RNDM Acts of Kindness

carly316

afroannnie wrote:

Not 10C related, but when I lived on the eastern shore of MD, I had to cross the Bay Bridge which cost $2.50 to cross. On occasion I would pay for the car behind me. I figured it was a small gesture that would put a smile on someone's face. One particular time I did this, I must have made the guy's day because he ended up catching up to me on the bridge. He passed me, honking and waving with a big smile on his face.

That totally rocks!! Good idea!

carly316

pjhawks wrote:

was out a bar/restaurant a few weeks ago and my cousin and his wife and 3 young kids came in to eat and sat fairly close to where we were sitting and after their dinner i went up and told them how great their kids were during dinner. we didn't hear a peep from them in over an hour. my comment seemed to really please them. i was so glad i said it. it's really amazing how just a sentence or two can make someone's day.

and would saying how great you look in picture at the top of this thread count?

Being a mother of 6, I can't even begin to tell you how wonderful it is to hear someone say that! I've been told that a handful of times and it just makes all those hard times of disciplining our kids totally worth it.

And yes, that counts! Thank you - that was sweet. (I can't get my avatar to work so that was my alternative.)

dimitrispearljam

carly316 wrote:

Being a mother of 6,

well,if That isnt an Acts of Kindness,i dont know what it is then...

carly316

samjam wrote:

I love this thread! Posted about this yesterday, but worthy of a post again. I was able surprise a friend I made at Made In America with an EV pick a couple months ago (due to the kindness of a fellow board member who was able to gift me the pick ever so kindly for free!). The other day I received a surprise package from the friend with a 2011 EV Sniper, 2012 EV Sniper, LBC/Wishlist single, and a really awesome bottle opener keychain with 'Eddie Vedder' written in the Corona font. Haven't been able to stop smiling, she so didn't need to do that!

Way cool! A circle of kindness :P

carly316

Caveeze wrote:

Whispering Hands was my replacement SS and I can Testisfy, she went above and beyond!!

I suscribe to the kind lifestyle.. Latest one, hmmm.. We gave a homeless guy some monkey bread on Saturday. We loved the way it tasted, but he looked like he could use it more than us...

I believe in doing the right thing. I have changed tires for strangers on the side of the road, given stranded motorists rides, etc.. I hope I am just not making up for all of the bad stuff I have done..

I hope there's a Caveeze around when I need one! :-D

carly316

dimitrispearljam wrote:

lets start with something pj thing..

there is a girl from Australia,didnt have a tix for the second day at Alpine,i saw her post that searching for one and i had a spare cos my ticket-tour buddy,Eva came from Slovenia to Alpine only for day one,so i gave my spare to her for free
same time Kasia,the girl from Australia ,and before read my pm about offering to her my spare tix ,found tix,from someone else.and made a deal.so,then she find another member and gave that ticket she found for free,and in the end,some random person,saw night 2 for free at alpine..

the funny thing is..me and Kasia,(we was all day tolgether at alpine at night 2) ,15 min before pj go on stage,we lost eachother at the lawn .. ..and we meet again after one year at Prague for pj europe 2012 tour!!

Holy shit! What are the odds?!

carly316

dimitrispearljam wrote:

carly316 wrote:

Being a mother of 6,

well,if That isnt an Acts of Kindness,i dont know what it is then...

