldn't marry an atheist. I won't marry.

    Certainly, if I was going to "marry" someone it wouldn't be someone with a view of reality so different than mine. That goes for many atheists too.
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  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    I will not marry a muslim man . . . . nor any man for that matter :D
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  • AhnimusAhnimus Posts: 10,560
    I will not marry a muslim man . . . . nor any man for that matter :D

    That's what you say now, I bet one week in San Francisco would change that. :P
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  • bookmusebookmuse Posts: 277
    El_Kabong wrote:
    this was always my favorite from the same book:
    http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=5&chapter=22&version=31&context=chapter
    Deuteronomy 22:28
    If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, 29 he shall pay the girl's father fifty shekels of silver. [c] He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.


    soooooo...if you rape a girl, as long as she wasn't supposed to be married your only punishment is marrying her and paying her did 50 bucks!?!?!?!?

    how nice of em...i know you were raped, dear, but you HAVE to marry him, oh and you can NEVER leave him!!!

    sickos!

    This whole book can not be taken literally and as a woman I saw that I could not grasp the idea of taking things literally in this book at a young age of about 14 because it was degrading to women when it was being crammed down my throat by my parents. There are good lessons in this book but the basis for how to run your life...I'd rather trust what my heart and soul tells me

    edit -I responded before reading the rest of the replies. Basically any religion that treats a human as a lesser being regardless of sex, race- is evil in my book.
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  • AhnimusAhnimus Posts: 10,560
    bookmuse wrote:
    I'd rather trust what my heart and soul tells me

    :rolleyes:
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  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    Ahnimus wrote:
    That's what you say now, I bet one week in San Francisco would change that. :P

    Been to Frisco for a week. My sexuality did not change. :p
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  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    I can't forget this documentary I saw on this arab woman whose husband had cut out her eyes and her tongue and also cut off her nose because she had "dishonered" him in some form or another.

    Actually, the documentary actually wasn't really about her. It was about the wonders of plastic surgery or something to that effect. The doctors weren't able to fix her face, but they built her a life-like mask that she could wear so that her infant children wouldn't think she's a monster.

    The guy served 7 years in prison, so obviously his type of behavior is not condoned in the muslim world. I think he should've gotten the electric chair, but spousal abusers don't exactly serve a whole lot of time in the states either.

    But, the guy's defense is something that sticks out in my mind because I think it transcends all religions, societies, and cultures to some extent. He said, "I am a poor man, and when you're poor, your honor is all you have."

    And that reminded me of a statistic that I had read a few years back which said that poor people in the United States are more likely to be devoutly religious, while the more well-off portion of society is more likely to engage in "care-free" behaviors such as marijuana smoking and permiscuous sex.

    Religion is their sense of dignity that they hold onto in place of the indignity that they suffer as a result of their economic disparities. This face-mutilating muslim might've taken that to another extreme, but his message is not all that alien to other cultures.
  • thats is just insane, the school kids would have believed every word that was said and this group should have never being allowed in the schools. if people want to air such views in their homes or even in their churches that is fine, but certainly not in a school.
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  • TrauTrau Posts: 188
    I think it's naive to say that Islamic culture is not generally extremely oppressive for women.
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  • Christian white men don't have the best record with women either.


    For that matter, can anyone list any race or religion where the male has not abused the woman in some way?
  • chopitdownchopitdown Posts: 2,222
    El_Kabong wrote:
    this was always my favorite from the same book:
    http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=5&chapter=22&version=31&context=chapter
    Deuteronomy 22:28
    If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, 29 he shall pay the girl's father fifty shekels of silver. [c] He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.


    soooooo...if you rape a girl, as long as she wasn't supposed to be married your only punishment is marrying her and paying her did 50 bucks!?!?!?!?

    how nice of em...i know you were raped, dear, but you HAVE to marry him, oh and you can NEVER leave him!!!

    sickos!
    http://www.answering-islam.de/Main/Shamoun/ot_and_rape.htm
    http://www.studylight.org/com/mhc-com/view.cgi?book=de&chapter=022

    a little more background on the above. You seem to love quoting the rape verse w/o full context.
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  • TrauTrau Posts: 188
    Christian white men don't have the best record with women either.


    For that matter, can anyone list any race or religion where the male has not abused the woman in some way?

    If you want to simplify it to that degree and refuse to accept that Islamic oppression of women is quite unique in the world at this point in time, then be my guest.
    In the shadow of the light from a black sun
    Frigid statue standing icy blue and numb
    Where are the frost giants Ive begged for protection?
    I'm freezing

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  • fuckfuck Posts: 4,069
    Trau wrote:
    If you want to simplify it to that degree and refuse to accept that Islamic oppression of women is quite unique in the world at this point in time, then be my guest.

    can you explain one instance in islam that oppresses women?
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