Help Needed - The Problem With Some Christians

magikev

I consider myself a Christian, but like many others, I'm not perfect. My roommate, who is also one of my best friends, is much more "hardcore" so speak with his Christianity. When we moved in together 6 months together, I was very upfront with him about everything. I have a girlfriend (who he know and likes, and makes him dinner very regularly when she is down - also a Christian) who I have dated for almost 4 years. We held off on having sex for the first 2 years, but then decided it was something that we wanted to do. We were each other's first, and have been very faithful. I try and lead my life well, and am considered by many who know be to be a giving and kind person. I had told him that I would be having sex with her (very irregularly as she is RARELY here - she has another year in college still).

Well, a couple days ago, my roommate called me outside (with my girlfriend here) and told me that he had to move out. He said that the fact that I have sex with my girlfriend bothered him, and that he needed to live with somebody avoiding a "sinful life." He added that he does not want this to come between our friendship at all. Personally, I think it's bullshit. I pay my portion of the rent for my room, and I feel that what I do behind closed doors is my life. I don't advocate having sex before marriage, and would never encourage him to do something that he did not want to do. I'm just very confused as to where to go with this. If anybody knows of any Bible verses that could help him see differently, please let me know. That is basically the only thing that he will listen to, and I really don't feel like finding a new roommate.

dunkman

"thou shall telleth thy roomie he is boring"
Dunk 9:14

Kann

magikev wrote:

I consider myself a Christian, but like many others, I'm not perfect. My roommate, who is also one of my best friends, is much more "hardcore" so speak with his Christianity. When we moved in together 6 months together, I was very upfront with him about everything. I have a girlfriend (who he know and likes, and makes him dinner very regularly when she is down - also a Christian) who I have dated for almost 4 years. We held off on having sex for the first 2 years, but then decided it was something that we wanted to do. We were each other's first, and have been very faithful. I try and lead my life well, and am considered by many who know be to be a giving and kind person. I had told him that I would be having sex with her (very irregularly as she is RARELY here - she has another year in college still).

Well, a couple days ago, my roommate called me outside (with my girlfriend here) and told me that he had to move out. He said that the fact that I have sex with my girlfriend bothered him, and that he needed to live with somebody avoiding a "sinful life." He added that he does not want this to come between our friendship at all. Personally, I think it's bullshit. I pay my portion of the rent for my room, and I feel that what I do behind closed doors is my life. I don't advocate having sex before marriage, and would never encourage him to do something that he did not want to do. I'm just very confused as to where to go with this. If anybody knows of any Bible verses that could help him see differently, please let me know. That is basically the only thing that he will listen to, and I really don't feel like finding a new roommate.

Someone should make a tv show out of this.
edit : sorry that may not have been helpful. Thing is you won't find anything in the bible that will help him see differently. The bible says living extraconjugal relations is wrong though it treats them as relations with no love between the partners. You could use that but stubborn christians generally tend to reply to that : "well marry her then". Really, you can't win. Good luck though.

OutOfBreath

Kann wrote:

Someone should make a tv show out of this.

They have. It's called "7th heaven"

Seriously though, that sounds like a bullshit reason to move out on you.

Peace
Dan

redsdisease

He has the right to move out if you're doing something that bothers him. He has no obligation to stay living with you if he feels uncomfortable.

darkcrow

he sounds quite lame and also quite a coward. no real solution to this i guess. maybe your girlfriend will move in? at least then you two can be "sinful" together

KosmicJelli

Ask him if he thinks that you should be hypocritical by keeping your mouth shut and pretending that nothing is happening? At least you were honest and he should have respect for that! You have to understand that the guy is standing up for his beliefs and you have to respect that also!

P.S. Find a new roomie...

South of Seattle

Get him drunk and have a 3-some?

KosmicJelli

South of Seattle wrote:

Get him drunk and have a 3-some?

lol... OMG you want his roomie to be forever in prayer so he doesnt burn in hell?

know1

He can move out if you're doing something that goes against his value system. I don't really blame him for that.