carly316

My biggest act of kindness started 3 years ago when we found out 2 of our nieces were taken from their home and put with a foster family. We fought tooth and nail through all of the red tape for a month (which felt like an eternity) to become licensed foster parents so that we could take them. They had already moved 10 times in 10 years, being moved from school to school and apartment to apartment. We couldn't wait to give them some stability. Then their deadbeat dad took us to court because he suddenly wanted custody of them (rather, he didn't want to have to pay us child support-especially since he couldn't keep a job to save his life). Their mom came over every weekend to spend time with them, which we had to supervise. Then, one weekend last April, she didn't show up. We called and she wouldn't call back. The following Tuesday, a cop is at my door and I find out that they found her deceased in her apartment (heart attack - at 42). I had to tell a 12 & 17-year-old that their mother passed away. Then we were granted permanent guardianship. The oldest will be 18 next week but she has a severe cognitive disability so we are currently getting guardianship of her for the rest of her life. The only right she retained is her right to vote. She'll never drive, never live alone, and possibly never work. I knew I would always be a parent once my first was born but now I'll always be a parent who needs to care for someone for the rest of my life. Many terrible circumstances got those girls to this place but I can honestly say that we saved them. Literally. We live in a tiny (but nice) house. We can't even all fit at the dinner table but having dinner together is a must so my hubby and I stand and eat. We have 8 people and 4 bedrooms. It can be tough but it taught me a lot and made me live the "kind" lifestyle. I wouldn't change it for the world!!

dimitrispearljam

carly316 wrote:

My biggest act of kindness started 3 years ago when we found out 2 of our nieces were taken from their home and put with a foster family. We fought tooth and nail through all of the red tape for a month (which felt like an eternity) to become licensed foster parents so that we could take them. They had already moved 10 times in 10 years, being moved from school to school and apartment to apartment. We couldn't wait to give them some stability. Then their deadbeat dad took us to court because he suddenly wanted custody of them (rather, he didn't want to have to pay us child support-especially since he couldn't keep a job to save his life). Their mom came over every weekend to spend time with them, which we had to supervise. Then, one weekend last April, she didn't show up. We called and she wouldn't call back. The following Tuesday, a cop is at my door and I find out that they found her deceased in her apartment (heart attack - at 42). I had to tell a 12 & 17-year-old that their mother passed away. Then we were granted permanent guardianship. The oldest will be 18 next week but she has a severe cognitive disability so we are currently getting guardianship of her for the rest of her life. The only right she retained is her right to vote. She'll never drive, never live alone, and possibly never work. I knew I would always be a parent once my first was born but now I'll always be a parent who needs to care for someone for the rest of my life. Many terrible circumstances got those girls to this place but I can honestly say that we saved them. Literally. We live in a tiny (but nice) house. We can't even all fit at the dinner table but having dinner together is a must so my hubby and I stand and eat. We have 8 people and 4 bedrooms. It can be tough but it taught me a lot and made me live the "kind" lifestyle. I wouldn't change it for the world!!

dimitrispearljam wrote:

carly316 wrote:

Being a mother of 6,

well,if That isnt an Acts of Kindness,i dont know what it is then...

shetellsherself

carly316 wrote:

shetellsherself wrote:

Love this thread! Another board member recently offered me some bootlegs just bc I mentioned I liked a particular show and was looking for more from that year. Was definitely not expecting that and am so happy to share a couple with him that he didn't have. My hubby doesn't get why a stranger would offer such a kindness. I'm so glad that my view of the world allows such acts to not surprise me.

I was finishing with an elderly patient of mine last week. I was discharging her and wouldn't be seeing her regularly anymore. I've come to feel close to her and always enjoy my visits with her. I told her I would call her sometime to check on her. She has no family in the immediate area. She told me "Jennifer just stop by sometime so I can put my eyes on you again." It was such a funny and sweet thing to say. It really made me feel good. I love old people!

Always offer to help that old man/woman who is struggling a bit to open the door or push the grocery cart or walk across an open parking lot. If you are blessed to be old someday, someone will help you too.

My husband is the same way but I have the same attitude as you. That is so sweet what that woman said! It makes the job very rewarding, I'm sure. Kudos to you for having the heart to do what you do for a living. It takes a special person.

