You know, I'm a big girl
Quite a big girl
Hell...I'm a fat chick
and I would have been utterly mortified
I might have cried even
Some of us are big and would rather not be so big
Some are happy with it
Some of us just have to accept that maybe this is what we are
There are some underlying things that people don't always know about
and you sure can't see it
All you can see is our size
We are people too
We are NICE people even maybe, at least I think I am
We have feelings
NO ONE should be embarrassed like that merely because of what is on the outside
You have no idea.
OK you can tell me to go on a diet, to get some more exercise, etc. but the thing is, you don't know
No one knows just what is inside another person and what the reason are for some things.
IMHO (and even when I did NOT used to be fat) this is NOT funny, NOT acceptable, NO way, NO how
LESSON TO BE LEARNED: We should ALL treat other people in exactly the same manner that we would like to be treated.
What if you have some acne and your waiter writes Pizza Face on your ticket?
Or you are an amputee and they write Peg Leg
What if you have a deformity of some type and they draw a little doodle of their impression of you on your ticket?
Hmmm?
What then?
Just because this is aimed at FAT PEOPLE, and to top it off, even worse in our society , FAT GIRLS, doesn't make it OK
And to add to that, why is it OK for some guys to have a gut hanging over their belt and its OK but we are chubby and its a taboo? I don't get it.
No I don't like being the size I am. I really don't. I work and work and work at it...not much changes.
This would have been horrible for me.
People need to THINK.
Does anyone ever think?
Would you have thought to go to the news with it? If you were thinking you would know it would just increase the ridicule.
And no one can tell you how to feel. You would chose to be mortified. You could chose to be amused.
I have been a skinny girl, I have been a fat girl, fat girls make fun of skinny girls, skinny girls make fun of fat girls.
I was made fun of as a skinny girl, I was treated poorly as a fat girl. I didn't like being a fat girl, so I changed that.
Yes, it was wrong for Jeff to write what he did on the ticket, he should be forced to wear a fat suit and bus tables whilst wearing said fat suit for 3 months as 'punishment'. Most people don't benefit from sensitivity training, some people are just born assholes.
The girls got off pretty easy being called 'fat', yes it was mean and cruel, but Jeff could have written down a derogatory racial slur on the ticket.
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It was a shitty thing to do. Plain and simple. I doubt anyone would feel good having a stranger categorize them with a derogatory descriptor. Some may be more able to laugh it off, but others may feel the sting more, especially if their worth has been tied to their appearance. Most of us have those flaws we can laugh at and those that hurt more. There have been some really creative justifications for being rude and objectifying posted on here, but shame isn't usually a good motivator for helping people make tough changes. It usually just intensifies the feelings that the unhealthy behavior is used to cope with in the first place. I don't think the girls should have gone to the media about this, but I guess the manager's dismissive reaction to their complaint may have played a role in that decision.
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It was a shitty thing to do. Plain and simple. I doubt anyone would feel good having a stranger categorize them with a derogatory descriptor. Some may be more able to laugh it off, but others may feel the sting more, especially if their worth has been tied to their appearance. Most of us have those flaws we can laugh at and those that hurt more. There have been some really creative justifications for being rude and objectifying posted on here, but shame isn't usually a good motivator for helping people make tough changes. It usually just intensifies the feelings that the unhealthy behavior is used to cope with in the first place. I don't think the girls should have gone to the media about this, but I guess the manager's dismissive reaction to their complaint may have played a role in that decision.
i agree...
and in the end..there are so many way a restaurant spot an order ..usally there are numbers on the table or a code for not mix the orders....and yes i think they went to the media cos of manager reaction
"...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
maybe these broads should see this as a sign that they shouldn't go out and eat crap anymore. Make it into a positive experience.
Its shitty what that guy did at the register, but if these ladies are going to go to the media, looking for sympathy, and don't do anything for their own health.... then I don't have much sympathy for them.
Would you have thought to go to the news with it? If you were thinking you would know it would just increase the ridicule.
And no one can tell you how to feel. You would chose to be mortified. You could chose to be amused.
Of course not..no news, nobody. But I could never choose to be amused by it... wish I could.
Had he written lady with funny nose, misplaced hippie, whatever else, it would have been funny.
