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Happy smile here this morning, thinking about my dad.
(and thanking him)
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Theodore Decker | Some Father’s Day advice from the front lines
The Columbus Dispatch
The best parenting advice I ever received came from a friend of mine who, as the father of three girls, was slightly ahead of me in the great circle of life.
The girls were well-behaved and across-the-board adorable, but I took him seriously when he pulled me aside at a party at their house one night and spoke with a conviction borne of real-world experience.
“Don’t have more than two,” he warned. “Any more, and you’re outnumbered.”
My wife and I have one sibling each, and stopping at two was already in our plans. But I remember Mike’s advice some 20 years on. Whenever I see a winded parent chasing one child with a second and third stashed under each arm, I reflect upon my friend’s wisdom.
There were plenty of times, especially in the first few months of fatherhood, that I felt outnumbered by one child.
There are new broods in the neighborhood these days, wrangled by younger couples not so far along on the life circle as my wife and me.
One family is at five kids and counting. The kids are sweet and friendly, but I know that to keep them in line, mom and dad must have the patience of a great blue heron stalking a frog.
On this Father’s Day, I thought I’d pay Mike’s advice forward with some of my own.
Theodore Decker
I make no claims as to its effectiveness in rearing Child No. 1 and Child No. 2. And if you move on to Child No. 3 despite Mike’s warning, you have chosen the parental equivalent of defying a hurricane evacuation order.
That means, should you find yourself overwhelmed and questioning your decision, you are on your own.
Now, the advice:
There will come the time for every father to embrace his right — nay, his responsibility — to embarrass his children.
That is easy.
The hard part is in coming up with a personalized method of embarrassment, one that does not compromise your inner self for the sake of turning your kids’ cheeks red.
Wearing socks and dress shoes on the beach worked for my father, for instance, but that is a line even I will not cross.
For me, the solution has come in the form of loud music.
When I was an unruly teen, I took pleasure in the obvious displeasure that my choice of music brought my dad. And almost certainly I played it far too loud.
A time-honored tradition, to be sure.
To my delight, however, I have discovered that blaring 1980s post-punk has the same effect in reverse.
There is a certain satisfaction in picking up your children and having them remark, upon hearing a band like UK Decay pummeling its way through steel and auto glass, “Don’t you think that’s a little loud?”
The best part, of course, is that as the parent and automobile owner, you have no obligation to turn it down.
There also will come a time when your oldest child is old enough to stay home alone overnight, maybe even for a few nights.
This might occur, for example, when you and your spouse are heading to Pittsburgh for a ballet competition with child No. 2.
Child No. 1 might be mature for his age and all-in-all a decent kid. He might even be well-versed in the area of emergency preparedness.
Do not let this lull you into complacency. When you set down your rules, which of course will include the mandate that NO ONE but he is to enter your home while you are gone, rest assured that he WILL violate those rules.
To give you the upper I hand, I have two words.
Trail cameras.
Yes, those camouflaged, motion-activated cameras that hunters use to see what game is roaming their hunting grounds.
Trail cams exist to spy on big deer, but I have found that they are equally effective in catching little weasels.
tdecker@dispatch.com
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