When guests stay with you.......

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  • GivenToLukinKP
    GivenToLukinKP Chicago Posts: 3,076
    buck502000 said:

    The Waiting Trophy Man said:

    Put something in their food that will give them the shits.

    Clever

    ....until you realize they will be doing it in YOUR bathroom!
    Makes much more sense...

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  • oysterjar
    oysterjar NH Posts: 1,235
    edited April 2014
    My family is scattered across the U.S. and we see each other rarely. Gripe #1 happens more in a WTF are we going to do now. If we had plans then they can cancel or crash at our house but I'm not giving into poor communication or others just assuming that they can come when they please and change my plans.

    But it is certainly assumed, and it better fucking happen, that they take care of some shit around the house and/or make dinner and/or pay for something in return for they stay, and it has always worked out. If not bloody ditch fights will happen.

    I have to admit though if I had family somewhere cool I would be asking when I could stop by, but I would certainly ask first.
    Wind this thing up.

  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    oysterjar said:

    My family is scattered across the U.S. and we see each other rarely. Gripe #1 happens more in a WTF are we going to do now. If we had plans then they can cancel or crash at our house but I'm not giving into poor communication or others just assuming that they can come when they please and change my plans.

    But it is certainly assumed, and it better fucking happen, that they take care of some shit around the house and/or make dinner and/or pay for something in return for they stay, and it has always worked out. If not bloody ditch fights will happen.

    I have to admit though if I had family somewhere cool I would be asking when I could stop by, but I would certainly ask first.

    ^^^^ This. You might want to think about getting rid of any spare beds you have; I've found that that cuts down on people inviting themselves to stay.
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  • buck502000
    buck502000 Birthplace of GIBSON guitar Posts: 8,951
    I wanted to goto Germany or Italy.......not Dublin again.
  • youngster
    youngster Boston Posts: 6,576
    I feel you're pain. I have a mother in law that lives halfway across the country. When I was dating her daughter (now my wife) she invited herself to come with her daughter to visit me when I lived in Florida. I was living with friends in a 3 BR apartment and got the OK from them for both of them to stay. When we go to pick them up at the airport, turns out she invited HER boyfriend to come too. I was fucking livid. Still upsets me to this day. About 5 years ago when my son was born we thought it would be a good idea to have her come to watch him while my wife and I went on vacation. She asked if her BF could come and I immediately said no. It was supposed to be so she could spend some QT with her grandson and she said if her BF couldn't come then neither would she. My son was secondary to her boyfriend. Needless to say I don't get along with her at all but at least she doesn't come to visit anymore. To sum it up.......yes, relatives are very difficult. I feel like I would have better luck having a stranger stay with us. OP: you are not in the wrong at all feeling slighted. Hope you get the $$ back for the hotel rooms.
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  • buck502000
    buck502000 Birthplace of GIBSON guitar Posts: 8,951
    @ youngster - What tactics did you use to scare her away? :))
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    oysterjar said:

    My family is scattered across the U.S. and we see each other rarely. Gripe #1 happens more in a WTF are we going to do now. If we had plans then they can cancel or crash at our house but I'm not giving into poor communication or others just assuming that they can come when they please and change my plans.

    But it is certainly assumed, and it better fucking happen, that they take care of some shit around the house and/or make dinner and/or pay for something in return for they stay, and it has always worked out. If not bloody ditch fights will happen.

    I have to admit though if I had family somewhere cool I would be asking when I could stop by, but I would certainly ask first.

    communication skills, respect & integrity
    pretty simple shit

    bloody ditch fighting... the best & it doesn't even have to be about anything other than fun, laughs & stupid shit. this is how it is when growing up with brothers. fighting is good times even when pretty gnarly & hospital visits play their role

    we also communicate, respect is given & earned & integrity is alive & well
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  • youngster
    youngster Boston Posts: 6,576
    buck502000 said:

    @ youngster - What tactics did you use to scare her away? :))

    We've just never really been civil so I don't sugarcoat things with her. I also am not overly nice in her company. I'm pretty sure she knows how much I dislike her. She is a very selfish woman and I have made comments regarding her selfishness. She's the type who thinks she should be waited on hand and foot. Even when my wife goes to visit her, her mother never offers to help her with the kids and she expects my wife to cook and clean for her. I refuse to be in her company because I would snap if I saw her do that. So I just say I don't want her at my house. She comes to visit and stays with her sister a few towns away. I'm of the opinion if I let her stay once, she'll think she can come and visit whenever she wants.
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  • buck502000
    buck502000 Birthplace of GIBSON guitar Posts: 8,951
    cold blooded
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,777
    buck502000 said:

    cold blooded

    :-/
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  • oysterjar
    oysterjar NH Posts: 1,235
    youngster said:

    buck502000 said:

    @ youngster - What tactics did you use to scare her away? :))

    We've just never really been civil so I don't sugarcoat things with her. I also am not overly nice in her company. I'm pretty sure she knows how much I dislike her. She is a very selfish woman and I have made comments regarding her selfishness. She's the type who thinks she should be waited on hand and foot. Even when my wife goes to visit her, her mother never offers to help her with the kids and she expects my wife to cook and clean for her. I refuse to be in her company because I would snap if I saw her do that. So I just say I don't want her at my house. She comes to visit and stays with her sister a few towns away. I'm of the opinion if I let her stay once, she'll think she can come and visit whenever she wants.
    That's what I am talking about. Id rather people know how I felt about them then get frustrated and pull a Clark Griswold on Christmas vacation. Just because we are family doesn't mean I appreciate your behavior.
    Wind this thing up.

  • buck502000
    buck502000 Birthplace of GIBSON guitar Posts: 8,951
    PJ_Soul said:

    buck502000 said:

    cold blooded

    :-/
    I was being funny in regards to what youngster said.

    :D
  • buck502000
    buck502000 Birthplace of GIBSON guitar Posts: 8,951
    My In-laws arrived for a 4 days stay over, wish me luck.
  • FrankieG
    FrankieG Abingdon MD Posts: 9,100
    buck502000 said:

    My In-laws arrived for a 4 days stay over, wish me luck.

    Good luck!
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  • buck502000
    buck502000 Birthplace of GIBSON guitar Posts: 8,951
    FrankieG said:

    buck502000 said:

    My In-laws arrived for a 4 days stay over, wish me luck.

    Good luck!
    Thanks, they usually don't spoil until sometime during day three and become rotten on the fourth day.
  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    As long as someone offers up there Couch for me I'm Good :P
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    i_lov_it said:

    As long as someone offers up there Couch for me I'm Good :P

    i have a couch. :)

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  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    catefrances said:

    i_lov_it said:

    As long as someone offers up there Couch for me I'm Good :P

    i have a couch. :)

    Yeah as long as it's Comfy ;)
  • Black Diamond
    Black Diamond Posts: 25,109
    Moving to Miami, we now have guests galore (October through April only, of course)..
    It's actually been really great, but we have had some klunkers. What your sister in law and husband did is nonsense. They would not be invited back for a while. Most people seem to get that they are in your domain but there are always the few who ruin it.
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  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    so you are saying it is not ok to not quite get the fluid into the bowl totally all the time whilst on holiday at someone's home? what of clogging toilet as guest?
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