Look after yourselves ladies
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There are some monsters in this world. And it has really hit home tonight hearing about the police arresting and charging some prick over the abduction and murder of a young woman from Melbourne.
It hit home tonight because many years ago, my family was on the end of a phone call that no one should have to hear. That was because of some monster nearly taking away someone very near and dear to me. I have always wanted to be placed in a room with this animal, because he thought he was a big man at the time, but I'd show him he was nothing but a weak scumbag piece of shit.
Now, poor Jill Meagher has been taken from her loved ones, by some weak prick and it saddens me.
I wish we lived in a world where I didn't have to urge women to look after themselves, but unfortunately we do. And a plea to men, walk your lady friends home.
I actually write tonight with a tear in my eye.
If you're wondering, this person very close to me has become a real inspiration. She has two degrees and now married with two beautiful boys, whom I love very much. To think, I came so close not to having her or my nephews in my life.
It hit home tonight because many years ago, my family was on the end of a phone call that no one should have to hear. That was because of some monster nearly taking away someone very near and dear to me. I have always wanted to be placed in a room with this animal, because he thought he was a big man at the time, but I'd show him he was nothing but a weak scumbag piece of shit.
Now, poor Jill Meagher has been taken from her loved ones, by some weak prick and it saddens me.
I wish we lived in a world where I didn't have to urge women to look after themselves, but unfortunately we do. And a plea to men, walk your lady friends home.
I actually write tonight with a tear in my eye.
If you're wondering, this person very close to me has become a real inspiration. She has two degrees and now married with two beautiful boys, whom I love very much. To think, I came so close not to having her or my nephews in my life.
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sorry for your ordeal
its very sad that this has happened once again
i find myself wondering about a few things whenever we hear about another young woman, child, or any one of us, is violated
and that is
is it truly more prevalent now or do we just hear about it much more often because of the ease of communication and the way news travels around the world?
is this same news inspiring those who "would" do this if they dared, to actually do it? cuz so many others get away with it?
and also, why is society as a whole becoming so much more negative and acting out in damaging ways? i know i know we hear that there is war, no hope in the world for young people, nothing to look forward to, right? but That in itself is nothing new at all...when i was a kid we were scared to death of russia (although i had no idea that it was russia at the time), and cuba. we had air raid siren drills on a weekly basis that terrified me to say the least. there was the constant threat of attack on america. there were fighter jets over NJ/PA all the time. sonic booms were heard from them almost daily. there were serial killers, the most notable ones in society at that time. money was just as hard to come by and gas quadrupled in price in just a couple of years. not to mention all the natural disasters and crooked politicians...you see?? all the same stuff. so WHAT IS IT that has actually changed the people of the world today? the disillusion of youth, the TOTAL DISRESPECT we have for one another, especially obvious in younger people? what is it? exactly? that allows some of us to think that we can do whatever damage we feel like at that particular moment no matter the consequences to others around us?
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RIP jill meagher. :(
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I don't think the OP meant it as it's all the ladies fault. I think they meant that there are monsters out there everyday, so just be careful and look after yourself.
So sad to hear this news, RIP Jill.
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i didnt take it as the OP saying its all our fault.
and you know what its not just monsters out there. its a general attitude that women ask to be attacked simply because theyre dressed a cerrtain way or cause theyre out at 3am or cause theyre drunk. was she asking for it?? and i see this attiitude in not only men but women too. yes it is ok that we drink. yes it is ok that we wear a short skirt or plunging neckline and yes it is ok that after a great night out we find ourselves on the streets at 3am... it is not okay for anyone to think that we are fair game. and that we somehow ask to be harassed, abused, attacked, raped or murdered because of that.
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Sorry, didn't mean to start anything.
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its all cool... you didnt start anything.
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Oh come on...
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problem?
you know the allowance of bad behaviour against women devalues the good guys so why not get on i cause its not okay... thats all im saying.
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My point was this... We are all vulnerable. Some more than others. My appeal was directed at women cause lets face it there are animals in this world, who pick on vulnerable women. When I head out, I am told 'look after yourself'. Often when you end a conversation we are told 'take care' or before you drive 'drive safe'
Now I could have made a thread telling the animals in this world to stay in doors or leave people alone, but what good would that do? And as it turns out this thread has done little for what it's intended purposes were.