This..not.
peace,
jo
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It was a shitty thing to do. Plain and simple. I doubt anyone would feel good having a stranger categorize them with a derogatory descriptor. Some may be more able to laugh it off, but others may feel the sting more, especially if their worth has been tied to their appearance. Most of us have those flaws we can laugh at and those that hurt more. There have been some really creative justifications for being rude and objectifying posted on here, but shame isn't usually a good motivator for helping people make tough changes. It usually just intensifies the feelings that the unhealthy behavior is used to cope with in the first place. I don't think the girls should have gone to the media about this, but I guess the manager's dismissive reaction to their complaint may have played a role in that decision.
Yeah, that about sums it up, plain and simple.
"It was a shitty thing to do"
But I still cant believe they chose to take that incident to the media.
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Do wait staff really write descriptions of their customers on restaruant bills/checks (vs. strictly table #)? Is this actually a common thing to do? It seems like it is.
....because if it REALLY is common practice, man, feelings are just bound to be hurt.....the possibilites are endless how an "in-fact" description about a person could be considered offensive......"old", "gray", "balding", "fat", "goofy face" "wretched", "grotesque", "nine-foot pole needed" etc....
Do wait staff really write descriptions of their customers on restaruant bills/checks (vs. strictly table #)? Is this actually a common thing to do? It seems like it is.
....because if it REALLY is common practice, man, feelings are just bound to be hurt.....the possibilites are endless how an "in-fact" description about a person could be considered offensive......"old", "gray", "balding", "fat", "goofy face" "wretched", "grotesque", "nine-foot pole needed" etc....
yeah as a former bartender that happens all the time - and it usually says things like douchebags or dickheads. but you always erase that before you print the ticket. trust me - the descriptions are usually meant to amuse and not to be directly said to the people. the service industry has a long tradition of little shit like this. the fact that jeff actually gave the ticket to the girls makes me laugh because i can only imagine what some of my tickets have said in the past .....on those nights where i had a "couple shots" to get through the shift
It was a shitty thing to do. Plain and simple. I doubt anyone would feel good having a stranger categorize them with a derogatory descriptor. Some may be more able to laugh it off, but others may feel the sting more, especially if their worth has been tied to their appearance. Most of us have those flaws we can laugh at and those that hurt more. There have been some really creative justifications for being rude and objectifying posted on here, but shame isn't usually a good motivator for helping people make tough changes. It usually just intensifies the feelings that the unhealthy behavior is used to cope with in the first place. I don't think the girls should have gone to the media about this, but I guess the manager's dismissive reaction to their complaint may have played a role in that decision.
Thank you for articulating the situation perfectly.
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And no one can tell you how to feel. You would chose to be mortified. You could chose to be amused.
(no offense to anyone's profession!)
If people think the waiter should be able to "tell the truth", he should be expected to "hear the truth" as well.
I was made fun of as a skinny girl, I was treated poorly as a fat girl. I didn't like being a fat girl, so I changed that.
Yes, it was wrong for Jeff to write what he did on the ticket, he should be forced to wear a fat suit and bus tables whilst wearing said fat suit for 3 months as 'punishment'. Most people don't benefit from sensitivity training, some people are just born assholes.
The girls got off pretty easy being called 'fat', yes it was mean and cruel, but Jeff could have written down a derogatory racial slur on the ticket.
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"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
and in the end..there are so many way a restaurant spot an order ..usally there are numbers on the table or a code for not mix the orders....and yes i think they went to the media cos of manager reaction
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
Its shitty what that guy did at the register, but if these ladies are going to go to the media, looking for sympathy, and don't do anything for their own health.... then I don't have much sympathy for them.
I sound more course than I mean, probably.
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Of course not..no news, nobody. But I could never choose to be amused by it... wish I could.
Had he written lady with funny nose, misplaced hippie, whatever else, it would have been funny.
This..not.
jo
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"How I choose to feel is how I am." ~ EV/MMc
"Some people hear their own inner voices with great clearness and they live by what they hear. Such people become crazy, or they become legends." ~ One Stab ~
"It was a shitty thing to do"
But I still cant believe they chose to take that incident to the media.
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
One reason.
I have 10 boxes of Twinkies!
:P
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
The assholes can't love themselves ...
....because if it REALLY is common practice, man, feelings are just bound to be hurt.....the possibilites are endless how an "in-fact" description about a person could be considered offensive......"old", "gray", "balding", "fat", "goofy face" "wretched", "grotesque", "nine-foot pole needed" etc....
Thank you for articulating the situation perfectly.