Fan Behavior

given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
edited April 25 in Given To Fly (live)
I just need to vent here for a minute while I should be working away on the Florida off-day so I can pay for these shows.  My credentials: 10C member since 1994 and last night was my 107th PJ show.  But man, every tour the fans attending PJ/EV shows seems to be growing more and more obnoxious and inconsiderate.  Last night (4/24) we were in primo seats (112, Row C).  While I am happy to just be in the building for these 2 shows, these seats were killer.  During every song, I could distinctly hear 4 different conversations happening around me at full volume.  The only time there was a lull in the conversation was when one of the talkers made another booze/bathroom run.  At one point, I asked the Boston guy next to me "could you just keep the conversation down a little bit?"  His response: "Probably not."  He later apologized, but too late.  People don't understand or care that many fans would kill for those seats (in this case, any seat) and that when they are talking, screaming or even singing at full volume, that is all their neighbors can hear.  I may be more sensitive to it since I wear earplugs and can hear details more clearly, but damn.  Is there no consideration of our neighbors left?  As the fanbase has grown older and has money to spend, I feel like the behavior has gotten so much worse, especially in the expensive sections of venues.  OK, I'm done.  Hopefully a better experience tomorrow.
I'll probably get scorched for this, but I needed to get it off my chest.  Be safe, everyone.
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  • HailHailVitalogyHailHailVitalogy Posts: 5,775
    I was in 117 last night with probably a lot of premium or casino rewards buyers and it was awful.
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  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    I was in 117 last night with probably a lot of premium or casino rewards buyers and it was awful.
    All I could think of was all the fans on here who were dying for tickets.  Such a waste.

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  • steven87steven87 Posts: 1,674
    It’s funny that you posted this when you did. Maybe an hour ago, I posted in last night’s setlist thread about a similar experience I had during Camden ‘22- drunken boorish bros next to me constantly spilling beer everywhere, crashing into my wife and I, and talking loudly the whole show. Ruined what would have otherwise been a great show. For better or worse, your experience is shaped to large extent by those in your immediate vicinity. 

    Hope you have a better experience (and neighbors) during N2!
  • DE4173DE4173 Posts: 1,764
    107 shows is incredible! It really sucks when people aren't considerate of others. 
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  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    steven87 said:
    It’s funny that you posted this when you did. Maybe an hour ago, I posted in last night’s setlist thread about a similar experience I had during Camden ‘22- drunken boorish bros next to me constantly spilling beer everywhere, crashing into my wife and I, and talking loudly the whole show. Ruined what would have otherwise been a great show. For better or worse, your experience is shaped to large extent by those in your immediate vicinity. 

    Hope you have a better experience (and neighbors) during N2!
    I just read your post too.  Honestly, when I am in that situation, it makes me think that it should be harder/more expensive to these shows, but that screws real fans too.  I just don't get why people bother to attend shows they aren't passionate about, but the problem is that I know the answer: to say they were there, get likes and claim it was the greatest show ever.

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  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    edited April 25
    As a thank you for reading, I just posted my full video of I Won't Back Down on my Instagram @mbhatia10 if anyone is interested. It was one of the decent moments since most of my neighbors were still on their encore break.
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  • DE4173DE4173 Posts: 1,764
    You handled it well asking at least. Sometimes people may be unaware (no really) and will apologize and stfu. And other cases (maybe this one) they are embarrassed/take quick offense and are a smartass.

    You never know, though... maybe you've saved others at future shows dealing with them as hopefully these people understand what you meant and are more respectful going forward. ✌️
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  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    DE4173 said:
    You handled it well asking at least. Sometimes people may be unaware (no really) and will apologize and stfu. And other cases (maybe this one) they are embarrassed/take quick offense and are a smartass.

    You never know, though... maybe you've saved others at future shows dealing with them as hopefully these people understand what you meant and are more respectful going forward. ✌️
    Thanks.  Yeah, I've had it go both ways, for sure. 
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  • ChrrieChrrie Posts: 371
    This is why I initially started lining up early in GA. Never have to hear other people’s conversations in the first couple rows or worry about a mass exodus to the bathrooms or concessions during less popular songs 🙂
  • nicknyr15nicknyr15 Posts: 8,933
    People in general. I significantly cut down on concerts and the number one reason is peoples behavior. The ridiculous amount of drinking and the loud conversations throughout a show are an epidemic. I can’t do it anymore. 
  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    nicknyr15 said:
    People in general. I significantly cut down on concerts and the number one reason is peoples behavior. The ridiculous amount of drinking and the loud conversations throughout a show are an epidemic. I can’t do it anymore. 
    Oof, I have done the same (yeah, still hitting 4 on this tour).  If it wasn't for them, I'd probably hit all these PJ shows.  Who knows how many tours we have left.  But the people have ruined almost all my shows, especially post-COVID.
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  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    Chrrie said:
    This is why I initially started lining up early in GA. Never have to hear other people’s conversations in the first couple rows or worry about a mass exodus to the bathrooms or concessions during less popular songs 🙂
    Makes sense. In over 100 PJ shows, I have never taken a bathroom break during the show and I don't drink at shows because (a) I don't need it, a PJ show is already max-stoke, and (b) I don't want to have to use the bathroom.