Poor Jill Meagher had a friend who twice asked her if he could walk her home, she declined. Perhaps she had the same mentality as many others 'I'll be fine'. I see that so often. Unfortunately Jill was abducted, raped and murdered. Absolutely tragic.
Now for anyone who wants to have the mentality that 'Don't tell me to look after myself, how about telling the dirtbags to keep their dick in their pants' I find quite ignorant.
Recently a young man was king hit in kings cross and he died. On my next trip into the city, my mother said 'be careful' Did I turn around and say to her 'Mum, how about you go and find these scumbags and tell them to careful. Tell them to get off the streets'
No because there are some things that are out of her control. Much like sending a message to prospective murderers and rapists are out of my control. Unless there are some in this community who read this thread.
Would you prefer it if next time I made a thread along the lines of 'Rapists, murderers and kidnappers, please leave people alone'. Because the chances of that getting read by a potential rapist, murder or kidnapper is very minimal...
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i didnt say you said it was the womens fault they are targetted. i even said so in a subsequent post. did you read my whole post and think about what was said in it???
have you never heard/heard of some fool guy after being rejected by a woman say oh shesa dyke? or when asked whats up with her only to have the answer be oh shes frigid or something to that effect. never a thought that theyre being a douchbag/ but somehow a rejection of them is somehow not because theyre drunk or impolite. sometimes woman just arent interested. or how about when guys drive by, honk their horn sometimes leaning out the window making suggestive and salacious comments??? this is the behaviour im speaking of. woman should be able to walk the streets or socialise where ever they want without being the targets of mens bad behaviour. and as i said it devalues the good guys. and to assume we dont look after ourselves and that we arent allowed to make poor decisions isnt kosher. and yes men too should be able to walk the streets without some fool king hitting them or fronting up looking for a fight. the mentality of such people blows my mind. going up to a total stranger and challenging them? what makesthem think the person they approach cant and wont kick their sorry arse???
people will be a little more weary because of jill meaghers murder and that of thomas kelly(when they go to the cross).. but for how long? then well be back to predatory and bullshit behaviour until the next time someone is killed. we dont allow racist behaviour to pass by unchallenged so why should sexist comments and actions be any different?
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Women are such strong creatures but we really need to accept that there are monsters out there and to play it safe sometimes.
RIP Jill xxxxx
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I understand the purpose of the thread & I agree. But, just for the record, some people have that mentality that you find ignorant because the "look after yourself" perspective has been quite problematic on a systemic level. Like, with men getting acquitted of rape & stuff because the woman "should have been more careful". So that's why many people are sensitive to that kind of language - not because of ignorance (quite the contrary). (I'm not trying to represent cate's perspective though.)
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exactly
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I do understand what the OP is saying. I'm sorry you were impacted by a similar situation. This is such a horrifying story. My thoughts go out to the victim and her family.
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"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
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"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
So angry going to work today.
The maggots pics are all over Facebook.
He looks like a steroid using creep.
RIP Jill :(
Who raise men that can drug and then rape an unconscious girl?
What father is an example for something so horrifying?
What man can be so unfeeling and selfish?
We teach children right from wrong.
We teach them to feel, to know, to care.
This is everyone's responsibility.
For bastards like this it all comes down to opportunity.
Do not give anyone an opportunity to victimize,
prepare, arm, fight ...
man, woman and child and for God's sake give your life if necessary to save another.
as for the OP..same as i told u in the past..glad your favo person is safe and doing great
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So they know who did it, then? Have they caught him?
Yep.
He's in prison now awaiting trial.
http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/victor ... 6483766187
as if we arent already??? we dont need to told to look after ourselves or be more aware...
and what risk? walking home shouldnt be classed as a risk. in this case and in many others home is just up the street. and in this and probably a vast majority of other cases its probably a walk shes done so many times before. unfortunately this time adrian bayley was watching. it happened and it is horrendous that it did. but we dont need to be reminded to look after ourselves or be aware.. because of the adrian bayleys we already are. but lets not forget for australians this is an uncommon occurrence. the majority of women in this country are murdered by someone they know or soemone they live with.
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"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
I remember back to when I was younger though and I sometimes thought I was invincible and without going into the details, I truly regret some decisions.
Monsters like that son of a bitch sometimes seek certain opportunities, it's sad and fucked up but it's true and no matter how much education is given, some sick pathetic arsewipes are always going to do it.
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lets call it discussing, not arguing.
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