in Luke's case, the teachers punish him for the tiniest infraction. His mom...I don't know what she does or doesn't do. She has made comments like "boys will be boys" or "if he gets in trouble at school for not doing his homework, he will start to do it on his own." (um-isn't working) The father doesn't know what to do...he's made comments and has apologized for his son's behavior to my husband at baseball practice.
the kid can't even read at a first grade level and when I have complemented him for something, he looks at me like I've got 3 eyes.
After this incident at VT...I was talking to my sister today and she said something like "maybe you should go out of your way to be nice to him so if/when he goes off, he'll spare your son". How wacky is that and how far of a stretch is it?
My best friend is a school social worker and she always has stories about her 1st-5th graders. Really shocking stuff, too.
It always breaks my heart to hear about things like this. It happens all the time. Perhaps inviting this child to playdates and the like would be a help to him... sounds like he needs concerned people such as yourself involved in his life.
I feel for parents in that situation too, they also feel like an outcast, like the inept parent. The social clicks amoung parents was a bit of a surprise to me when I first started working with kids. Maybe thats just my area though.
It always breaks my heart to hear about things like this. It happens all the time. Perhaps inviting this child to playdates and the like would be a help to him... sounds like he needs concerned people such as yourself involved in his life.
I feel for parents in that situation too, they also feel like an outcast, like the inept parent. The social clicks amoung parents was a bit of a surprise to me when I first started working with kids. Maybe thats just my area though.
I've talked with my husband about inviting him over and I get scolded for thinking of the boy as a hurt puppy that I can fix. Plus, he doesn't want our son picking up bad habits. I would insert a rolleyes here but there is a grain of truth to it because our son is autistic and very easily influenced. I will definitely bring it up again, though. It's funny...our son can be very strange at times and he's treated much better than Luke by his peers. (at least now, in 1st grade)
It's not your area, the parent clicks are as common as they were in high school. I see your point about the mom feeling like an outcast....never thought about that before.
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It always breaks my heart to hear about things like this. It happens all the time. Perhaps inviting this child to playdates and the like would be a help to him... sounds like he needs concerned people such as yourself involved in his life.
I feel for parents in that situation too, they also feel like an outcast, like the inept parent. The social clicks amoung parents was a bit of a surprise to me when I first started working with kids. Maybe thats just my area though.
I've talked with my husband about inviting him over and I get scolded for thinking of the boy as a hurt puppy that I can fix.
It's not your area, the parent clicks are as common as they were in high school. I see your point about the mom feeling like an outcast....never thought about that before.