What's in a name?

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  • comebackgirl
    comebackgirl Posts: 9,885
    Forgot to say - Congratulations Hedonist!!! :D Such an exciting time. Best wishes for you both
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    "I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Back in the day it would have been weird not to take JB's last name,
    it was part of the commitment and dedication ...

    it was important to me also that our children had a family name as that was not
    something I enjoyed growing up.

    and yes congratulations! Happy times indeed! :D
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    comebackgirl wrote:
    Forgot to say - Congratulations Hedonist!!! :D Such an exciting time. Best wishes for you both
    Thank you, senorita!

    And pandora as well! I find comfort in some traditions (the ones that make sense to me), but in terms of the name-taking reflecting my commitment, well...it's evident to us in the life we've lived - are living, will continue to live - together ;)
  • Jason P
    Jason P Posts: 19,305
    hedonist wrote:
    They both meet the requirement...but I like mine better :P
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    I would go with Van Pelt over Schroeder. ;):D8-)
    Be Excellent To Each Other
    Party On, Dudes!
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    I really need to get back in the loop.

    I image-googled Van Pelt and came up with this:
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    The fuck, Mr. P? :P

    Agreed that the Mentalist chick is significantly more rawr!-worthy :mrgreen:
  • KC48939
    KC48939 Missoula, MT Posts: 46
    Congratulations, hedonist! And wow - I was just randomly clicking around on these boards, saw your name and it took me back a decade - I remember you from the old Synergy message pit!
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    KC48939 wrote:
    Congratulations, hedonist! And wow - I was just randomly clicking around on these boards, saw your name and it took me back a decade - I remember you from the old Synergy message pit!
    Haha! The pit! - or in really old pit-speak, the BBs :P
  • keeponrockin
    keeponrockin Posts: 7,446
    I have nothing to add but congratulations!
    Believe me, when I was growin up, I thought the worst thing you could turn out to be was normal, So I say freaks in the most complementary way. Here's a song by a fellow freak - E.V
  • _
    _ Posts: 6,657
    Congratulations! Sounds to me from your original post that you already know what you want to do. Personally, I wouldn't change my name, for two reasons:

    1. The original purpose behind wives talking their husbands' names was to dissolve their identities & create new identities that define them only in relation to their husbands. (Because she went from being her Father's property to being her husband's property.) (Kind of like how they used to say, "I now pronounce you man and wife" instead of "husband and wife". "Man" is an individual identity that is not defined by another person. The identity of "wife," however, defines a woman entirely on the basis of her relationship to her husband.) Now people will say it's about commitment - but yet the husbands still don't have to change their identities to show their commitment. Anyway, I don't like the idea that my identity up until now should be dissolved & replaced entirely by being defined in relation to my husband.

    2. I've seen it cause a lot of problems paperwork-wise.
  • polaris_x
    polaris_x Posts: 13,559
    since we started dating ... my gf has been thinking about a new last name ... like combining letters and shit ... no cussing way ... so, we aren't married ... :lol::lol:
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    _ wrote:
    Congratulations! Sounds to me from your original post that you already know what you want to do. Personally, I wouldn't change my name, for two reasons:

    1. The original purpose behind wives talking their husbands' names was to dissolve their identities & create new identities that define them only in relation to their husbands. (Because she went from being her Father's property to being her husband's property.) (Kind of like how they used to say, "I now pronounce you man and wife" instead of "husband and wife". "Man" is an individual identity that is not defined by another person. The identity of "wife," however, defines a woman entirely on the basis of her relationship to her husband.) Now people will say it's about commitment - but yet the husbands still don't have to change their identities to show their commitment. Anyway, I don't like the idea that my identity up until now should be dissolved & replaced entirely by being defined in relation to my husband.

    2. I've seen it cause a lot of problems paperwork-wise.
    Thank you, keepon and "_"!

    Interesting history there...and yes, I pretty much have made up my mind. I know he'd like it if I were to take his name but he's not pushing it; it's not a make-or-break deal. And holy shit, the nightmare of the paperwork! And changing how I sign my name?

    Can't be arsed...WON'T be arsed! :mrgreen:
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    polaris_x wrote:
    since we started dating ... my gf has been thinking about a new last name ... like combining letters and shit ... no cussing way ... so, we aren't married ... :lol::lol:
    Hilarious! We were making fun last night - combining various syllables of our names.

    No cussing way indeed!
  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    hedonist wrote:
    And changing how I sign my name?:

    After nearly 25 years, the signature with my married name still doesn't quite 'flow'!

    On the new name bit - I've got friends who did that. Both of them had a lot of 'family baggage' and sort of wanted to break free - start afresh. They both legally changed their respective names to a new one which had meaning to them. I thought that was really nice.
  • Malroth
    Malroth broken down chevrolet Posts: 2,556
    Just bumping a random hedo thread.
    The worst of times..they don't phase me,
    even if I look and act really crazy.
  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,605
    Melina was such a special poster here in our community! Miss her I get teary eyed reading her words! I’m so glad I was able to send her a box of some of my home made products..
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....

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