Apologies

rebornFixer

Thanks for sharing that with us, Brian. I agree with what others have said. It takes a remarkable amount of courage and insight to admit to one's problems (and we ALL have problems). Please keep us posted.
You can also PM me if you need anything (encouragement, advice, someone to listen, etc.).

Good luck!

rebornFixer

And I agree ... You don't sound like a deadbeat dad.

even flow?

jlew24asu wrote:

I know everyone means well but is "good luck" the best thing to say to a gambling addict?

Better than saying, "the Jets with points".

Boom The Cat

Brian, when you are over with your gambling addiction (That we all know you are capable of overcoming) you will realise that telling the truth has lifted an un nessecary burden.

Having an addiction to anything is almost like lying to yourself, so if you can conquer lying, you can easily curb your gambling addiction.

Good luck, if you are ready to change, you will.

norm

Stay strong, Brian. With this apology you have taken a step toward being a better human being.

macgyver06

mammasan wrote:

I'm writing this thread for one simple reason and that is to apologize to everyone for being a fake. I have always posted on here about how much I love my kids and my wife and attempted to portray myself as some type of Ward Cleaver when in reality I am no better than a dead beat dad. For several years I have been in the grip of a gambling addiction and it has not been untill recently that I have come to terms with my addiction and sought help. I have been a huge fucking hypocrit because while I spoke of family and helping the less fortunate I was gambling my families money away. While I spoke ill of people who refuse to take responsibility for their own actions I was avoiding taking responsibility for my actions. I apologize for my lies and deceit.I will not be posting much because I have very little free time now. Between 2 jobs, Gamblers Annonymous meetings, marriage counceling, and one on one therapy what little free time I have is for my family. I will be back though as soon as I have progressed further along in my recovery.

Thank you,

Brian

i bet ya it all helps

Staceb10

Wow.. I applaud you for posting this and taking the steps to help you and your family. I can relate to the problems addictions, be it gambling or anything else, can create and its great you are stepping up and taking control. Take care of yourself and stay strong. Our thoughts are with you.

Stacy

moeaholic

macgyver06 wrote:

i bet ya it all helps

don't tempt him. lol, that's mean.

gambling sucks ass, man. i could never understand how someone could just keep betting on shit when they're losing more than winning. i went through a bookie once and lost. that's all it took for me. no more betting like that. i'll still do the boards and shit like that at work, but we're talking a couple bucks a square. anyway, hope it all turns out ok for you. takes guts to tell people you lied, even if it is just a message board. and even though i also don't think you owe anyone here an apology, i'll still accept it.

BeBe

Brian,
Your wife is lucky to have someone admit to their mistakes and to take control of them and change them. Wish everyone did just that.

Hugs to you my friend. Keep us posted.

Gary Carter

mammasan wrote:

I'm writing this thread for one simple reason and that is to apologize to everyone for being a fake. I have always posted on here about how much I love my kids and my wife and attempted to portray myself as some type of Ward Cleaver when in reality I am no better than a dead beat dad. For several years I have been in the grip of a gambling addiction and it has not been untill recently that I have come to terms with my addiction and sought help. I have been a huge fucking hypocrit because while I spoke of family and helping the less fortunate I was gambling my families money away. While I spoke ill of people who refuse to take responsibility for their own actions I was avoiding taking responsibility for my actions. I apologize for my lies and deceit.I will not be posting much because I have very little free time now. Between 2 jobs, Gamblers Annonymous meetings, marriage counceling, and one on one therapy what little free time I have is for my family. I will be back though as soon as I have progressed further along in my recovery.

Thank you,

Brian

wow dude,im so sorry to hear this.u were one of very few i respected on the MT,i still do.get better quickly, we will miss ya

Abookamongstthemany

I have been wondering where you've been. Your reasonable and intelligent posts have been sorely missed.

It was very bold of you to come here and post what you did. You are human just like all of us. No need to apologize because everyone of us here preaches a bit more than what we can live up to. I hope you and your family find some peace and healing in the near future.

