Anyone dated someone who was firm in their beliefs of not having pre-marital sex?
If so, how did you deal with it, and how long did it last (or does it continue)?
For the record, I am not the one with the beliefs on no pre-marital sex... bit late to develop those beliefs
Or alternatively, if you haven't dated anyone like this, could you see yourself dating them?
There is no way I'd marry someone without having sex with them, and I wouldn't marry a virgin because assuming i go age appropriate, I'd be marrying a 36 - 42 year old virgin, and I want no part of THAT train wreck. I know from experience that there can be a LOT of unpleasant surprises in the context of first times with people and sexual inexperience, and I wouldn't want to be married to any of those surprises!
Plus, I think that people get better at sex with experience... you marry someone who's never done it, and you've got at least a few YEARS to wait before your partner has really gotten the hang of certain things or clues into some pretty necessary procedural matters. Better to start the marriage at full throttle IMHO.
More seriously, I have not found that sex with someone you love is in any way detracted from because you've done it before. So I have a hard time seeing the point of "saving" yourself, since it doesn't work towards better sex or a tighter connection with the person you choose to marry at all. I think the idea just stems from some pretty fucked up religious hang ups that stem from dogma created by people who likely had sexual disorders of some kind.
Finally, I don't get it because what about divorce and remarriage? Just as many people who save themselves for their first spouse will get divorced as people who did have premarital sex... so what about the second marriages? Are they debased or what? The whole line of thinking just doesn't work in a world where 50% of marriages end in divorce.
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Hmm. Interesting... Just make sure you don't draw it out too long. If you don't want to ask her to marry you (or she doesn't want to marry you) after a year or two of dating, then you should probably cut her loose so that she can meet someone she can sex with, and so you can get some too! I mean, with this rule of hers, you can't exactly have a long courtship, which most people are apt to have these days. I mean, how long can you possibly wait before you're just irritated with the whole thing??
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Bahahahahaa.
Plus, I think that people get better at sex with experience... you marry someone who's never done it, and you've got at least a few YEARS to wait before your partner has really gotten the hang of certain things or clues into some pretty necessary procedural matters.
More seriously, I have not found that sex with someone you love is in any way detracted from because you've done it before. So I have a hard time seeing the point of "saving" yourself, since it doesn't work towards better sex or a tighter connection with the person you choose to marry at all. I think the idea just stems from some pretty fucked up religious hang ups that stem from dogma created by people who likely had sexual disorders of some kind.
Finally, I don't get it because what about divorce and remarriage? Just as many people who save themselves for their first spouse will get divorced as people who did have premarital sex... so what about the second marriages? Are they debased or what? The whole line of thinking just doesn't work in a world where 50% of marriages end in divorce.
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EV Sydney 18/03/2011
EV Sydney 19/03/2011
EV Sydney 20/03/2011
Melbourne 24/01/2014
Sydney 26/01/2014
EV Sydney 13/02/2014
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Hmm. Interesting... Just make sure you don't draw it out too long. If you don't want to ask her to marry you (or she doesn't want to marry you) after a year or two of dating, then you should probably cut her loose so that she can meet someone she can sex with, and so you can get some too!
Sydney 14/02/2003
Sydney 07/11/2006
Sydney 18/11/2006
Sydney 22/11/2009
EV Sydney 18/03/2011
EV Sydney 19/03/2011
EV Sydney 20/03/2011
Melbourne 24/01/2014
Sydney 26/01/2014
EV Sydney 13/02/2014