So, my neighbor *stole* my cat...
RKCNDY
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okay, not really *stole* but well, I'll start from the beginning.
Lived in the area for 7 years. When we first moved in, only one person came by to say 'hello', and I've always waved at the neighbors when I see them out in their yard, most never wave back, whatever be a sourpuss.
Anyway, one of the cats, Booger has always been a 'roamer'. He was left behind by a roommate years ago, and kind of adopted Mr. RK (before I met Mr. RK). Booger never really cared for me and would actually try to bite me. So, I just left him alone.
Fast Forward 4 years, Mr. RK and I bought a house, and Booger has an 'issue' that is becoming more and more common...he pees on the kitchen counter and poops in the kitchen sink. Now, it's not him 'mistaking' the sink for a litter box, because he would pee on one side of the counter, and poop in the opposite side of the sink. This would be an everyday thing. :x I put out 2 more litter boxes, I tried everything to keep him off the counter, I put tape sticky side up on the counter, and we would just find him sitting in the kitchen covered in tape. I put cans along the edge of the counter so he couldn't judge the edge, nope, he'd jump thru the cans and knock ALL of them on the floor. I put a chair mat with the pokey nubs sticking up on the counter, it didn't stop him. He still peed and pooped in the kitchen.
Mr. RK decides, Booger has to stay an outdoor only kitty. A few years later some new renters move in a few houses away. They leave their garage door open slightly for their dog. Booger decides to go wandering and starts spending time at the new neighbor's house (he'd be gone for a few days, and we'd see him in their window). Cool, he can pee on their counter and poop in their sink.
So, a month ago-after Booger has pretty much exclusively stayed at their house for a year-the neighbor lady comes by, "I wanted to make sure you didn't think we were stealing your cat or anything" I told her, "He's always been a roamer" and gave her his history of wandering, being gone for days, and the fact that he has a bathroom problem (and that's why we don't keep him indoors). I tell her, "We've always wanted to find him a new home, he just doesn't seem happy. If he's happy with your family, we're happy for him". So she asks me if he has had all his shots. I told her I used to work at a vet clinic, and the last time I took him in, he freaked out and earned an orange sticker on his chart (bad kitties get orange stickers). So she asks if she should take him in. I told her he was about 17 and probably too old/frail to go to the vet again. So, she says 'ok' and leaves.
Now, 2 weeks ago the neighbor lady comes by again. She says that Booger hasn't been doing well. She took him to the vet and did x-rays, he has a mass growing in his lungs, and there isn't anything they can do. She tells me, "We love him so much, and I cannot believe how much he loves my husband, I mean, I have never seen a cat so attached to a human. He is just so special.", she is almost in tears. "If there is anything you would like us to do, like cremate him...or....or..." I thank her and say I will talk to Mr. RK since Booger was originally 'his' cat. She says 'okay' and leaves.
My question is, do we owe her any money for the care of Booger? We didn't officially 'give' him to her, he adopted them.
oh, and my other cat has been spending a lot of time at her house (him and Booger are friends). She keeps the garage closed now, and I haven't seen my other kitty for a few days.
(sorry this is so long, but I eagerly await your sarcastic replies!)
Lived in the area for 7 years. When we first moved in, only one person came by to say 'hello', and I've always waved at the neighbors when I see them out in their yard, most never wave back, whatever be a sourpuss.
Anyway, one of the cats, Booger has always been a 'roamer'. He was left behind by a roommate years ago, and kind of adopted Mr. RK (before I met Mr. RK). Booger never really cared for me and would actually try to bite me. So, I just left him alone.
Fast Forward 4 years, Mr. RK and I bought a house, and Booger has an 'issue' that is becoming more and more common...he pees on the kitchen counter and poops in the kitchen sink. Now, it's not him 'mistaking' the sink for a litter box, because he would pee on one side of the counter, and poop in the opposite side of the sink. This would be an everyday thing. :x I put out 2 more litter boxes, I tried everything to keep him off the counter, I put tape sticky side up on the counter, and we would just find him sitting in the kitchen covered in tape. I put cans along the edge of the counter so he couldn't judge the edge, nope, he'd jump thru the cans and knock ALL of them on the floor. I put a chair mat with the pokey nubs sticking up on the counter, it didn't stop him. He still peed and pooped in the kitchen.
