Parents hides childs gender from public !
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I don't agree with them at all .... I feel for the kid ...
I don't agree with them at all .... I feel for the kid ...
jesus greets me looks just like me ....
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This kid is going to start school with a really strange sense of identity. I work with kids, I am also nearing the end of a teaching degree, and what I know about children is that they struggle to accept difference in early ages. This kid I can only assume is going to be gender confused, sometimes playing with 'boys' things, sometimes playing with 'girl' things. My worry for this child is that they will struggle to make any meaningful relationships....
What's going to happen when this child needs to go to the toilet? which one is he going to walk in? Simple things like this that will get children noticing that 'hey this kid isn't like us' and will be excluded from social interactions.
I'm all for difference, and I thing we should embrace difference rather than suppress, but this is taking it to a whole new level...
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Sounds almost like they wanted a daughter and they're taking it out on him.
I don't think stereotypes are right any more than any reasonable person, but there's gotta be better ways around them than making your child a target.
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'boy' things and 'girl' things just like pink as a girls colour are social constructs. what would be confusing to a child is being told they cant play with something they want because its deemed a girls(or a boys) toy.
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That's my point and why I put them in these two things ' '.
If he wants to rock up to school in a dress, but then have to go and use the boys toilet, could you imagine the difficulty he will have making friends?
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Yeah, this quote said it all to me:
"Sasha dresses in clothes he likes -- be it a hand-me-downs from his sister or his brother. The big no-no's are hyper-masculine outfits like skull-print shirts and cargo pants. In one photo, sent to friends and family, Sasha's dressed in a shiny pink girl's swimsuit."
Sounds to me like he is allowed to wear what he wants, as long as it's what THEY want. Which is apparently girls clothes. "Hyper masculine" is a no-no, but hyper-feminine is fine.
well then perhaps hell only wear a dress to school once... kids can be cruel and truth be told conforming at school is one of its reasons for existing. any kid 'outside the norm' can be a target. a boy wearing a dress is no different. or maybe just maybe your low opinion of school society wont come to fruition and this child will be embraced exactly the way he is.
have you any idea just when it was males stopped wearing dresses? :think:
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And what's my low opinion of school society? I know a girl who is about to go into year 3, has some condition where she physically impaired, speech impaired you name it. Now she is a lovely girl, but she is 'different', and who is her only friend? A year 2 girl who continues to wee and poo herself. They are each other's only true friends. The other children aren't cruel to them, quite the opposite. The only time kids might get a little restless is if the girl has had an accident and you might get a 'So and so stinks'
What I'm talking about is meaningful relationships. You might get people who are nice and accepting, but when the rest of the 'boys' want to be 'boys', and the other 'girls' want to be 'girls', where is this kid going to find himself?
Now this isn't exclusive to the school I work in, its kids...
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I can guarantee this wee boy will have already been exposed to other kids asking if he is a boy or a girl,kids are so curious,how the hell the parents have managed to keep that a secret for 5 years is beyond me.
I am all for diversity and having worked with children for a long time they have always been allowed to play and dress with none gender defined toys and dress up.His parents if they had researched how to do this well could have still raised him as a boy with the principles that they would not lead him to gender specific play or activities,all done without denying his gender.
Adult always seem to end up messing kids up one way or another :?
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
one day, quite possibly very soon, this boy will most likely approach his parents and tell them he no longer wishes to wear frilly shit. heck ive know girls that have done that. if the parents stay true to their philosophy they will allow the boy to wear or not wear what he wishes. school exerts a lot of influence on children(everyone who has gone to school knows this. and they see it in their own chilcren) so lets just see how this boys grows before we start condemning his parents.
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They refer to him as the infant to anyone out with the immediate family.They are not allowing him to wear whatever he wants as they do not offer him what they call hyper masculine clothes of combats and skull t-shirts yet will provide him with a (hyper feminine) frilly pink swimsuit,this seems a contradiction to fit their needs/social experiment or whatever it is they have smoked.
What I saw in the photo was very evidentially a boy dressed in girls clothes,they can be as gender unspecific as they want but once out of young babyhood boys and girls faces are different,even if the parent decided to grow the boys hair long/keep a girls hair short,the structure of the face is different.
Are we to assume in order to continue to conceal his gender he has not experienced some activities that are normal in childhood.
I don't doubt the boy will know he is physically a boy but emotionally and psychologically I am not sure.
i dont think we should be assuming anything about a child we dont even know.
i never allowed my kids to wear camouflage and skull motifs either when they were younger either. camo is still not allowed as long as i am the one buying their clothes. and pink camo??? wtf is that??? i also didnt allow guns or representations of guns or surprise surprise any gunplay. now that the youngest are preteen and teenage i pretty much allow them to pick their own clothes so long as i approve... which generally runs to the nearly 13 year old girl not wearing age inappropriate clothing. and yes it is me as her parent that decides that.
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I agree with your parenting but this article is about far more than that.By the very fact the article exists will have people assuming,debating,agreeing,disagreeing that is what we do when faced with something that makes us evaluate and question our own experiences and those of others.
It would not be my choice to parent that way,I see no wrong in confirming a child's gender.
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everyone wants to be a modern day peace loving freedom garden growin hippy who lives purely with the earth and has no ties that bind them to catergories. again failure catches up with most of us no matter our beliefs.
i think these people are out of their damn minds and seek attention.
someone oughta say, "we could give a damn about you and your kid" or "your kid sucks because you made it that way" or "you are the equlivalent of (expletive deleted)"
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or are you just enjoying the debate... ?
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Without both parents and immediate family all following the same rules I think all it's doing is testing other peoples attitudes and not doing the child any favours.
But that's just my opinion.
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I don't think the point of this, regardless of what they say, was for the child to be gender neutral and choose their own path. The story from about 6 months ago about the Canadian couple doing a similar thing was more along those lines because they apparently (at least according to the story) let the child choose to wear whatever he/she wanted. This child is being steered towards wearing the feminine clothes. So it's not really an "experiment" as much as it's just a case of these parents trying to steer the child into dressing like a girl. The fact they told him that masculine shirts and cargo pants are a "no-no" but the second he dresses in a shiny pink girls swimsuit it gets photographed and sent out to all their friends and family tells you what the parents agenda is. They don't want a gender neutral child, they want a girl.
I don't think he has a dad. He has two mothers.
thanks for the sexist viewpoint chad.
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whos to say it isnt alright? i have no problem with it. the flipside is a child deciding to dress himself and then coming out wearing his sisters dress and the parents freaking out and saying no no no johnny boys dont wear dresses. and when little johnny asks why not.. the parents struggle to find an answer that doesnt make them look like idiots.. cause in my opinion 'just cause' or' its just not done in our society' or 'boys dont wear dresses', when clearly all throughout history they actually have, are not good responses to a child expressing him/herself.
oh and yes of course im enjoying the debate.
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