SweetHarmonics

magikev wrote:

If anybody knows of any Bible verses that could help him see differently, please let me know. That is basically the only thing that he will listen to

that seems a bit overboard and probably explains the crux of the issue, dude doesn't seem to be grounded in reality

KosmicJelli

must explain... what about the "Song of Solomon"... they werent married and look what they did behind closed doors

South of Seattle

Now we know who's voting for Huckabee

KosmicJelli

not me!!!!

ScotInAmsterdam

Have you considered the fact that your roomie maybe had a wee thing for you, and is feeling a wee bit left out?

KosmicJelli

ScotInAmsterdam wrote:

Have you considered the fact that your roomie maybe had a wee thing for you, and is feeling a wee bit left out?

What kind of "wee" things are we talking about???

ScotInAmsterdam

This could be several levels of wee thing. I don't know these guys, but sounds like the original poster moved up a stage with his girlfriend and his mate got pissed off and felt left out. He felt some sort of bond had been weakened.... extend that in anyway you want. I don't think it has anything to do with beliefs or christianity, I think it's a young guy who's feeling a wee bit lost cos his drinking/praying/football/music/whatever mate is spending more time with someone who can offer something he can't.

he still stands

He is enlightened enough to believe EVERYTHING in a book written 2000 years ago... but he doesn't have the selflessness / social conscious / kindness to think, "maybe I should be the one who moves out." This is what is wrong with Christianity. [some] Christians don't think for themselves or try to live in today's world with the understanding that its a much different place than when the bible was written (by a bunch of guys who never met Jesus). Everything is taken so damn literally and if you aren't living to their standards, you know they will fucking tell you about it. Somehow Christianity doesn't seem to resemble what I believe Jesus Christ truly stood for.

cornnifer

magikev wrote:

I consider myself a Christian, but like many others, I'm not perfect. My roommate, who is also one of my best friends, is much more "hardcore" so speak with his Christianity. When we moved in together 6 months together, I was very upfront with him about everything. I have a girlfriend (who he know and likes, and makes him dinner very regularly when she is down - also a Christian) who I have dated for almost 4 years. We held off on having sex for the first 2 years, but then decided it was something that we wanted to do. We were each other's first, and have been very faithful. I try and lead my life well, and am considered by many who know be to be a giving and kind person. I had told him that I would be having sex with her (very irregularly as she is RARELY here - she has another year in college still).

Well, a couple days ago, my roommate called me outside (with my girlfriend here) and told me that he had to move out. He said that the fact that I have sex with my girlfriend bothered him, and that he needed to live with somebody avoiding a "sinful life." He added that he does not want this to come between our friendship at all. Personally, I think it's bullshit. I pay my portion of the rent for my room, and I feel that what I do behind closed doors is my life. I don't advocate having sex before marriage, and would never encourage him to do something that he did not want to do. I'm just very confused as to where to go with this. If anybody knows of any Bible verses that could help him see differently, please let me know. That is basically the only thing that he will listen to, and I really don't feel like finding a new roommate.

Matthew chapter 7 is, sorrowfully, one many Christians seem to have forgotten. Sounds like your roommate needs to "remove the plank" from his own eye.

blackredyellow

South of Seattle wrote:

Now we know who's voting for Huckabee

Anyway, he has every right to move out if he doesn't agree with what you are doing... Of course if I had a roommate who was so judgmental about something that doesn't affect him, I'd probably consider moving out anyway.

Collin

There are places for guys like him, monasteries.

And I agree with you, it's bullshit. Hypocritical bullshit.

magikev wrote:

If anybody knows of any Bible verses that could help him see differently, please let me know. That is basically the only thing that he will listen to

Sounds like a really nice guy. Someone who doesn't give a fuck about what you have to say unless it's in the bible.

I'm sorry if I offend anyone here but I have a hard time understanding fundamentalists.