Mr. RK decides, Booger has to stay an outdoor only kitty. A few years later some new renters move in a few houses away. They leave their garage door open slightly for their dog. Booger decides to go wandering and starts spending time at the new neighbor's house (he'd be gone for a few days, and we'd see him in their window). Cool, he can pee on their counter and poop in their sink.
So, a month ago-after Booger has pretty much exclusively stayed at their house for a year-the neighbor lady comes by, "I wanted to make sure you didn't think we were stealing your cat or anything" I told her, "He's always been a roamer" and gave her his history of wandering, being gone for days, and the fact that he has a bathroom problem (and that's why we don't keep him indoors). I tell her, "We've always wanted to find him a new home, he just doesn't seem happy. If he's happy with your family, we're happy for him". So she asks me if he has had all his shots. I told her I used to work at a vet clinic, and the last time I took him in, he freaked out and earned an orange sticker on his chart (bad kitties get orange stickers). So she asks if she should take him in. I told her he was about 17 and probably too old/frail to go to the vet again. So, she says 'ok' and leaves.
Now, 2 weeks ago the neighbor lady comes by again. She says that Booger hasn't been doing well. She took him to the vet and did x-rays, he has a mass growing in his lungs, and there isn't anything they can do. She tells me, "We love him so much, and I cannot believe how much he loves my husband, I mean, I have never seen a cat so attached to a human. He is just so special.", she is almost in tears. "If there is anything you would like us to do, like cremate him...or....or..." I thank her and say I will talk to Mr. RK since Booger was originally 'his' cat. She says 'okay' and leaves.
My question is, do we owe her any money for the care of Booger? We didn't officially 'give' him to her, he adopted them.
oh, and my other cat has been spending a lot of time at her house (him and Booger are friends). She keeps the garage closed now, and I haven't seen my other kitty for a few days.
(sorry this is so long, but I eagerly await your sarcastic replies!)
The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
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This is sad; I'd never make a sarcastic remark about this.
Sounds like they've given him a good and loving home (one that just works better for him). I don't think you "owe" them anything per se, but it sure would be a nice gesture on your part to show them appreciation for their care of him - whether in monetary form, maybe some kitty toys or a gift card to a petstore.
Losing a cat absolutely sucks, even if it's their time.0 -
Booger is a fantastic name for a pet0
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rick1zoo2 wrote:Booger is a fantastic name for a pet
It's his nickname...I would never give a cat the name he was given...The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
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I don't know anything about cats, but I don't think that you owe them anything at all. Sounds like they took Booger in and were happy with him and that they've been keeping you updated on his status out of courtesy. I agree with hedonist, it might be a nice gesture to send a little something but in terms of medical expenses, I say you're completely off the hook.
I'm sorry to hear that he's not doing well :(WI '98, WI '99 (EV), WI '00, Chgo '00, MO '00, Champaign '03, Chgo '03, WI '03, IN '03, MI '04, Chgo '06:N1 & 2, WI '06, Chgo '07, Chgo '08 (EV:N1), Chgo '09:N1 & 2, Chgo '11 (EV:N1), WI '11:N1 & 2, Philly '12, Wrigley '13, Pitt '13, Buff '13, Detroit '14, MKE '14, Wrigley '16: N1 & N2, Seattle '18 N2, Wrigley '18: N1 & N2, Fenway '18 N1, STL '22, St Paul '23 N2, Chgo '23: N1 & N2, Wrigley '24 N1 & 20 -
their problem.... dont bother with anythingHamilton 9-13-05; Toronto 5-9-06, Toronto 8-21-09, Toronto 9-12-11, Hamilton 9-15-11....0
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if she didn't ask for money, i wouldn't worry about it.....
poor wittle booger.So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream
Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me0 -
wish someone would *steal* my ex like that0
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Losing pets sucks. Reading what you have written I don't think you're obligated but if it makes you feel good go ahead.0
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I'm glad you let Booger pick his choice of homes... see what I did there?
You are off the obligation hook; Booger is the neighbor's cat now. Do what you see fit.
My cat of 15 years is dying on me; she keeps having little seizures that are getting worse. Only a matter of time... There is one human, other than immediate family, that is still a part of my life from back when she first adopted me. I've managed to distance myself from all the rest. Basically my best friend for a decade and a half.
