So today will be the hardest day of my life...

Thanksgiving will be a tough day for me. Not only beacuse I lost my dad this year and this is the first major holiday. Not because this is the first holiday apart from the girl I shared 8 years with, but because of my brother. My older brother has cerebral palsy and is mentally retarded. I remember his face when we brought him in the hospital room and my dad's body was there but his life wasn't and he realized it. It was the most heart wrenching thing I have ever seen to see his face transfrom from ignorance to total sadness. The girl I'm talking about, Theresa would hug my brother and give him a kiss whenever they saw each other...reach out to him and not be afraid. Afraid like he was some weird monster. That's one of the biggest reasons I fell so much in love with her. My brother adores this girl. Not many people are comfortable around the handicapped and disabled and she was fine with it. I'm dreading today when my brother asks me "WHere's Theresa"? I don't know what the fuck to say? I know how bad I'll be feeling sitting at the table and I can't imagine how he will be feeling? :(
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I have to say, you are a very thoughtful and kind brother to be concerned for his feelings when you are going through such a tough transition yourself. I know you will figure out the best way to tell him. Big hugs to you and your brother. Its going to be a sad day for your whole family, but you will get through this. I am sure your dad would want this family together and enjoying the holiday the best they can despite the changes that have taken place.
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For what it's worth, I'm sending good karma waves in your direction and hope that you and your brother have a nice holiday, despite the difficulties. A lot of loss this year - no doubt of that...but at least you still have each other.
Take care, and have a good day.
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I was going to ask how you were coping.. Guess not very well still.. Hang in there, man. Follow the path ahead of you! If this is the lowest part of your life, it can only get better.
hope you can get through this day
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cheers my friend,
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Important thing is that you still have your brother, make the best of it
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And know that you have many people here that are here for you and will be thinking about you!
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Don't say it sucks shes not here, say its fucking great that my bro IS here and I am going to enjoy this time with family. At the end of the day, that's all we have bro. Don't wallow in your sadness. Shake it off and enjoy what you DO have, and not what you do not have.
Happy Thanksgiving!
I could not have said it better.
Enjoy the time with your brother and your family today.
You will find the things you are thankful for right around your table today... You have a loving family and they will get you through this... whether you want them too or not
And be thankful you have all of us
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My Thanksgiving is going to have an element of sadness to it, but I'm going to concentrate on all the love that's going to be in the room.
Hang in there....things will get better....and I'll keep you in my thoughts.
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wish the best to you and your family.
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