Living on your own..
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Anyone else like their privacy, but hate living alone?
I've been feeling kind of down lately. My girlfriend was supposed to move in this month, but because of health issues keeping her from working regular hours, she can't afford to live with me for maybe another few months, even with me covering all rent and utilities. She's barely getting 8 hrs a week at her retail job and isn't feeling well enough to even work that. She's relying on her parents to pay for just about everything and needs them around. Surgery next month should, fingers crossed, make her better.
It never really hit me hard until now. The first time I left home I roomed with a best friend for a while. My first time in my own apartment was when I lived in the heart of the city and I was out partying every night anyways, so it never really phased me. I then roomed with another best friend and his girlfriend, but after a while, left because I felt like the third wheel and being in my 30s now, needed my own place.
So here I am. 6 weeks already at the new place. No girlfriend here.. yet. 40 minutes from my closest friends and family.. It's funny how living with others can get on my nerves, but I miss it now. It's too quiet. :?
I've been feeling kind of down lately. My girlfriend was supposed to move in this month, but because of health issues keeping her from working regular hours, she can't afford to live with me for maybe another few months, even with me covering all rent and utilities. She's barely getting 8 hrs a week at her retail job and isn't feeling well enough to even work that. She's relying on her parents to pay for just about everything and needs them around. Surgery next month should, fingers crossed, make her better.
It never really hit me hard until now. The first time I left home I roomed with a best friend for a while. My first time in my own apartment was when I lived in the heart of the city and I was out partying every night anyways, so it never really phased me. I then roomed with another best friend and his girlfriend, but after a while, left because I felt like the third wheel and being in my 30s now, needed my own place.
So here I am. 6 weeks already at the new place. No girlfriend here.. yet. 40 minutes from my closest friends and family.. It's funny how living with others can get on my nerves, but I miss it now. It's too quiet. :?
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i miss em.
thankfully, the woman takes off once or twice a year for weekends away without me.
Think of the things you like to do that maybe your girlfriend, or previously roommates, weren't particularly interested in. Particular movies, TV shows, music, whatever. And enjoy them now.
And... when all else fails... jump on the boards!
She actually moved in a few weeks ago, but has only spent about 4 nights here, and now realizes she needs to stay at home until she gets through what is going on. She needs to borrow money from her parents for bills, food, running to the store, but living by with me, she doesn't have them around for that and won't take my money for that stuff even though I offer to help her. :?
Seriously, if I could marry my personal space, I would. We would just have to maintain separate addresses after the wedding, of course.
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love living alone
i'm no help :problem:
Love living alone.
i would just do the things that you like to do. take up a hobby or teach yourself something like the guitar or uke.
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
I'll be there.
Gob, where did you end up moving? I know you were on the hunt looking in the NW burbs a couple months ago...
so you're the bastard that is living my life!
ya visit and go home where it is quiet and alone time.
send for your other lady friends or and go to their cribs.
then come home or boot them out for quiet alone time.
leave a few dishes in the sink to remind yourself you are a bachelor, god dammit.
being alone is for deep thinking time; writing, guitar playing, records a spinnin time, and plenty of green
again... be free
by all rights you should have 9-19 different lady friends
this is every man's duty
now go make your frickin bed and vaccum the floor
(my landlord borrowed me a vaccum beings i don't own one. this was 3 days ago. it is still sitting there unused)
btw, fyi, never ever take my advice :twisted:
unless you're a genius
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
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women don't like pee all over the bathroom floor and walls. now ya gotta clean up after your spill/drips.
women (some of them) cook great and to much. this makes us all fat.
women like to give and get oral treatment. this is a plus for everyone involved
women smell lovely themselves and they spray shit everywhere that smells like wildflowers, spring air, and mountain lillies from the valley.
perfumes make me sick. never eat your women's clothing if she dumps heavy perfumes on her bras and underwear.
living alone is filled with farts that don't need to be discussed in anyway shape or form. just let lose and be down with it. end of story.
the sink still has your spoon and bowl from the cereal you ate yesterday.
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
home, roomies, menfolk, marriage, multiple four leggers,
I hope this is be the case til the end.
who the hell falls in love at 15 and stay with just that person until 400 yrs old?
stay single living alone until things are ironed out? yes
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
still together years ... to a lifetime later.
I think the key is fulfillment,
no reason to look anywhere else because one has found it
and doesn't want to lose it.
That could happen at a very young age or not til you're in your eighties.
It is a love that is satisfying, all you ever needed and were lucky enough to find
at whatever age.
Have you ever considered becoming a spoken-word artist? I would attend every gig.
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Walls?! You have got to work on your aim my friend.
I'm almost 32 and have lived with roommates ever since I left for college. I've been talking about getting my own place for about a year but I really have some of the same reservations you do and afraid it will be too quiet and lonely at times. I've lived with my brother for over 2 years now, and I love him to death and is a great roommate despite how messy he is, plus rent is cheaper this way. I keep thinking I should be living alone just to see what it's like, but I guess it's a little fear of the unknown.
Hang in there and hopefully things work out for the best with the gf and the living situation.
spoken word artist?
what is that exactly?
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
I LOVE it.
Can have whoever i want over, whenever I want. No putting up with roommate's friends or family.
Only people that have keys are the people I WANT to have keys.
I can walk around wearing (or not wearing) whatever i want.
I get the washer and dryer to myself.
I can play whatever music I want, watch whatever I want on TV....never have to worry about it.
More closet space.
I can take a long bath and not worry about being disturbed.
No one uses my shit unless I approve it.
No one says shit when I get in at 3AM.
I can hang up whatever the fuck I want on my walls.
downside:
sometimes it can be lonely. thats what friends and such are for.
It would be nice to have someone share the expenses of owning and keeping up a home.
It would be nice to have someone who is able to do things like hook up my surrond system. Or help me go shop for a new one and install it. I LOVE to do projects around the house, but with electronics I am kind of a dipshit.
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I would never again share my place with strangers just to pay the rent (that was the only reason why I did it twice :roll: ) and friends are to important too me to move in with them
Good luck to you and your gf (I hope she's getting better soon!) and try to enjoy your "alone time"
Then lived with my ex partner for 4 years,most of that time drove me nuts,not getting my own space and arguing about who's turn it was to the dishes :roll:
Have been living alone for about 18 months now,it has been a struggle to adjust to and I miss the nice things of sharing a space with someone,but in all I would rather live alone,I don't plan to live with anyone again.
I need my own space and to having no one else to think about.
Well, she can spend a night during the week with you, go out to dinner or better yet make her dinner since she is not feeling so well right now.
How about she spends the weekends with you...
also, try and make new "friends" who live near by you.