When guests stay with you.......

buck502000

How do you feel when guests stay at your house for an extended amount of time and are not thankful? (Specifically, relatives.)

JonnyPistachio

Thankfully I havent been in this position, but I can imagine that it sucks. Send them a bill!

Wobbie

relatives are the WORST! :-j

buck502000

Here is the kicker, they owe me money for a hotel room we booked for them.....just too funny. ]

buck502000

I guess I should explain the whole story, no?

The Waiting Trophy Man

Put something in their food that will give them the shits.

Jason P

Just walk around in your underwear and pick your nose alot.

buck502000

Jason P said:

Just walk around in your underwear and pick your nose alot.

This is a given

buck502000

The Waiting Trophy Man said:

Put something in their food that will give them the shits.

Clever

hedonist

buck502000 said:

I guess I should explain the whole story, no?

Yes.

Are they your own relatives or your in-laws of some sort?

Sleeping arrangements? Are they independent? How long staying?

(I am so thankful that our 700 sf condo can't accommodate guests. Get a motel for the love of Pete )

buck502000

We moved from Michigan to Ireland about a year ago. My wife's sister, her husband and two boys, aged 5 and 8 paid us a visit from the Americas last week. Let me preface my story by saying, my wives two sisters have always annoyed me to begin with. Anyway, a couple of months ago, said sister calls saying she booked airline tickets to "visit". Gripe #1 Great, we now have to stay local for spring break when my family and I could be exploring various unbeknownst regions, instead. Gripe #2 They did not ask or were not formally invited. It probably would have been a formality, but still it's my families time and money being spent. Gripe #3 They said they rent a van for us all to travel in. (That didn't happen once they saw the cost involved.) Gripe #4 Bad planning. My wife had to leave work to pick them up from the airport. They missed their connecting flight due to incompetence when booking the flights, causing my wife to miss two hours of work. Gripe #5 They did not have anything planned for activities when they were visiting. My wife had to spend hours coordinating the trip for them. Gripe #6 We booked two hotel rooms on our credit card. We paid for them too. They will pay us will US dollars when my mother-in-law visits in May. Yeah!!!! Gripe #7 They were just not very thankful. My family made several trips to the store for supplies and they never offered to pay for anything. Cheap!!!! Free room and board. I felt like a bed and breakfast. Jeez. Maybe I am just a jerk. I don't know. They finally left yesterday!!!!!!!

hedonist

Holy hell, that's a shitload of gripes! But totally valid ones, to me.

You're far from a jerk but next time, put that foot down and let no one take advantage!

(and at least you're guest-free now)

My husband and I hope to visit Ireland someday - if we do, we'll give you a ring for accommodations and activities

jlaustin

Families, especially in-laws, are often the worst! No one will stay with us unless invited. Hard to disinvite those that just assume. Your gripes are completely valid! Sorry to hear you had a sucky break. Be grateful they are finally gone. You are a trooper for enduring all of that. I would have made my hubby get rid of them!

I, too, am from Michigan, so I'm sure we are welcome, right! We'll make sure we come at a different time that hedonist! :-h ;;)

Annafalk

Can I come next week? ..sorry
It's not a nice feeling when people take you for granted and don't show respect.

When it's not your relatives it feels like it should be your wife who would fix this situation.

buck502000

Thanks for listening everyone.

chadwick

i see nothing wrong here other than no one got into a fist fight out in the ditch

buck502000

no reason to fight, just really f*cking annoyed........

chadwick

fighting is nice. it solves things or not mostly it lets out anger & frustrations. blood feels good as does arguing & tearing a house apart

PJ_Soul

buck502000 said:

How do you feel when guests stay at your house for an extended amount of time and are not thankful? (Specifically, relatives.)

That would piss me off. Wouldn't welcome them a second time, and depending on what "extended" means, might tell them that their time is up and they have to find another place to stay.

GivenToLukinKP

I think that while staying in another person's home more than just overnight, you are obligated to do a minimum of 1 of the following:

Clean up more than just after yourself
Cook a meal (not some bullshit out of a can- a real meal)
Take the whole host family out to dinner and pay for it
Offer to chip in towards groceries/supplies

GivenToLukinKP

OH- and send a "thank you' note or gift after the fact!