Marriage!

PJfanwillneverleave1

Dyer could be your love boat captain. You never know
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_wFEB4Oxlo

F Me In The Brain

It was harder financially single?

  Shit, I would have money to wipe my ass with as I did pretty much whatever I pleased if I didn't have a wife and two kids to pay for and plan ahead for.
I'm still very much happy with what I have.

Shyner

I married satan then divorced after 4 years
She won't let go after 23 years of hell

Let me go

Enkidu

It's been 300 years.

Wait, it only seems like 300 years.  In LA lots of people ask - is this your second marriage?  Nope, it's my first and we're still married.  Not always perfect, but we compliment each other very well.  And he still makes me laugh.

brianlux

I always recommend people either get married or not get married.

hedonist

Enkidu said:

It's been 300 years.

Wait, it only seems like 300 years.  In LA lots of people ask - is this your second marriage?  Nope, it's my first and we're still married.  Not always perfect, but we compliment each other very well.  And he still makes me laugh.

A huge key to it all, E.

curmudgeoness

Enkidu said:

It's been 300 years.

Wait, it only seems like 300 years.  In LA lots of people ask - is this your second marriage?  Nope, it's my first and we're still married.  Not always perfect, but we compliment each other very well.  And he still makes me laugh.

Mine seems to be perpetually twelve years old; I guess he'll keep us young.
Married 23 years; met 24 years ago (love at frst sight -- it does happen!). There have been ups and downs, gutter balls and strikes, more ups than downs. I'd say it's easier now that the kids are grown; once eldest child was launched and the dust settled, we both were relieved to find that we still like each other. :-)
Trust, communication, and respect are important.

RogueStoner

Together for 21 years, married for 18 and he's the picture of perfection. Lucky me!

PJ_Soul

F Me In The Brain said:

It was harder financially single?

  Shit, I would have money to wipe my ass with as I did pretty much whatever I pleased if I didn't have a wife and two kids to pay for and plan ahead for.
I'm still very much happy with what I have.

I mean it's much harder not to have two incomes instead of one in a childless household. Of course it's harder financially if there are kids and one parent stays at home. Also, I'm speaking as a Vancouverite, where the average price of a home is over $1M (benchmark just for apartments is $600K), and the average rent for a one bedroom apartment is about $1995, while the average salary is only about $43K. Not splitting the rent/mortgage and bills with someone is really tough here.

F Me In The Brain

Average price is over 1MM Canadian?  I knew it was expensive (and I like the city, had a great visit) but that is crazy.  No frigging way it is worth it. 

PJ_Soul

F Me In The Brain said:

Average price is over 1MM Canadian?  I knew it was expensive (and I like the city, had a great visit) but that is crazy.  No frigging way it is worth it. 

Crazy indeed. Even crazier: the average price of a detached home is $1.8M. Things are going to start falllng apart soon. The fucked up housing market is really screwing with the economy and the demographics. We're close to a kind of tipping point, where employers are starting to be unable to find employees because nobody who does all the work can afford to live here. Businesses are starting to close for a few days a week just because they can't find enough staff to stay open, and of course they can't afford to pay them more because nobody can afford to pay more for their services either. It's a take-over by the rich combined with a credit/over-extension crisis. Some are even starting to say it's turning into an "economic apartheid", and that's a pretty apt phrase TBH. And the whole thing is starting to make everyone besides the rich and baby boomers who paid off their mortgages years ago and who have solid pensions all bitter and pissy.

F Me In The Brain

I imagine the people who bought years ago are excited as can be.
Sell, Mortimer, sell!

PJ_Soul

F Me In The Brain said:

I imagine the people who bought years ago are excited as can be.
Sell, Mortimer, sell!

Yup! My parents still live in the home I was born into - they had it built on a nice large property in a close suburb in the early 70s for $40,000, lol. It's now valued at a cool $1.2M, and it's not even in Vancouver proper. So I'll get half of that at least... might be enough for a down-payment on a one bedroom condo by the time they pass away. Either that, or the market will crash before then, and I still won't have to worry. Many people are actually praying for the bubble to burst, too bad so sad for the home owners who bought in after the market went nuts. The current state of affairs is beyond unsustainable. Oh, and did I mention that rental availability rates are at 0.1%? 200 people will show up for one 1-bedroom apartment that is available for a rate that isn't completely out of control, and it turns into a "how many months can I pay for upfront" war. This place is beautiful, but it sucks shit, lol.

HesCalledDyer

Sounds about like the 2008 United States.

JOEJOEJOE

Married for almost 7 years, together for almost 11 years.
Couldn't imagine life without my wife!
We had met a few times earlier, but we first started chatting at some of the 2006 shows!

PJ_Soul

HesCalledDyer said:

Sounds about like the 2008 United States.

I guess, but it's not the same. That crisis was basically caused by lack of banking regulations. That is not the situation here. Our problem is simply a supply and demand one: very rich people, many of whom (at about 15% of the market right now I think) are from overseas, are buying up all the property and are willing to pay insane amounts for it. We're at the point where a home listed (relatively cheaply) for $750,000 will actually go for over $1M after a bidding war. That plus a failure to keep up with that demand is what has driven the prices sky high (although the prices still wouldn't drop if supply increased just because there are that many rich people looking at the city's housing as pure investment opportunities instead of as homes for humans to live in. The rate of multi-home ownership in this city is insane - many of those homes sit empty, even after an empty home tax was brought in last year to try and help the rental availability crisis). The overextended people are indeed going to be in some trouble, but unless they had variable mortgages, foreclosure on homes aren't a really big issue. Also, because of that huge foreign market influence and the buying power of the top earning 5%, even if the regional or national economy suffers a major recession, the Vancouver housing market won't pop anyhow - all that Chinese money will continue flowing in, much of it corrupt - Vancouver is also often called the biggest money laundering city in the world. So having our housing bubble pop is pretty much a pipe dream. It's shitty to see the city I was born in turn into such a shit show. 

Indifference71

Will be married for 5 years in October.  We've been together for around 14 years (had some on/off phases back when we were in college and the couple years after that).  Have an 8 month old son and will be looking to add to that soon!  Life is good.  Except paying for daycare...that is not good.  Fuck me!

Who Princess

hedonist said:

Enkidu said:

It's been 300 years.

Wait, it only seems like 300 years.  In LA lots of people ask - is this your second marriage?  Nope, it's my first and we're still married.  Not always perfect, but we compliment each other very well.  And he still makes me laugh.

A huge key to it all, E.

I'm impressed--I tell people we've been married only 150. 

I didn't have much sense of time when I was younger.  I thought people who'd been married 20 years had been together a looooong time.   Like Lizard said above, I wonder where the years have gone.

And I often comment that my husband still knows how to make me laugh, every day.  It's gotten us through a lot.