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(Quote) But most importantly, I believe that the lifelong lack of attention, lack of kindness, love, support and interest by those who should place the highest importancen on That is a major contributing factor in these horrific gestures to get the attention they never did.
I agree with above, the video games, tv, etc are ancillary to the lack of respect for humans and inability for parents in this day in age to properly raise their children. With divorce rates high, people cheating on their spouses, what is this behavior showing are children. I grew up playing many video games, tv, etc but also grew up in a very loving home. Unfortunately, violence will always be a part of any society. Think back during the Roman times where they would have games in the coliseum where people would die. Death and violence has been around for centuries. As our society becomes more technologically advance their seems to be more family disconnect. I see it sometimes with myself. My kids have iPods, wii, and I catch myself spending too much time on phone, computer and try to be cognisant of that and stop those behaviors and just get outside and interact with my kids and enjoy life and the beautiful things around us all. It is very hard to wrap your head around why this happens. Having 3 kids of my own this is such a tragic event. I don't think it is something government can change it is more our culture and lack of respect for your fellow man. Ver sad!!0 -
I agree that in the words of Vonnegut, “Many people need desperately to receive this message: 'I feel and think much as you do, care about many of the things you care about, although most people do not care about them. You are not alone.” We need people to connect with and interact with in general.
However, sometimes things go awry even in the best circumstances. Andrew Solomon recently published a book called Far From the Treeand it takes a look at kids who are much different from their parents, sometimes in a very positive way, but in other cases, in very sad or tragic ways. One of the studies focuses on the parents of one of the Columbine shooters. Interesting and devastating to read.0 -
pandora wrote:The fact they both abandoned him might be the answer.
Abandoned??? Bit melodramatic.0 -
anthonybroxterman wrote:However, sometimes things go awry even in the best circumstances. Andrew Solomon recently published a book called Far From the Treeand it takes a look at kids who are much different from their parents, sometimes in a very positive way, but in other cases, in very sad or tragic ways. One of the studies focuses on the parents of one of the Columbine shooters. Interesting and devastating to read.
As for the OP, Speedy, I am as confused and sad as you. I think we do a lousy job of identifying and treating mental illness in this country but that's only a start. Some of the people who commit these crimes have had contact with the mental health system but some have not.
I don't have answers but I'm glad people are talking about this. We have to start somewhere."The stars are all connected to the brain."0 -
redrock wrote:pandora wrote:The fact they both abandoned him might be the answer.
Abandoned??? Bit melodramatic.0 -
There's just so many factors. The gun culture and glorification of violence plays a role. I've seen some maintstream movies that leave me shaken afterwards because of the amount of violence and cruelty that is displayed. I think our entire culture plays a role. American culture is about taking care of yourself, wanting more, wanting the biggest, the best. The good of the individual is valued over the good of the whole. There's a lack of empathy that's inherent to this way of thinking. Those with less are devalued; we blame the victim. I think there is a reason that some countries can have similar access to guns and yet crimes of this nature is so much less.
"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"0 -
EmBleve wrote:redrock wrote:pandora wrote:The fact they both abandoned him might be the answer.
Abandoned??? Bit melodramatic.
"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"0 -
Guns, yes, but also overcrowding and over population of our species, several decades of industrial pollution (heavy metals in our food supply, etc.) a culture of violence, and our tendency to stigmatize and inability to treat mental illness like any other form of illness."It's a sad and beautiful world"-Roberto Benigni0
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comebackgirl wrote:Me too. I just can't make sense of it. I can make sense of a bullied teen wanting retaliation or a person who is fired going back to their workplace. Horrible horrible crimes just the same, but I can see the link. I just can't wrap my mind around someone shooting a room of 5 year olds.0
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QuarterToTen wrote:Such a simple question with no simple answer.
The desensitization of human beings in general towards violence, the lack of repercussions for people's horrid behaviors, the general callousness and extreme lack of simple kindnesses towards others in every day life are all major contributing factors. The inconsequential violence that is an accepted part of the games that are played in today's society.
The increasing isolation that the younger generation feels as a result of all the attachment and extreme significance all of the inanimate objects they/we all possess that mean more than simply looking someone in the eye and saying, Good Morning.
But most importantly, I believe that the lifelong lack of attention, lack of kindness, love, support and interest by those who should place the highest importance on That is a major contributing factor in these horrific gestures to get the attention they never did.0 -
Byrnzie wrote:whygohome wrote:The glorification of guns is a start
And the glorification of violence.for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
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no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce0 -
EmBleve wrote:comebackgirl wrote:Me too. I just can't make sense of it. I can make sense of a bullied teen wanting retaliation or a person who is fired going back to their workplace. Horrible horrible crimes just the same, but I can see the link. I just can't wrap my mind around someone shooting a room of 5 year olds.
There are suggestions that he had an altercation with staff members at the school the day before. Three of the four of these members have been shot dead.
But again... we don't know. Reports are all over the place.
The horror still remains - why shoot little kids. Shoot the people you had an argument with if you must, but all the others???? I guess that's why people jump on the mental illness thing straight away - it's easier to comprehend that way. If the shooter had Asperger's as it would seem the brother suggested, it doesn't 'cause' this type of behaviour.0 -
redrock wrote:There are suggestions that he had an altercation with staff members at the school the day before. Three of the four of these members have been shot dead.
But again... we don't know. Reports are all over the place.
The horror still remains - why shoot little kids. Shoot the people you had an argument with if you must, but all the others???? I guess that's why people jump on the mental illness thing straight away - it's easier to comprehend that way. If the shooter had Asperger's as it would seem the brother suggested, it doesn't 'cause' this type of behaviour.
And yes, it's automatically assumed that someone who would do something like this has some sort of mental illness, (I keep hearing a 'personality disorder'), which of course isn't always necessarily the case. Asperger's I had heard, too.. not typically related to this type of violence, but I have heard of one person with Asperger's who had a extensive history of arson and pyromania.
Yes, it is absolutely horrific and tragic.Post edited by EmBleve on0 -
QuarterToTen wrote:But most importantly, I believe that the lifelong lack of attention, lack of kindness, love, support and interest by those who should place the highest importance on That is a major contributing factor in these horrific gestures to get the attention they never did.
Yes, absolutely the lack of love, support and attention growing up. And the division that runs this society rather than unity and acceptance adds to the problem. But now that it's over, that killer did end up getting the attention he wanted, didn't he? A little too late...0
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