What was the last thing you remember dreaming about?

pandora

last dream was about Christmas carols and composing new ones

We All Believe

I used to dream all the time. All. The. Time.

I haven't dreamt regularly in years. Not sure if it coincides w/the fact that I don't sleep regularly through the night anymore. Probably does. I either get up to pee, or I just wake up for no reason and go back to bed.

Last night, I had an incredibly vivid dream about my ex. We were with her kids at a pool and a house I didn't recognize, with a bunch of people I didn't recognize.

Her kids and I were the only ones swimming. She was in a tree high about the pool, looking for squirrels.

She was talking to everyone except me.

I kept talking to her, and offered her money to jump from the tree into the pool. The tree was pretty high up, but she definitely could have jumped into the pool safely.

My offer was up to $5K, and she finally looked at me.

I woke up.

I haven't spoken to her in years, but I do think about her quite a bit. Can't help it.

hauntingfamiliar

We All Believe said:

I used to dream all the time. All. The. Time.

I haven't dreamt regularly in years. Not sure if it coincides w/the fact that I don't sleep regularly through the night anymore. Probably does. I either get up to pee, or I just wake up for no reason and go back to bed.

Last night, I had an incredibly vivid dream about my ex. We were with her kids at a pool and a house I didn't recognize, with a bunch of people I didn't recognize.

Her kids and I were the only ones swimming. She was in a tree high about the pool, looking for squirrels.

She was talking to everyone except me.

I kept talking to her, and offered her money to jump from the tree into the pool. The tree was pretty high up, but she definitely could have jumped into the pool safely.

My offer was up to $5K, and she finally looked at me.

I woke up.

I haven't spoken to her in years, but I do think about her quite a bit. Can't help it.

Ha! Nice thread bump!! We need to explore this more! :🤣

Did she have a passion for squirrels? Why did you want her to jump from the tree?! 5K is a lot of money! Were  you angry with her? How long have you been separated? Did she have these kids after you broke up or before? So many questions! 

I love dreams. I don't dream nearly as much as I used to either. I really had to think about it and my last 2 dreams involved the same male co-worker. He's 100% gay and 17 years younger than me so there is no romantic connection. We just hit it off and have the same since of humor. In my last dream he drove me to Taco Bell in my car. I've never ridden in a car with him before ( I don't normally associate with him outside of work) and I haven't eaten Taco Bell in probably a decade or more. In my dream he was driving like a lunatic and almost crashed my car. I told him about my dream the next day and he told me that I reminded him of his old best friend from Atlanta and they used to go to Taco Bell together. Dreams are so weird. 

We All Believe

@hauntingfamiliar

Dreams are definitely weird. Does that mean that you two now have to go to Taco Bell lol? If so, YOU have to drive.

I miss Taco Bell. Haven't had it in forever.

We've been apart for 5 years. We went to grammar school together, reconnected in the 2000s when social media blew up.

She was technically married at the time, but the relationship was long over. Her husband stopped loving her but refused to divorce her (her words). They have 2 kids.

I shot my shot, and it was brief but fantastic. I fell hard. Told her I loved her, never heard it back.

He found out about me and eviscerated her in front of the kids. She ended things, but told me she wasn't completely giving up on us.

The pandemic started, so we couldn't see each other, and I eventually stopped hearing from her. I didn't hear from her on my birthday, so I gave up.

Two years ago, sent her a note, not sure if it was her number (I deleted it), told her I'd always love her.

I've dated other women since, and it was great to go on that first date post-breakup, but I don't think I'll ever really get over her. But if she called me today, I'd have to think about it. We've been apart for too long IMO. 5 years is an eternity. And I don't think I'd survive if she came back and left again. I'll just need to find another brunette that loves 90s music lol (but no D*ve M*tthews).

I figured if I could get her to jump from the tree, she'd finally talk to me lol, or maybe she'd talk to me when I gave her the money.

I did not dream last night. Got almost no sleep.

But dreams have never been the answer, right?

We All Believe

Another odd dream last night.

My mom and her sister (my aunt/Godmother) were coming back from vacation (a cruise), and I picked them up.

The pick-up spot at the dock was the underground garage at the apartment building where I grew up, and I met them at my old parking spot.

My mom had one small bag, but my aunt had a huge suitcase and multiple bags, and they were all open and things were falling out.

hauntingfamiliar

We All Believe said:

@hauntingfamiliar

Dreams are definitely weird. Does that mean that you two now have to go to Taco Bell lol? If so, YOU have to drive.

I miss Taco Bell. Haven't had it in forever.

We've been apart for 5 years. We went to grammar school together, reconnected in the 2000s when social media blew up.

