Need Female Advice

Rollin'Rock

My wife and I are expecting our second child on July 5th...I was planning on attending the DC show on June 22nd. She said it was ok for me to go, but its March and not June - her mind may change. I'm not sure if it's too close to the due date (our first kid came 10 days early)... DC is about a 2 hour drive, so I'd be gone about 12 hours...so do you think it's a good idea I go to the show??? Is it too close to the due date????

Just an update to the above question --- I made the right choice by not getting the tix. Baby was born the morning of the show!! Hope everyone had a good time at the show....set list looked great....see ya next tour!!

DriftingByTheStorm

Rollin'Rock wrote:

My wife and I are expecting our second child on July 5th...I was planning on attending the DC show on June 22nd. She said it was ok for me to go, but its March and not June - her mind may change. I'm not sure if it's too close to the due date (our first kid came 10 days early)... DC is about a 2 hour drive, so I'd be gone about 12 hours...so do you think it's a good idea I go to the show??? Is it too close to the due date????

Just bring her back some rocky road ice cream, some pickles, and a cheesestake?

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tough call man
tough call
:(

ladygooddiva

sweety nevermind but i would stay with your wife i think
but it is your choice...

CHANGEinWAVES

I think the question to be asking yourself is "do u really wanna be at a Pj show while your child is being born" I know the shows area awesome and all but this is your child! I'm sure your wife doesn't want to tell you not to go, she wants you to say you'd rather be with her when it comes down to it (which I'm sure you'd rather be).
For myself I'd say skip the DC show and maybe attend another that's not so close to the date. ( do you plan on going to many shows?)

Azera

Rollin'Rock wrote:

My wife and I are expecting our second child on July 5th...I was planning on attending the DC show on June 22nd. She said it was ok for me to go, but its March and not June - her mind may change. I'm not sure if it's too close to the due date (our first kid came 10 days early)... DC is about a 2 hour drive, so I'd be gone about 12 hours...so do you think it's a good idea I go to the show??? Is it too close to the due date????

My wife is due May 26th, number 3. I have been going to PJ shows since I saw them by ACCIDENT going to see the Chilli Peppers back in the day at Lolla, I've been hooked ever since. We just had the discussion yesterday, 2 shows( counting on a second night in Camden) is the limit this year. Dude don't push it, you'll regret it the rest of your life, but that is just the opinion of this Forty-Something guy.

demetrios

would say bring her with you to dc. get a hotel for the night or have her close by with friends/relatives outside the arena. have your cellphone on buzz or something at the show .. if anything happens.

or .. if there's like skybox seating at this place. would be a perfect place for the both of ya's to be together .. w/ pearl jam.

just some ideas. i'm not married or have kids. but this is what i would do.

Rollin'Rock

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

For myself I'd say skip the DC show and maybe attend another that's not so close to the date. ( do you plan on going to many shows?)

leaning towards not going - have seen them too many times to count....just haven't missed a tour since '95.....I'd love to have confirmation on more shows on east coast later in the fall

pjtradeking

Depends on your 10C # and if you have a taker for your extra ticket...hmmmm........Let me know that info, and I will give you the RIGHT answer on what to do here....:)

CHANGEinWAVES

Rollin'Rock wrote:

leaning towards not going - have seen them too many times to count....just haven't missed a tour since '95.....I'd love to have confirmation on more shows on east coast later in the fall

good luck with your decision, and I think having a child is an awesome excuse to miss a show!!

SoonForgotten2

Well, you know, it's not like it's your first kid, after all.

urbanhippie

Just my opinion, but stay with your wife dude...

It's only PJ

Clarice

Rollin'Rock wrote:

My wife and I are expecting our second child on July 5th...I was planning on attending the DC show on June 22nd. She said it was ok for me to go, but its March and not June - her mind may change. I'm not sure if it's too close to the due date (our first kid came 10 days early)... DC is about a 2 hour drive, so I'd be gone about 12 hours...so do you think it's a good idea I go to the show??? Is it too close to the due date????

Buy the ticket and wait...if will be ok, go, go and go..if not, you can sell the tickets and stay with your wife. You have two great options.

Good luck.

Anon

My wife was due this past Monday. We're still waiting on the little one - our first!

When the EV tix went on sale, I asked her if she'd be okay w/ me going to the Berkeley 4/7 show. I expected some hemming and hawing and then no concert. But, she immediately said "are you kidding me? the baby will be here already. that concert is a once in a lifetime opportunity. get tickets!"

God, I love my wife.

the wolf

go, you can always sell or give the ticket away if the little bugger pops out.

BTW, congrats!!!

rage against tm

camden is closer, if you both go you can bail in an emergency? she may not be allowed to travel far dr.orders? this should be a smooth event so your 1st born doesn't pannic, depending on age seeing mom leaving the house in a rush can be scarry. next year you will need 2 memberships cause you can all go, saw people with strolers at lolla, best of luck. fan club is growing!! congratulations

Smellyman2

It's fine.

People have kids all the time. It's not that big of a deal.

JaneNY

Heck, I'd buy the tickets, and she might be able to go too. Babies don't pop out in one second. On the day of my labor and birth of my second child (after attending aerobics the night before) I: took the older child to school, did some grocery shopping, picked up said child from nursery school, sat around reading baby name books, cooked dinner in between contractions, ate some dinner, watched Larry King, went to the hospital and had the baby about 3 hours later.