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I'd probably offer to pay half, or something of the sort.Gimli 1993
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I wouldn't pay anything. The cat sounds like an asshole.0
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Hugh Freaking Dillon wrote:
How did you know his name is a character from Seinfeld?The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
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RKCNDY wrote:Hugh Freaking Dillon wrote:
How did you know his name is a character from Seinfeld?
what Seinfeld character was named booger?Gimli 1993
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If you saw my second post...RKCNDY wrote:rick1zoo2 wrote:Booger is a fantastic name for a pet
It's his nickname...I would never give a cat the name he was given...The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
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I'm sorry about Booger's declining health. I don't know about the payment...
This was long before we could google symptoms. My sister's cat peed in the sink and she took him to the vet and he had a urinary tract problem. She told me that when they pee in an unusual place, they want to show you they are in pain. When my Tigger peed on a sleeping bag in front of me and cried, I took him to the vet and he too had a urinary tract problem.
When my new cat started pooping outside of his clean box, I googled it and it is the sign of a problem. We took him to the vet and he had a gland problem like dogs get and they get cleaned at the groomer's. I've always had cats and this is the first one that had to be worked on back there twice now. Too gross to describe here...
I hope it all works out for you.9/98, 9/00 - DC, 4/03 - Pitt., 7/03 - Bristow, 10/04 - Reading, 10/05 - Philly, 5/06 - DC, 6/06 - Pitt., 6/08 - Va Beach, 6/08 - DC, 5/10 - Bristow, 10/13 B'more
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iluvcats wrote:I'm sorry about Booger's declining health. I don't know about the payment...
This was long before we could google symptoms. My sister's cat peed in the sink and she took him to the vet and he had a urinary tract problem. She told me that when they pee in an unusual place, they want to show you they are in pain. When my Tigger peed on a sleeping bag in front of me and cried, I took him to the vet and he too had a urinary tract problem.
When my new cat started pooping outside of his clean box, I googled it and it is the sign of a problem. We took him to the vet and he had a gland problem like dogs get and they get cleaned at the groomer's. I've always had cats and this is the first one that had to be worked on back there twice now. Too gross to describe here...
I hope it all works out for you.
I had taken him to the vet for the peeing/pooping issue. Everything was all normal.
Thanks for the replies everyone, (except for DS's 'honest reply' in the 'Price is Right' thread.
I kinda felt, if Booger wanted a new home, found it, and is happy, so be it. Even though he didn't like me much, I feel sorry that the poor guy is suffering (I have different views on euthanasia for pets).
Be well Booger.The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
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RKCNDY wrote:iluvcats wrote:I'm sorry about Booger's declining health. I don't know about the payment...
This was long before we could google symptoms. My sister's cat peed in the sink and she took him to the vet and he had a urinary tract problem. She told me that when they pee in an unusual place, they want to show you they are in pain. When my Tigger peed on a sleeping bag in front of me and cried, I took him to the vet and he too had a urinary tract problem.
When my new cat started pooping outside of his clean box, I googled it and it is the sign of a problem. We took him to the vet and he had a gland problem like dogs get and they get cleaned at the groomer's. I've always had cats and this is the first one that had to be worked on back there twice now. Too gross to describe here...
I hope it all works out for you.
I had taken him to the vet for the peeing/pooping issue. Everything was all normal.
Thanks for the replies everyone, (except for DS's 'honest reply' in the 'Price is Right' thread.
I kinda felt, if Booger wanted a new home, found it, and is happy, so be it. Even though he didn't like me much, I feel sorry that the poor guy is suffering (I have different views on euthanasia for pets).
Be well Booger.
I'm sorry his reply was so "honest."9/98, 9/00 - DC, 4/03 - Pitt., 7/03 - Bristow, 10/04 - Reading, 10/05 - Philly, 5/06 - DC, 6/06 - Pitt., 6/08 - Va Beach, 6/08 - DC, 5/10 - Bristow, 10/13 B'more
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RKCNDY wrote:
oh, right! I said Kramer because the cat seems to like to mooch off anyone who will oblige! LOLGimli 1993
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Sorry to hear about the cat being sick it does sound like he found what he was looking for ...jesus greets me looks just like me ....0
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