You think you're friends..

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  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    I definitely seem to have quite a few of those myself..
  • gimmesometruth27
    gimmesometruth27 St. Fuckin Louis Posts: 24,839
    whispering hands said:

    I definitely seem to have quite a few of those myself..

    those are the worst kind because i have chemistry with them and want to get to know them better, only to never see them or hear from them again.
    "You can tell the greatness of a man by what makes him angry."  - Lincoln

    "Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    I truly know what you mean. It is frustrating and discouraging. I find myself getting angry at myself for allowing myself to fall for that type of person again. And yet.. I keep finding the single serving friends.. And not the real
    Life long, forever friends. The ones that I do have, are friends for life.. And I know they're there for me at all costs. I live them dearly and admire them greatly for putting up with my annoying ass. But I constantly out time and effort into people that just end up hurting me again.
  • Aafke
    Aafke Posts: 1,219
    Yeah, I know that feeling.. Every time this happens i do blame myself for allowing myself to fall for the same old trick again. I became quite careful in starting friendships. But over and over again i let myself get fouled by those kind of "friends", I'm getting really tired of myself. Luckily i do have some real friends who stick with me trough tick and thin, as I do for them. Maybe that's life, many people come and go but just a few stick with you...Maybe we expect to much out of life...
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    "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed".- Carl Jung.
    "Art does not reproduce what we see; rather, it makes us see."- Paul Klee
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    how about let us each place blame on ourselves firstly, secondly & thirdly & move on. some of what i read here has me dunking my head into a sink of dirty dish water, running outside into a -13 degree fahrenheit (-25 degree celsius) snow drift where i roll around in my underwear on a pile of pine cones, pine needles & tacks while you all throw gravel at me while chanting "chadwick you are a terrible pal, kiss our grits"

    cheer the frig up, folks
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    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."
    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • BinFrog
    BinFrog MA Posts: 7,314
    gimmesometruth27 said:

    losiento got banned??? bloody hell....

    Oh well.
    Bright eyed kid: "Wow Typo Man, you're the best!"
    Typo Man: "Thanks kidz, but remembir, stay in skool!"
  • pjhawks
    pjhawks Posts: 13,046
    I've always questioned when people say 'go make friends' I don't think you make friends. I think friends just 'are'. you can't force a friendship.

    and I agree with Chadwick a bit here. Cheer up folks and stop keeping a scorecard on yourself and your friends. roll with it.
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    But a friendship (any relationship, actually) takes tending to by those in it. You can't just...show up...take take take...over and over.

    You need to nurture what you're growing. I need to do the same. It's incumbent on both, all, parties.

    Someone treats me like shit consistently? Not gonna roll with it (why would I?). I'm gonna cut them loose. There's enough heavy shit to deal with in life without some asshole making things unnecessarily complicated and messing with my head.

    I also hold myself to those same standards.
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    pjhawks said:

    I've always questioned when people say 'go make friends' I don't think you make friends. I think friends just 'are'. you can't force a friendship.

    and I agree with Chadwick a bit here. Cheer up folks and stop keeping a scorecard on yourself and your friends. roll with it.

    this is exactly what i was trying to say in my own little way
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."
    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • gimmesometruth27
    gimmesometruth27 St. Fuckin Louis Posts: 24,839
    i am not friends with any of you a-holes......





    just kidding.....

    i like all of you :)


    "You can tell the greatness of a man by what makes him angry."  - Lincoln

    "Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    At least this conversation is becoming g more of us encouraging one another. That turned out pretty cool!
  • BinFrog
    BinFrog MA Posts: 7,314
    pjhawks said:

    I've always questioned when people say 'go make friends' I don't think you make friends. I think friends just 'are'. you can't force a friendship.

    I think the key to that quote has nothing to do with forcing friendships. Going out and making friends, to me, means stop sitting around by yourself lamenting the fact that you don't have friends or convincing yourself that everyone is an asshole. Go out there are find good people...they're out there. Feeling sorry for yourself or convincing yourself that everyone sucks doesn't do any good.
    Bright eyed kid: "Wow Typo Man, you're the best!"
    Typo Man: "Thanks kidz, but remembir, stay in skool!"
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    good advice & the truth, binfrog
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."
    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • Aafke
    Aafke Posts: 1,219
    It was never my intention to say the world is to blame, or other people are to blame. I was just trying to figure out why some friendships work and others don't. Of course if you don't go out there and meet people you don't get friends.
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    "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed".- Carl Jung.
    "Art does not reproduce what we see; rather, it makes us see."- Paul Klee
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    Very true. and yet we are given to present givings, based on past givings. Go figure. The point is.. Make friends where you are able. Cherish those that are true, and be rid of those with ulterior motives!! May friendship always live on!
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    I truly love this place!!
  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    whispering hands said:

    The point is.. Make friends where you are able. Cherish those that are true, and be rid of those with ulterior motives!! May friendship always live on!

    ^^^I like this. People come into your life for unknown durations. Some may be brief, while others stay longer. If you are lucky, you will meet someone (or a few) who is true.
    ELITIST FUK
  • shortstack
    shortstack Posts: 2,339
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    did you see me? i saw you.
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,894
    edited February 2014
    gimmesometruth27 said:

    whispering hands said:

    I definitely seem to have quite a few of those myself..

    those are the worst kind because i have chemistry with them and want to get to know them better, only to never see them or hear from them again.
    But you could just cherish the memory you have of the good time that happened, no? I personally love those moments when you connect with someone to have a fantastic night, like a flash fire, lol. I have had some really amazing moments with single serving friends! Yeah, it's great to take it further if that's how it works out, but don't let it detract from what fun it was! :)
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,894
    BinFrog said:

    gimmesometruth27 said:

    losiento got banned??? bloody hell....

    Oh well.
    Who was that guy, anyway? Felt like he was only around for maybe a week??
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata

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