"Always offer to help that old man/woman who is struggling a bit to open the door or push the grocery cart or walk across an open parking lot. If you are blessed to be old someday, someone will help you too." - WORDS TO LIVE BY! :thumbup:

Everyday my patients give me more back than I could possibly give to them. I truly am blessed to be doing exactly what I'm supposed to be doing. Regarding you having 6 kids and your post above.... That is truly a selfless act of kindness and test of strength and patience. They are lucky to have you.

whispering hands

carly316 wrote:

My biggest act of kindness started 3 years ago when we found out 2 of our nieces were taken from their home and put with a foster family. We fought tooth and nail through all of the red tape for a month (which felt like an eternity) to become licensed foster parents so that we could take them. They had already moved 10 times in 10 years, being moved from school to school and apartment to apartment. We couldn't wait to give them some stability. Then their deadbeat dad took us to court because he suddenly wanted custody of them (rather, he didn't want to have to pay us child support-especially since he couldn't keep a job to save his life). Their mom came over every weekend to spend time with them, which we had to supervise. Then, one weekend last April, she didn't show up. We called and she wouldn't call back. The following Tuesday, a cop is at my door and I find out that they found her deceased in her apartment (heart attack - at 42). I had to tell a 12 & 17-year-old that their mother passed away. Then we were granted permanent guardianship. The oldest will be 18 next week but she has a severe cognitive disability so we are currently getting guardianship of her for the rest of her life. The only right she retained is her right to vote. She'll never drive, never live alone, and possibly never work. I knew I would always be a parent once my first was born but now I'll always be a parent who needs to care for someone for the rest of my life. Many terrible circumstances got those girls to this place but I can honestly say that we saved them. Literally. We live in a tiny (but nice) house. We can't even all fit at the dinner table but having dinner together is a must so my hubby and I stand and eat. We have 8 people and 4 bedrooms. It can be tough but it taught me a lot and made me live the "kind" lifestyle. I wouldn't change it for the world!!

Wow!!! You are an amazing person!! I too have bounced through
The state's system! So I know what a blessing you are being to those children .
That's a long, fucked up story.. But I know that just like myself and my older
sister, that those children are blessed to have someone like you in their corner!
As a Christian, my favorite scripture is " be careful how you tend to people,
For you may be entertaining angels, unaware."
You are an angel though most cannot see it. Thank you for being their
Champion!! I hope we get to meet each other in July!

carly316

whispering hands wrote:

carly316 wrote:

My biggest act of kindness started 3 years ago when we found out 2 of our nieces were taken from their home and put with a foster family. We fought tooth and nail through all of the red tape for a month (which felt like an eternity) to become licensed foster parents so that we could take them. They had already moved 10 times in 10 years, being moved from school to school and apartment to apartment. We couldn't wait to give them some stability. Then their deadbeat dad took us to court because he suddenly wanted custody of them (rather, he didn't want to have to pay us child support-especially since he couldn't keep a job to save his life). Their mom came over every weekend to spend time with them, which we had to supervise. Then, one weekend last April, she didn't show up. We called and she wouldn't call back. The following Tuesday, a cop is at my door and I find out that they found her deceased in her apartment (heart attack - at 42). I had to tell a 12 & 17-year-old that their mother passed away. Then we were granted permanent guardianship. The oldest will be 18 next week but she has a severe cognitive disability so we are currently getting guardianship of her for the rest of her life. The only right she retained is her right to vote. She'll never drive, never live alone, and possibly never work. I knew I would always be a parent once my first was born but now I'll always be a parent who needs to care for someone for the rest of my life. Many terrible circumstances got those girls to this place but I can honestly say that we saved them. Literally. We live in a tiny (but nice) house. We can't even all fit at the dinner table but having dinner together is a must so my hubby and I stand and eat. We have 8 people and 4 bedrooms. It can be tough but it taught me a lot and made me live the "kind" lifestyle. I wouldn't change it for the world!!

Wow!!! You are an amazing person!! I too have bounced through
The state's system! So I know what a blessing you are being to those children .
That's a long, fucked up story.. But I know that just like myself and my older
sister, that those children are blessed to have someone like you in their corner!
As a Christian, my favorite scripture is " be careful how you tend to people,
For you may be entertaining angels, unaware."
You are an angel though most cannot see it. Thank you for being their
Champion!! I hope we get to meet each other in July!

that really means a lot. thank you for the kind words. I'm not a religious person but that scripture is beautiful! I'd definitely love to meet you in July. you can never have too many good-hearted people in your life and I'm running short on them.

