What do you miss most?

PureandEasy

F Me - That brought tears to my eyes, it’s nice that your father’s last words still guide you in life today, isn’t that what fathers are for? I’d say he did his job nicely.


Aye, I’m doing well. Again, it’s nice to see you here.

Pandora – you’re not kidding, PJ get your act together and put out some new music, don’t you know how much and how many people DEPEND on that for their sanity?? Seriously. :x

F Me In The Brain

PureandEasy wrote:

F Me - That brought tears to my eyes, it’s nice that your father’s last words still guide you in life today, isn’t that what fathers are for? I’d say he did his job nicely.

Thanks, I am at peace with his absence but it is the good fortune to have had such a great role model that makes me feel so lucky and hopeful that others have/had/get to have the same experience. (Reading the news these days makes me wonder...)

mysticweed

my husband
and yes
a tour through the southeast
would be nice

fife

I would say I miss both my parents. My dad died almost 18 years ago and my mom died almost 3 years ago.

I think about them alot. its was a great love story. They met in Portugal but then my dad left with the army but they kept writing each other and when the army thing was done they got married and moved to Canada.

I can't imagine a better couple (without insulting anyone else here) the saddest part is that my mom died on my dad birthday but in a strange way i just think that it was quite romantic and keep thing that if there is another place people go to after they died my dad got the best birthday present.

Ayedavanita

Bump for the stories and memories.

hedonist

F Me In The Brain wrote:

Thanks, I am at peace with his absence but it is the good fortune to have had such a great role model that makes me feel so lucky and hopeful that others have/had/get to have the same experience. (Reading the news these days makes me wonder...)

Same boat as you on both counts. Losing my dad as a blessing in my everyday life lessens that blessing not at all...he and his guidance are always with me (as was, I think, his goal for my sister and me).

I guess I miss the intangibles, the things tied to the senses, and to memories. Times I wish I'd appreciated more, when living them. But then I was young and dumb

Certain scents, the ones that my nose gets a glimpse of and nostalgia hits big time. Wood burning, summer evenings in the city, the fur of our childhood dog, styrofoam burning (don't ask!).

It's bittersweet; more sweet than bitter, actually. (reminds me of Floyd - "breathe, breathe in the air - don't be afraid to care". I wish I hadn't been, then.)

Anyway - hello, Aye!

Nice thread here.

Ayedavanita

Hey there hedonist!

Black Diamond

My dad... Gone 30 years...

davidtrios

Black Diamond wrote:

My dad... Gone 30 years...

i feel lucky to still have mine, i got to watch football with him on sunday.

Black Diamond

davidtrios wrote:

Black Diamond wrote:

My dad... Gone 30 years...

i feel lucky to still have mine, i got to watch football with him on sunday.

You should and that's awesome
Got my sons for football watching... circle of life

dimitrispearljam

wondering... about wandering...

PureandEasy

dimitrispearljam wrote:

wondering... about wandering...

love that dimi

God I love that song!!!

dimitrispearljam

PureandEasy wrote:

dimitrispearljam wrote:

wondering... about wandering...

love that dimi

God I love that song!!!

just lishening it from fargo 03

of.the.girl

being loved unconditionally for better or worst, flaws and all

Dru_Cortez

of.the.girl wrote:

being loved unconditionally for better or worst, flaws and all

You miss that?!
That should never go away.
Bless you.
Cheers.

photogirlliz

of.the.girl wrote:

being loved unconditionally for better or worst, flaws and all

I'm sorry your missing that...you're wonderful. I hope you feel it again soon.

mfc2006

Black Diamond wrote:

My dad... Gone 30 years...

Same here....this year marks 7 years since he passed. Miss him every single day.

dimitrispearljam

mfc2006 wrote:

Black Diamond wrote:

My dad... Gone 30 years...

Same here....this year marks 7 years since he passed. Miss him every single day.

sorry to both of you...

tallman72

To EVERYONE that said..."my Dad"..... share a story about your Father with us?

My dad and me didnt always see eye to eye (sometimes we didnt speak for a while) , but we were always mates , if that makes sense. up until i was like 18 mum and dad always would argue etc and it wasnt always a happy place . sometimes it was, sometimes it wasnt. It was hard .

when i was about 18 i was kicked out by the old man and went to live with my Nanna and i eventually moved to melbourne to work on my cousins farm for a few years , then i decided i wanted to be an electrician and asked dad if i could live at home again while i started my apprenticeship. he said yes so i did , we had our moments once again, and eventually i left again , finished my apprenticeship bought a house bla bla bla . then in my wisdom decided to ask him if he wanted to go halves in a fishing boat , lol well did we have some moments out on the water , some real beuties but alot of that now i look back and think of funny and stupid we both were .

to cut a long story short , he got Cancer , and he immediately started talking about his funeral and planning this and that . and i cracked it at him , cracked it at the doctors for not doing anything . he was telling me what to do with his stuff , and i lost it at him , wouldnt go see him , then a job came up in Melbourne so i left didnt speak to him for ages .

Then i decided i had to go see him, he was in hospital now full time and i thought i would fly back in the morning take him out to lunch go see my nanna and fly home at night , so i did.

so i get to the hospital cant find him , hes not in his room theres a couple of people outside in the garden , hes not there. i go to the nurses station and ask where he is , she says hes right there and points through the window where ive already looked , and when i got outside and go up to him i see it is him all skinny and sores all over him, eyes bulging , i immediatley burst into tears,. he was way to sick to take out for lunch but we sat there for 4 hours i reakon and i rolled him about 50 smokes we talked about everything in ours lives and it was like a forgiveness for both of us it was an amazing experience then he said he was to tired and i took him back to his room. were we talked some more and i told him that i wouldnt be making a mercy dash back to see him when he died and that i knew that this would be most probably be the last time i saw him and he understood that and we both cried together and i said goodbye. and closed the door and cried uncontrollably and he probably heard me but the emotion was so overwealming and i pretty much cried all the way back home on the plane and everything.

Well we spoke over the phone , i cant remember if it was everyday or every second day, but he seemed happy when he talked to me. I was working at Rod Laver Arena as an electrician and i was on the lighting cat walk above the main arena when this day two weeks after i have seen him we talked on the phone , and before he hang up he said "dont forget i love you". something that he never said to me . and that was the last time i spoke to him he died that next morning at 5 am .

So the moral of my story is People dont let one more day go by without resolving issues with your loved ones that you can , because sometimes trivial things which are left unresolved and if things were to happen they can scar your life . Dont forget to tell the people that you love, that You Love them. i know sometimes its hard and you cant, but try if you can, it will change your life forever.

I was Lucky that we resolved things, and it has changed my life, if things had of gone the other way who knows were i would be .

i dont know if ive shared to much with you about these things , but its only a small part of what happened , but im left with positive memorys forever , and i miss him more than ever now. but im so glad for what happened and i have no regrets.

Eddie says it all the time Love one another , how true it is.

thanks
Paul

dimitrispearljam

thank you Paul..