Living on your own..

LikeAnOcean

Anyone else like their privacy, but hate living alone?


I've been feeling kind of down lately. My girlfriend was supposed to move in this month, but because of health issues keeping her from working regular hours, she can't afford to live with me for maybe another few months, even with me covering all rent and utilities. She's barely getting 8 hrs a week at her retail job and isn't feeling well enough to even work that. She's relying on her parents to pay for just about everything and needs them around. Surgery next month should, fingers crossed, make her better.


It never really hit me hard until now. The first time I left home I roomed with a best friend for a while. My first time in my own apartment was when I lived in the heart of the city and I was out partying every night anyways, so it never really phased me. I then roomed with another best friend and his girlfriend, but after a while, left because I felt like the third wheel and being in my 30s now, needed my own place.


So here I am. 6 weeks already at the new place. No girlfriend here.. yet. 40 minutes from my closest friends and family.. It's funny how living with others can get on my nerves, but I miss it now. It's too quiet. :?

81

enjoy it....

i miss em.

thankfully, the woman takes off once or twice a year for weekends away without me.

conman

i would do anything to live by myself..... ANYTHING :?

unlost dogs

Sorry you're not happier at the moment... but try to look at it as a chance to be savor some time with just you. I only very briefly had a roommate, and was much more comfortable on my own. But I did sometimes get lonely, I know what you mean.

Think of the things you like to do that maybe your girlfriend, or previously roommates, weren't particularly interested in. Particular movies, TV shows, music, whatever. And enjoy them now.

And... when all else fails... jump on the boards!

LikeAnOcean

81 wrote:

enjoy it....

i miss em.

thankfully, the woman takes off once or twice a year for weekends away without me.

I know.. And I like the idea of having nights to myself.. but every night sucks. Even just knowing someone's around in another room doing their own thing makes me feel better..

She actually moved in a few weeks ago, but has only spent about 4 nights here, and now realizes she needs to stay at home until she gets through what is going on. She needs to borrow money from her parents for bills, food, running to the store, but living by with me, she doesn't have them around for that and won't take my money for that stuff even though I offer to help her. :?

LikeAnOcean

unlost dogs wrote:

Sorry you're not happier at the moment... but try to look at it as a chance to be savor some time with just you. I only very briefly had a roommate, and was much more comfortable on my own. But I did sometimes get lonely, I know what you mean.

Think of the things you like to do that maybe your girlfriend, or previously roommates, weren't particularly interested in. Particular movies, TV shows, music, whatever. And enjoy them now.

And... when all else fails... jump on the boards!

Well, I lived on my own this last year before the new apartment, so I've had plenty of time to myself. It was easier though because I was located a few minutes from friends and family.. I moved here for her, and she can't quite move in yet, so I'm feeling a little trapped by myself.

supadupa

I love living alone. I guess the fact that I've only lived alone for maybe two years out of my entire life has made me incredibly possessive of my personal space. It's even become the subject of most of my writing.

Seriously, if I could marry my personal space, I would. We would just have to maintain separate addresses after the wedding, of course.

BinauralJam

Never have, wife takes two weekends a month to hang out with her girlfreinds, been good for both of us.

81

Party at Gob's friday night.

LikeAnOcean

81 wrote:

Party at Gob's friday night.

CAVSTARR313

I live on my own.. It can get lonely.. but it is rare to feel that way for me...

norm

love my privacy

love living alone



i'm no help :problem:

mca47

Love my privacy.
Love living alone.

gimmesometruth27

i have lived alone for the last 10 years. i bought my house a year out of grad school and i was a really social person. i like the fact that i can come and go as i please and have nobody to answer to for anything, but coming from living in a fraternity house with 40 other guys where something was going on every single night to going to living with one room mate, to living alone is kind of a mindfuck. as a result, my house has become the crash pad and i have friends crash over here sometimes and my basement is my band's rehearsal space because i live alone and i have the coolest neighbors lol... i do alot of things to pass the time. i play a lot of guitar, i write and i'm starting to write a book now, and i go to the gym a lot. in 2002 out of loneliness and boredom i went to the animal shelter and adopted my dog, so that has helped a lot. i enjoy having my space and i have a lot of room for my stuff, but the problem is homeownership is expensive when you live by yourself. shit gets expensive to fix and if i had a roommate it would be easier financially, but whatever. i am sure if i lived with someone they would annoy me so i guess i am out of luck either way

i would just do the things that you like to do. take up a hobby or teach yourself something like the guitar or uke.

