begs the question - do masturbatory aids count as cheating?

mysticweed

i say no
sexting or any sort of internet porn that doesn't constitute actual physical touching is the same as a magazine or vibrator
they are masturbatory aids and i believe it should not count as cheating

81

i would agree with everything except sexting.

81

paging ziggy...please pick up the pink courtesy phone

mysticweed

The 81 wrote:

i would agree with everything except sexting.

is that because there is a real person at the other end?

PureandEasy

so it wouldn't matter to you one bit if your spouse/significant other is out there having "non-physical relationship with the opposite sex"

wouldn't bother you one bit right?

you're LYING.

who cares what you call it cheating or not, IT'S WRONG.

I just don't understand why people who aren't happy in their actual relationships that they go elsewhere for satisfaction before ending it with your current interest

just makes you a bigger jackass for bringing that person down with you

Slap upside the head

Unless you're sticking your dick into the orafice of a human being other than your partner's,
then it doesn't matter what shape, form or description of a wanking tool you give it, it's
not cheating.

Cool Face Ryan

if you're involved with another person at all, its cheating. that includes sexting

PureandEasy

fine, don't call it cheating, so does that make it all ok?

If any of you say yes, I seriously think you're lying to yourselves. Think right now of your significant other, would it be ok it they were doing these things with another man/woman?

think really hard and I think you'll get your answer

blackredyellow

Slap upside the head wrote:

Unless you're sticking your dick into the orafice of a human being other than your partner's,
then it doesn't matter what shape, form or description of a wanking tool you give it, it's
not cheating.

ok... you come home and walk into your bedroom and your wife and some dude are naked getting themselves off... you're fine with that? They're not touching each other.

decides2dream

Doesnt matter what you call it, the only thing that matters is if your significant other is aware, and approves. For some that may mean they can sleep aroundm np...for others it would mean they cant even look at porn. Point is, what hurts your partner is never ok.

Slap upside the head

blackredyellow wrote:

Slap upside the head wrote:

Unless you're sticking your dick into the orafice of a human being other than your partner's,
then it doesn't matter what shape, form or description of a wanking tool you give it, it's
not cheating.

ok... you come home and walk into your bedroom and your wife and some dude are naked getting themselves off... you're fine with that? They're not touching each other.

This scenario is even stupider than the original question.

Suzi78

So using a vibrator is pretty much the same thing as sexting to you? What if your girlfriend/boyfriend, instead of bringing a vibrator to bed for some good time, would pick up the iphone and start sexting with someone half-across the globe? Would you feel the same about it? Would you be ok with that since it's not physical sex?

RYEzupSF

decides2dream wrote:

Doesnt matter what you call it, the only thing that matters is if your significant other is aware, and approves. For some that may mean they can sleep aroundm np...for others it would mean they cant even look at porn. Point is, what hurts your partner is never ok.

well said.


(another great one, chickweed! you say potato. PJ20 girl. Its on. )

dimitrispearljam

decides2dream wrote:

Doesnt matter what you call it, the only thing that matters is if your significant other is aware, and approves. For some that may mean they can sleep aroundm np...for others it would mean they cant even look at porn. Point is, what hurts your partner is never ok.

true..but maybe everything hurts your partner..and thats a real problem..

neilybabes86

ibtl

decides2dream

dimitrispearljam wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

Doesnt matter what you call it, the only thing that matters is if your significant other is aware, and approves. For some that may mean they can sleep aroundm np...for others it would mean they cant even look at porn. Point is, what hurts your partner is never ok.

true..but maybe everything hurts your partner..and thats a real problem..

Maybe not the right partner for you then, eh?
One would hope that most of us would choose to be with people who hold similar values in general, and certainly on matters of respect, love and sex.

PureandEasy

decides2dream wrote:

Point is, what hurts your partner is never ok.

that's basically the point I was trying to make.

dimitrispearljam

decides2dream wrote:

dimitrispearljam wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

Doesnt matter what you call it, the only thing that matters is if your significant other is aware, and approves. For some that may mean they can sleep aroundm np...for others it would mean they cant even look at porn. Point is, what hurts your partner is never ok.

true..but maybe everything hurts your partner..and thats a real problem..

Maybe not the right partner for you then, eh?
One would hope that most of us would choose to be with people who hold similar values in general, and certainly on matters of respect, love and sex.

im not talking about me,im too sexy and all girlfriends are jealous of everything. :shock: ..
seriously,when it comes to people sees Ghosts around the other half,are getting crazy..
its not easy to talk or understand all with the partner,especially in sex,,your fantasies...etc

decides2dream

PureandEasy wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

Point is, what hurts your partner is never ok.

that's basically the point I was trying to make.

Exactly, and That can vary greatly from couple to couple. Thus, i am personally not a fan of hard and fast labels for these sorts of things.....peoples tolerances and degrees of acceptance vary as greatly as personalities.



Dimitires...i meant the universal you, not you personally.

Digital Twilight

chickweed wrote:

i say no
sexting or any sort of internet porn that doesn't constitute actual physical touching is the same as a magazine or vibrator
they are masturbatory aids and i believe it should not count as cheating

Maybe, maybe not but either way you are admitting that your partner isn't satisfying you sexually and you don't have the courage, maturity or sensivity to your partners feelings to address the real problem.

decides2dream wrote:

Point is, what hurts your partner is never ok.

:thumbup:

RKCNDY

did you hide this thread here so the train people wouldn't freak out?