Enkidu

This isn't a total big deal - but my son and I just went to the market and there were a bunch of crumpled twenty dollar bills and a receipt by the entrance, at least a hundred dollars. And my son and I scooped them up - I thought about giving the money to the manager and then asked my son to look around the parking lot and sure enough, there was an old lady loading her car. We went over and asked if she'd dropped her cash and she patted her pockets and said, "Oh no," and we gave her back the money. She said thank you, she was going to use the money to take her grandchildren out to dinner.

I was proud of my son too - that we had the exact same reaction. This money isn't ours.

chadwick

every single thing i do is cruel
kiss my big toe

carly316

Enkidu wrote:

This isn't a total big deal - but my son and I just went to the market and there were a bunch of crumpled twenty dollar bills and a receipt by the entrance, at least a hundred dollars. And my son and I scooped them up - I thought about giving the money to the manager and then asked my son to look around the parking lot and sure enough, there was an old lady loading her car. We went over and asked if she'd dropped her cash and she patted her pockets and said, "Oh no," and we gave her back the money. She said thank you, she was going to use the money to take her grandchildren out to dinner.

I was proud of my son too - that we had the exact same reaction. This money isn't ours.

love it!!

dimitrispearljam

Enkidu wrote:

This isn't a total big deal - but my son and I just went to the market and there were a bunch of crumpled twenty dollar bills and a receipt by the entrance, at least a hundred dollars. And my son and I scooped them up - I thought about giving the money to the manager and then asked my son to look around the parking lot and sure enough, there was an old lady loading her car. We went over and asked if she'd dropped her cash and she patted her pockets and said, "Oh no," and we gave her back the money. She said thank you, she was going to use the money to take her grandchildren out to dinner.

I was proud of my son too - that we had the exact same reaction. This money isn't ours.

carly316

I'm trying to be more charitable so I signed up to serve beer & cheese at a charity event that benefits the Boys & Girls Club. Although, I get in free with unlimited beer while everyone else has to pay $45 to walk through the door. I kinda feel guilty now. :think:

whispering hands

carly316 wrote:

I'm trying to be more charitable so I signed up to serve beer & cheese at a charity event that benefits the Boys & Girls Club. Although, I get in free with unlimited beer while everyone else has to pay $45 to walk through the door. I kinda feel guilty now. :think:

Lol!! I am currently working on raising money for
Fibromyalgia .

carly316

whispering hands wrote:

carly316 wrote:

I'm trying to be more charitable so I signed up to serve beer & cheese at a charity event that benefits the Boys & Girls Club. Although, I get in free with unlimited beer while everyone else has to pay $45 to walk through the door. I kinda feel guilty now. :think:

Lol!! I am currently working on raising money for
Fibromyalgia .

:thumbup:

carly316

This is something that someone else did for mine and another family.

My niece (who is now officially 18 and is legally my daughter, since it hit midnight in the Midwest), has a severe cognitive disability and despite being in a class with other kids with disabilities, she never really connected with anyone since we got her 3 years ago. Well yesterday, her case manager at school sent me an email and called my cell in an excited frenzy because there's a newer girl in her class and the two girls hit it off. Due to the disability, we have a very close relationship with her teacher/case manager (she even comes to our family functions) and it's become almost a friendship and I completely trust her to watch out for my daughter's well-being. She was so excited because the two girls don't have friends outside of their classroom and both us & the other girls parents are very involved with the school and community so she thought it was a good fit if they tried to connect with each other outside of school. The other girl is involved in the special olympics and other runs where as my daughter is too afraid to do just about anything. The teacher guaranteed I could trust my daughter with this girl's parents and she told the other parents the same about us. She gave the mother my cell and they have a play date and sleep over this weekend. I have a feeling this is going to change both of their lives immensely! Forever! That small act of seeing the connection and making it happen in a matter of hours and knowing how big of a positive impact it could be on both of them is just amazing. :P