I knew a girl in college who had a really, really low number.
That said, let's just say she was also a bit of a "vacuum". If you included that, her number would be through the roof!
So if she started a relationship with someone and they asked her "how many partners have you had?" Her number would be very misleading if she didn't include her Hoover Vacuum numbers.
I don't think it's a good idea to get into the topic at all, on the sexual level. Don't ask, don't tell is generally my policy on that one. It's the safest bet, because you just never know when it might go bad somehow, depending on who you're dealing with.
I don't know if you should not ask. I am thinking about this as a health issue. I once was asked how many people i have slept with without protection. that for me was a great question.
I do believe that the reason why a person ask it should not be for just keeping score.
I think for safety reasons you have to trust them no matter what.
:shock: Is that a typo?
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I don't know if you should not ask. I am thinking about this as a health issue. I once was asked how many people i have slept with without protection. that for me was a great question.
I do believe that the reason why a person ask it should not be for just keeping score.
I'm not sure if asking about it will really make a difference. I was an HIV educator in the 90s and found that people's behaviors will surprise you to say the least. People don't always change their history to be deceitful; sometimes they meet somebody they really care for and manage to "forget" things that they don't want to acknowledge. We expect guys to brag or exaggerate the number of partners they've had but I discovered that young men had started to claim that they were virgins to get girls to be more trusting. That one flabbergasted me but I learned about it from several sources.
If you don't feel comfortable having the discussion about getting tested, insist on using protection all the time, every time. If you want to ask the other person to get tested, you'd better be willing to do the same. Go to testing together and get your results at the same time. Anyone can fib that they've been tested but if you face each other after you've gotten your results, it will be hard for most people to hide what they've learned.
How you handle the relationship post-test is another story.
I once asked a boyfriend the question while drunk, and as a joke he said 287, and I started crying. :fp: So at the very least, don't ask when you're drunk.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
I once asked a boyfriend the question while drunk, and as a joke he said 287, and I started crying. :fp: So at the very least, don't ask when you're drunk.
Haha whoops! I have never once asked a dude his number. I don't want to know..as long as he's healthy, ya know? So its none of their business either. A dude hung up on your number isn't worth the effort imo
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I once asked a boyfriend the question while drunk, and as a joke he said 287, and I started crying. :fp: So at the very least, don't ask when you're drunk.
Haha whoops! I have never once asked a dude his number. I don't want to know..as long as he's healthy, ya know? So its none of their business either. A dude hung up on your number isn't worth the effort imo
Words of wisdom!
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
I have never once asked a dude his number. I don't want to know..as long as he's healthy, ya know? So its none of their business either. A dude hung up on your number isn't worth the effort imo
ding ding ding... we have a winner!
im actually kinda bothered when people want to share their sex life information with me. im one of those dude's that doesn't talk guy talk with other guys & i don't go on about these things with lady friends either. therefore i keep my mouth closed & expect the same courtesy in return. people have sex, simple as that.
I have never once asked a dude his number. I don't want to know..as long as he's healthy, ya know? So its none of their business either. A dude hung up on your number isn't worth the effort imo
ding ding ding... we have a winner!
im actually kinda bothered when people want to share their sex life information with me. im one of those dude's that doesn't talk guy talk with other guys & i don't go on about these things with lady friends either. therefore i keep my mouth closed & expect the same courtesy in return. people have sex, simple as that.
You can write 'Black Diamond' in the snow?!?!? :shock:
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Interesting thread. Recently had ex-BF tell me somethin’ which made me feel open to share somethin’ - big mistake! So he judged me, cut me down and then abruptly dumped me. At least mine was consensual adults. His was a paid transaction. :shock: So from now on I’ll just keep my mouth shut.
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I knew a girl in college who had a really, really low number.
That said, let's just say she was also a bit of a "vacuum". If you included that, her number would be through the roof!
So if she started a relationship with someone and they asked her "how many partners have you had?" Her number would be very misleading if she didn't include her Hoover Vacuum numbers.
.5 , i Like it!
If you don't feel comfortable having the discussion about getting tested, insist on using protection all the time, every time. If you want to ask the other person to get tested, you'd better be willing to do the same. Go to testing together and get your results at the same time. Anyone can fib that they've been tested but if you face each other after you've gotten your results, it will be hard for most people to hide what they've learned.
How you handle the relationship post-test is another story.
Hahhaahahhaha
Carry on.
I once asked a boyfriend the question while drunk, and as a joke he said 287, and I started crying. :fp:
I don't know if I can remember it
how many?......4..............5.............. :roll:
then there was-6......7..... geez..... :think:
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Judging my memory... I probably would forget a couple or more....
On purpose?
:?
im actually kinda bothered when people want to share their sex life information with me. im one of those dude's that doesn't talk guy talk with other guys & i don't go on about these things with lady friends either. therefore i keep my mouth closed & expect the same courtesy in return. people have sex, simple as that.
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
exactly
You can write 'Black Diamond' in the snow?!?!? :shock:
- Christopher McCandless
:think: :shifty: You would be like a God to that person, might have some benefits :twisted:
oddly enough though, three of them were named Kevin
that struck me as I thought about replying to this thread.