Purple Hawk

mammasan wrote:

I'm writing this thread for one simple reason and that is to apologize to everyone for being a fake. I have always posted on here about how much I love my kids and my wife and attempted to portray myself as some type of Ward Cleaver when in reality I am no better than a dead beat dad. For several years I have been in the grip of a gambling addiction and it has not been untill recently that I have come to terms with my addiction and sought help. I have been a huge fucking hypocrit because while I spoke of family and helping the less fortunate I was gambling my families money away. While I spoke ill of people who refuse to take responsibility for their own actions I was avoiding taking responsibility for my actions. I apologize for my lies and deceit.I will not be posting much because I have very little free time now. Between 2 jobs, Gamblers Annonymous meetings, marriage counceling, and one on one therapy what little free time I have is for my family. I will be back though as soon as I have progressed further along in my recovery.

Thank you,

Brian

No need to feel guilt dude, everyone has it, and it all manifests. The fact that you generated this thread proves you're pretty fuckin cool....and that's good enough for me

UpSideDown

Stay strong.......

Follow the words in present tense

Meatwagon

A bit inspiring. Thanks for the strong example.......All Those Yesterdays:)

MrBrian

Well I think the fact that you are able to face your problems and not hide from them means that you are far from being a hypocrite.

So when you look at it, you not only do not need to apologise, we should be the ones who stands in awe of you.

Very few people are able to dust themselves off like you are doing, I think it's very cool.

hailhailkc

I'm very proud of you Brian.

It takes a lot of inner strength to confront the obstacles you're dealing with right now. If you ever need anything, just send me a PM. Nothing can ever strip you of the person you are on the inside. The addiction can't take the love you have for your family, nor does it make you any less of a person. We all struggle, and in dealing with the struggle you will eventually come out a better person on the other end. It will take time and patience, but you're a man of moral character that I know will make it through to a place of healing surrounded by those who love you.

You have my thoughts and prayers.

Your friend,
Shawn

pickupyourwill

mammasan wrote:

I have been a huge fucking hypocrit because while I spoke of family and helping the less fortunate I was gambling my families money away. While I spoke ill of people who refuse to take responsibility for their own actions I was avoiding taking responsibility for my actions. I apologize for my lies and deceit.I will not be posting much because I have very little free time now. Between 2 jobs, Gamblers Annonymous meetings, marriage counceling, and one on one therapy what little free time I have is for my family. I will be back though as soon as I have progressed further along in my recovery.

Thank you,

Brian

Congratulations on owning up to some of your faults. Don't be so hard on yourself either. I feel that we are all hypocrits in one way or another. Its hard to keep every aspect of your life in simple moderation---we all are, afterall, only human. nobody's perfect----yada yada yada and all that. Good luck with everything!

dunkman

I bet you $100 you'll beat this addiction



its ok, there are worst addictions... losing money doesnt mean you are a bad father.... its just money... The Beatles said it best when they sang "Eleanor Rigby, picks up the rice in the...." no wait... it wasnt that one.... eh... "'Cause I don't care too much for money, money can't buy me love"


its just money... you'll come through and be stronger as a result!

Rabbitrocks

dunkman1974 wrote:

its ok, there are worst addictions...

There's not a league table for addictions!!
I speak from experience, though not a gambler. The compulsive need is the same whatever the substance/thing.

Anyway... best wishes with your recovery Brian.

dunkman

Rabbitrocks wrote:

There's not a league table for addictions!!
I speak from experience, though not a gambler. The compulsive need is the same whatever the substance/thing.

Anyway... best wishes with your recovery Brian.

yeah but there is differing levels of emotional damage involved

i.e. Brian is addicted to gambling, which is bad enough as he is wasting money.... but at least he isnt addicted to heroin and is robbing his family of valuables to pay for his addiction and perhaps robbing his kids of having a dad in the future!!

its not a debilitating addiction such as drugs or alcohol... in my opinion gambling addiction is not as bad as these.