Indifference71

Gob wrote:

81 wrote:

Party at Gob's friday night.

I'll be there.

Gob, where did you end up moving? I know you were on the hunt looking in the NW burbs a couple months ago...

rick1zoo2

gimmesometruth27 wrote:

i have lived alone for the last 10 years. i bought my house a year out of grad school and i was a really social person. i like the fact that i can come and go as i please and have nobody to answer to for anything, but coming from living in a fraternity house with 40 other guys where something was going on every single night to going to living with one room mate, to living alone is kind of a mindfuck. as a result, my house has become the crash pad and i have friends crash over here sometimes and my basement is my band's rehearsal space because i live alone and i have the coolest neighbors lol... i do alot of things to pass the time. i play a lot of guitar, i write and i'm starting to write a book now, and i go to the gym a lot. in 2002 out of loneliness and boredom i went to the animal shelter and adopted my dog, so that has helped a lot. i enjoy having my space and i have a lot of room for my stuff, but the problem is homeownership is expensive when you live by yourself. shit gets expensive to fix and if i had a roommate it would be easier financially, but whatever. i am sure if i lived with someone they would annoy me so i guess i am out of luck either way

i would just do the things that you like to do. take up a hobby or teach yourself something like the guitar or uke.

so you're the bastard that is living my life!

chadwick

81 wrote:

enjoy it....

i miss em.

thankfully, the woman takes off once or twice a year for weekends away without me.

send for your lady friend (which i hope she is well soon) or go to her place.
ya visit and go home where it is quiet and alone time.

send for your other lady friends or and go to their cribs.
then come home or boot them out for quiet alone time.

leave a few dishes in the sink to remind yourself you are a bachelor, god dammit.
being alone is for deep thinking time; writing, guitar playing, records a spinnin time, and plenty of green

again... be free
by all rights you should have 9-19 different lady friends
this is every man's duty

now go make your frickin bed and vaccum the floor
(my landlord borrowed me a vaccum beings i don't own one. this was 3 days ago. it is still sitting there unused)


btw, fyi, never ever take my advice :twisted:
unless you're a genius

chadwick

btw, a female (can you believe it? a real live girl even?) once lived with me for not quiet 1 year. sure sex comes several times a day/night. sharing a bed with another can be a pain in the keester. this fact took me several long months to get used too.

women don't like pee all over the bathroom floor and walls. now ya gotta clean up after your spill/drips.
women (some of them) cook great and to much. this makes us all fat.
women like to give and get oral treatment. this is a plus for everyone involved
women smell lovely themselves and they spray shit everywhere that smells like wildflowers, spring air, and mountain lillies from the valley.

perfumes make me sick. never eat your women's clothing if she dumps heavy perfumes on her bras and underwear.

living alone is filled with farts that don't need to be discussed in anyway shape or form. just let lose and be down with it. end of story.

the sink still has your spoon and bowl from the cereal you ate yesterday.

pandora

I've never lived by myself ever!
home, roomies, menfolk, marriage, multiple four leggers,

I hope this is be the case til the end.

chadwick

pandora wrote:

I've never lived by myself ever!
home, roomies, menfolk, marriage, multiple four leggers,

I hope this is be the case til the end.

at least you have lived with other men besides JB and your son. i believe we have to experience more than one romantic partner in our lives. high school sweetheart bullshit?...no.

who the hell falls in love at 15 and stay with just that person until 400 yrs old?
stay single living alone until things are ironed out? yes

pandora

chadwick wrote:

pandora wrote:

I've never lived by myself ever!
home, roomies, menfolk, marriage, multiple four leggers,

I hope this is be the case til the end.

at least you have lived with other men besides JB and your son. i believe we have to experience more than one romantic partner in our lives. high school sweetheart bullshit?...no.

who the hell falls in love at 15 and stay with just that person until 400 yrs old?
stay single living alone until things are ironed out? yes

I know some relationships that did begin in high school, even before,
still together years ... to a lifetime later.

I think the key is fulfillment,
no reason to look anywhere else because one has found it
and doesn't want to lose it.

That could happen at a very young age or not til you're in your eighties.
It is a love that is satisfying, all you ever needed and were lucky enough to find
at whatever age.