She was technically married at the time, but the relationship was long over. Her husband stopped loving her but refused to divorce her (her words). They have 2 kids.

I shot my shot, and it was brief but fantastic. I fell hard. Told her I loved her, never heard it back.

He found out about me and eviscerated her in front of the kids. She ended things, but told me she wasn't completely giving up on us.

The pandemic started, so we couldn't see each other, and I eventually stopped hearing from her. I didn't hear from her on my birthday, so I gave up.

Two years ago, sent her a note, not sure if it was her number (I deleted it), told her I'd always love her.

I've dated other women since, and it was great to go on that first date post-breakup, but I don't think I'll ever really get over her. But if she called me today, I'd have to think about it. We've been apart for too long IMO. 5 years is an eternity. And I don't think I'd survive if she came back and left again. I'll just need to find another brunette that loves 90s music lol (but no D*ve M*tthews).

I figured if I could get her to jump from the tree, she'd finally talk to me lol, or maybe she'd talk to me when I gave her the money.

I did not dream last night. Got almost no sleep.

But dreams have never been the answer, right?

Ha, ha no he will NOT be allowed to drive my car!

It sounds like her ex was a bit controlling. He didn't want to be with her, but he also didn't want her with anyone else.  Or maybe at some level they were still trying to work through it?

Either way, it's just so tough to love someone so much and circumstances that you can't control prevent you from being with the person. It sounds like fate tried to bring you back together, but your pathways just didn't align. It sounds like due to circumstances with the ex and the kids, you all never got to give the relationship a real shot. And then you all just stopped talking due to Covid, etc, more circumstances you couldn't control,and you never got any closure. Sometimes we just can't seem to get the exact closure we need when a relationship ends. Break ups suck. 

Dreams have a way of trying to move around, unpack and restore our subconscious feelings. They can be funny too! It sounds like your subconscious was finding a little humor in the situation and maybe telling you it is okay to move on. 

We All Believe

hauntingfamiliar said:

We All Believe said:

@hauntingfamiliar

Dreams are definitely weird. Does that mean that you two now have to go to Taco Bell lol? If so, YOU have to drive.

I miss Taco Bell. Haven't had it in forever.

We've been apart for 5 years. We went to grammar school together, reconnected in the 2000s when social media blew up.

She was technically married at the time, but the relationship was long over. Her husband stopped loving her but refused to divorce her (her words). They have 2 kids.

I shot my shot, and it was brief but fantastic. I fell hard. Told her I loved her, never heard it back.

He found out about me and eviscerated her in front of the kids. She ended things, but told me she wasn't completely giving up on us.

The pandemic started, so we couldn't see each other, and I eventually stopped hearing from her. I didn't hear from her on my birthday, so I gave up.

Two years ago, sent her a note, not sure if it was her number (I deleted it), told her I'd always love her.

I've dated other women since, and it was great to go on that first date post-breakup, but I don't think I'll ever really get over her. But if she called me today, I'd have to think about it. We've been apart for too long IMO. 5 years is an eternity. And I don't think I'd survive if she came back and left again. I'll just need to find another brunette that loves 90s music lol (but no D*ve M*tthews).

I figured if I could get her to jump from the tree, she'd finally talk to me lol, or maybe she'd talk to me when I gave her the money.

I did not dream last night. Got almost no sleep.

But dreams have never been the answer, right?

Ha, ha no he will NOT be allowed to drive my car!

It sounds like her ex was a bit controlling. He didn't want to be with her, but he also didn't want her with anyone else.  Or maybe at some level they were still trying to work through it?

Either way, it's just so tough to love someone so much and circumstances that you can't control prevent you from being with the person. It sounds like fate tried to bring you back together, but your pathways just didn't align. It sounds like due to circumstances with the ex and the kids, you all never got to give the relationship a real shot. And then you all just stopped talking due to Covid, etc, more circumstances you couldn't control,and you never got any closure. Sometimes we just can't seem to get the exact closure we need when a relationship ends. Break ups suck. 

Dreams have a way of trying to move around, unpack and restore our subconscious feelings. They can be funny too! It sounds like your subconscious was finding a little humor in the situation and maybe telling you it is okay to move on. 

Yeah we definitely didn't get proper closure, but maybe that's for the best. Who knows. On to bigger & better things, although Setting Sun is NOT helping lol.

hauntingfamiliar

When I was going through a pretty f'd up break up.....not too long ago. One of my clients gave me the "you will never get the closure that you need" advice. I got lots of closure and maybe more than I thought I would. But never exactly the closure I thought I wanted.