What I'm trying to say is if your wife keeps in close contact with the doctor or midwife, and knows her body well, there is a good chance she'll know and/or be able to get guidance from the doctor or midwife as to whether labor is imminent or whether she could go to the show.

In any case buy tickets - there's some time to go yet.

Mrs.Vedder78

demetrios wrote:

would say bring her with you to dc. get a hotel for the night or have her close by with friends/relatives outside the arena. have your cellphone on buzz or something at the show .. if anything happens.

or .. if there's like skybox seating at this place. would be a perfect place for the both of ya's to be together .. w/ pearl jam.

just some ideas. i'm not married or have kids. but this is what i would do.

and what should he do if she goes into labor? ask everyone to pitch in and help deliver the baby?

This is tough call.... I know you would regret it if for any reason she goes into labor while you are in DC :(

I think you are the only one who can make this decision...

norm

you want to take a chance on missing the birth of your child?


there will be other shows

PuncturesInYourNeck

Rollin'Rock wrote:

My wife and I are expecting our second child on July 5th...I was planning on attending the DC show on June 22nd. She said it was ok for me to go, but its March and not June - her mind may change. I'm not sure if it's too close to the due date (our first kid came 10 days early)... DC is about a 2 hour drive, so I'd be gone about 12 hours...so do you think it's a good idea I go to the show??? Is it too close to the due date????

My wife is due the exact same day with our first. When the rumours of dates started popping up I thought that I might be in the same dilemma if I possibly had to drive to Seattle (2.5 hours) to see them , but I'm almost glad that I'm on the wrong coast and don't have to make the decision. Anyways, I'm pretty sure I would've stayed with my wife even though I think she would've been cool with me going.

ozsmalltowngirl

JaneNY wrote:

Heck, I'd buy the tickets, and she might be able to go too. Babies don't pop out in one second. On the day of my labor and birth of my second child (after attending aerobics the night before) I: took the older child to school, did some grocery shopping, picked up said child from nursery school, sat around reading baby name books, cooked dinner in between contractions, ate some dinner, watched Larry King, went to the hospital and had the baby about 3 hours later.

What I'm trying to say is if your wife keeps in close contact with the doctor or midwife, and knows her body well, there is a good chance she'll know and/or be able to get guidance from the doctor or midwife as to whether labor is imminent or whether she could go to the show.

In any case buy tickets - there's some time to go yet.

Pretty much what I was going to say We've got 3 children and none of them were born without plenty of notice.
Get the tickets....if your bub hasn't arrived before the date of the gig, get her to have a checkup before you go. The Doc should be able to give you an answer as to weather it's safe to go or not.

DO NOT choose a PJ show over the birth of your beautiful new bub though.

CONGRAT'S to you and your little family

Mrs.Vedder78

ozsmalltowngirl wrote:

Pretty much what I was going to say We've got 3 children and none of them were born without plenty of notice.
Get the tickets....if your bub hasn't arrived before the date of the gig, get her to have a checkup before you go. The Doc should be able to give you an answer as to weather it's safe to go or not.

DO NOT choose a PJ show over the birth of your beautiful new bub though.

CONGRAT'S to you and your little family

I do have to agree with you gals.... I have 3 children and now expecting the 4th one and they all took more than 2 hours to pop out ..... your advice might be a safe call actually...

SBC03

go to the sunshine state

LeilaMoonTurtle

buy the tix
decide if u r going a few days b4 the show

Rollin'Rock wrote:

My wife and I are expecting our second child on July 5th...I was planning on attending the DC show on June 22nd. She said it was ok for me to go, but its March and not June - her mind may change. I'm not sure if it's too close to the due date (our first kid came 10 days early)... DC is about a 2 hour drive, so I'd be gone about 12 hours...so do you think it's a good idea I go to the show??? Is it too close to the due date????

IAmMyself

Just a woman's advice, but I would stay home for the birth of your child, just in case and wait for other PJ shows later in the year, you may have to travel further and be away longer, but you also won't miss the birth of your child. If they do end up playing ACL, maybe you will end up with the whole family in Texas for a mini vacation. If PJ does not play more shows this year, well that's just not going to happen!

nukeboot

Stay home, follow the setlist on the Pit and kiss your baby's Momma.

brain of c

don't go, stay home.

frenchs

Not a female here, but I think my advice is sound....Stay home.

If it were me, I'd put on a bootleg of one of my favorite shows (probably Gorge '05), and turn the lights down nice and low and have a relaxing evening in.

But by all means, as soon as it's born, take that child to a show!


Also, side note. I was born on July 10th, and my mom says they found me under the air conditioner outside the hospital.

LeilaMoonTurtle

haha
Am I the only woman that said buy the ticket then make up your mind?

ozarkcoolchic

Buy the tickets and take her. My bestfriend saw PJ @ the Northwest school benefit while she was more than 8 months prego. She was lucky to have a seat close to the aisle so she could run to the bathroom!

acutejam

Our second kid popped out FAAAAST! And yeah, I think about a week or so early. First kid took forever and we had all the time in the world, nice drive down, toooo long in the hospital and what not.

But man, once the "system" knows what it's doing -- it can spit a kid out like that! tha's my personal theory at least....

My 2nd kid from the "hmm, i think it's time" to "WHAAAAA" was like 40 minutes!

and yeah, i'm the dad -- stay with the lady man!