Am I wrong to be mad?

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  • Degeneratefk
    Degeneratefk Posts: 3,123
    RogueStoner said:

    He just apologized via greeting card. I realize it's hard for him to talk to me face to face. I realize he feels bad. We all stay stupid shit at times. I love him with all of my heart and soul and so I forgive him. With time, his words will stop ringing in my head over and over. And deep down, I know the contributions I have made to this relationship, even if he's forgotten them. Life's too short for all this anger.

    You know he hasn't forgotten them!

    He knows he's a bum without you.
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  • RogueStoner
    RogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    And he finally spoke! And that's all I needed. Our house is filled with peace and love again. Thank you all for your kind words.
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Now this brings a smile.

    Always shoulders and warmth here for you both.
  • mookeywrench
    mookeywrench Posts: 6,081
    Just start talking with him. Stonewalling is a number 1 bad habit and predictor of a future divorce.
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    mookeywrench said:

    Just start talking with him. Stonewalling is a number 1 bad habit and predictor of a future divorce.

    I think it depends on how long the silence lasts (and god, sometimes it can seem like ages). But I think the pulling away can be necessary to digest and calm down and just...think. Take stock.

    When the foundation is there, it allows for pulling back in.

    Love,
    Attempting-to-pretend-to-know-whatthefuck-I'm-talking-about
    =)
  • RogueStoner
    RogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    Hedo, you do know what you're talking about. Always give great advice. :hug:
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    For you two :)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06c-qszyfRI
  • 2-feign-reluctance
    2-feign-reluctance TigerTown, USA Posts: 23,462
    mookeywrench said:

    Just start talking with him. Stonewalling is a number 1 bad habit and predictor of a future divorce.

    Agreed. When I worked outpatient I saw this in 100% of the couples I worked with.
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  • rgambs
    rgambs Posts: 13,576
    It's amazing how hard it can be to communicate effectively with and understand properly the person in this planet that you know the best.

    Best of luck.
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  • Enkidu
    Enkidu So Cal Posts: 2,996
    The silent treatment never works. I know, because I am a master of the silent treatment and it really only makes me feel worse. Sometimes I think it's harder when you've been in a relationship for a long time because you know each other SO well. That's good, but also bad because you can push each other's buttons so easily.

    Not that I would ever do that. Ha ha!

    Hang in there.
  • PJfanwillneverleave1
    PJfanwillneverleave1 Posts: 12,885
    RogueStoner said:

    He texted me from down the hall. As in, 20 feet away from me.

    Disclaimer - I am not a psychologist nor a psychiatrist

    Perhaps you should address this forthwith.
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    PJfanwillneverleave1 said:

    RogueStoner said:

    He texted me from down the hall. As in, 20 feet away from me.

    Disclaimer - I am not a psychologist nor a psychiatrist

    Perhaps you should address this forthwith.
    Done and done, I do believe.
  • Malroth
    Malroth broken down chevrolet Posts: 2,558
    rgambs said:

    It's amazing how hard it can be to communicate effectively with and understand properly the person in this planet that you know the best.

    Best of luck.

    This.
    The worst of times..they don't phase me,
    even if I look and act really crazy.
  • Wobbie
    Wobbie Posts: 31,409
    I read NONE of this thread but I DO know your hubby is an asshole!

    "thank you for your (bahamain) service" :murica:
    If I had known then what I know now...

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  • RogueStoner
    RogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    :lol:
  • Empty Glass
    Empty Glass In Rob's shed Posts: 12,329
    Wobbie said:

    I read NONE of this thread but I DO know your hubby is an asshole!

    "thank you for your (bahamain) service" :murica:

    :lol:
    I've met Rob

    DEGENERATE FUK

    This place is dead

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  • Empty Glass
    Empty Glass In Rob's shed Posts: 12,329
    If I was a betting man, I'd bet your husband is a sweat heart
    I've met Rob

    DEGENERATE FUK

    This place is dead

    "THERE ARE NO CLIQUES, ONLY THOSE WHO DON'T JOIN THE FUN" - Empty circa 2015

    "Kfsbho&$thncds" - F Me In the Brain - circa 2015
  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    Empty Glass said:

    If I was a betting man, I'd bet your husband is a sweat heart

    A sweat heart? That sounds icky.
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  • northerndragon
    northerndragon Posts: 9,851
    Empty Glass said:

    If I was a betting man, I'd bet your husband is a sweat heart

    Then you would be wrong, wipe your chin off and move along.
    Anything you lose from being honest
    You never really had to begin with.


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  • Empty Glass
    Empty Glass In Rob's shed Posts: 12,329
    Shit....


    Sweet

    (Stupid phone)
    I've met Rob

    DEGENERATE FUK

    This place is dead

    "THERE ARE NO CLIQUES, ONLY THOSE WHO DON'T JOIN THE FUN" - Empty circa 2015

    "Kfsbho&$thncds" - F Me In the Brain - circa 2015

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