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  • nicknyr15nicknyr15 Posts: 8,933
    nicknyr15 said:
    People in general. I significantly cut down on concerts and the number one reason is peoples behavior. The ridiculous amount of drinking and the loud conversations throughout a show are an epidemic. I can’t do it anymore. 
    Oof, I have done the same (yeah, still hitting 4 on this tour).  If it wasn't for them, I'd probably hit all these PJ shows.  Who knows how many tours we have left.  But the people have ruined almost all my shows, especially post-COVID.
    I really thought after COVID crowds would become better and more appreciative after what we all went through. Boy was I WRONG. 
  • YAKIMATSUYAKIMATSU Santa Fe Posts: 990
    Singing loudly and badly is a big part of my PJ concert experience. Sorry if I am ever near you.
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  • Shaindli1Shaindli1 MA Posts: 1,137
    I had an unpleasant experience coming back on the train from Fenway to Worcester last fall. It was the last train that pulls into Worcester around 1am. It was full of drunk obnoxious loud men. I was by myself. One of them peed in a bottle just across the aisle from me.
    Vile.
  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    YAKIMATSU said:
    Singing loudly and badly is a big part of my PJ concert experience. Sorry if I am ever near you.
    You don't wear earplugs? The show sounds much MUCH better, but I have also noticed that your own singing drowns out the band when you are wearing earplugs. Highly recommend.

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  • Shaindli1Shaindli1 MA Posts: 1,137
    YAKIMATSU said:
    Singing loudly and badly is a big part of my PJ concert experience. Sorry if I am ever near you.
    You don't wear earplugs? The show sounds much MUCH better, but I have also noticed that your own singing drowns out the band when you are wearing earplugs. Highly recommend.

    I'm too embarrassed to sing in public. 
  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    Shaindli1 said:
    YAKIMATSU said:
    Singing loudly and badly is a big part of my PJ concert experience. Sorry if I am ever near you.
    You don't wear earplugs? The show sounds much MUCH better, but I have also noticed that your own singing drowns out the band when you are wearing earplugs. Highly recommend.

    I'm too embarrassed to sing in public. 
    Haha, self-awareness is key!

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  • nicknyr15nicknyr15 Posts: 8,933
    YAKIMATSU said:
    Singing loudly and badly is a big part of my PJ concert experience. Sorry if I am ever near you.
    Don’t be sorry for that. 
  • YAKIMATSUYAKIMATSU Santa Fe Posts: 990
    YAKIMATSU said:
    Singing loudly and badly is a big part of my PJ concert experience. Sorry if I am ever near you.
    You don't wear earplugs? The show sounds much MUCH better, but I have also noticed that your own singing drowns out the band when you are wearing earplugs. Highly recommend.

    Definitely do the earplugs. I don't hear my bad singing except for some songs when I'm the only one in the area singing. I really really can't help it. It just takes over. In the car, in the shower and even in public Pearl Jam must come out of me. 
    Kinda sad, I know. Anyone know a support group. It wouldn't be so bad, but I have an extremely bad singing voice.
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  • I was in GA. I was surrounded by casino status folks who just were there to drink and be obnoxious, They would sent 2 people at a time to get 2 drinks each, then two more would go when they got back etc the whole night. Had two folks fall down and need security to take them out. They all were recording videos and just watching their phones whenever they DID pay attention which was during Alive and Evenflow. 
  • given2fly23given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 5,976
    I was in GA. I was surrounded by casino status folks who just were there to drink and be obnoxious, They would sent 2 people at a time to get 2 drinks each, then two more would go when they got back etc the whole night. Had two folks fall down and need security to take them out. They all were recording videos and just watching their phones whenever they DID pay attention which was during Alive and Evenflow. 
    Oof. Awful. Just go home and leave us alone!

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  • eboweddieeboweddie Posts: 1,031
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  • gotthebottlegotthebottle San Diego Posts: 3,226
    I was in GA. I was surrounded by casino status folks who just were there to drink and be obnoxious, They would sent 2 people at a time to get 2 drinks each, then two more would go when they got back etc the whole night. Had two folks fall down and need security to take them out. They all were recording videos and just watching their phones whenever they DID pay attention which was during Alive and Evenflow. 
    That's why I skipped FL at Casino
  • aisleseatsaisleseats Posts: 1,557
    YAKIMATSU said:
    Singing loudly and badly is a big part of my PJ concert experience. Sorry if I am ever near you.
    Yeah, I always sing at the top of my lungs. I've often apologized to the people around me for how bad of a singer I am, but am always told they can't even hear me. So, I guess I'm good to go. 🤷‍♂️
  • DE4173DE4173 Posts: 1,764
    YAKIMATSU said:
    Singing loudly and badly is a big part of my PJ concert experience. Sorry if I am ever near you.
    Yeah, I always sing at the top of my lungs. I've often apologized to the people around me for how bad of a singer I am, but am always told they can't even hear me. So, I guess I'm good to go. 🤷‍♂️

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  • gotthebottlegotthebottle San Diego Posts: 3,226
    nicknyr15 said:
    People in general. I significantly cut down on concerts and the number one reason is peoples behavior. The ridiculous amount of drinking and the loud conversations throughout a show are an epidemic. I can’t do it anymore. 
    100%
  • LoujoeLoujoe Posts: 10,712
    I'm the dude headbanging and singing proudly after I finally read the lyrics!
  • Weston1283Weston1283 Fredericksburg, VA Posts: 4,970
    edited April 25
    I would add that I think people really need to take better care of themselves.  From the third level last night, we saw multiple people have to be removed from the pit.  I enjoy a beer as much as anyone, but the alcohol intake seems to be heavier and heavier with each tour lately. 
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  • DE4173DE4173 Posts: 1,764

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