I don't understand chicks...

Thoughts_Arrive
Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
edited April 2011 in All Encompassing Trip
looks at me at a party a few times, sends me a facebook friend request soon after, initiates one conversation ever after I accept her as a friend, I initiate all the conversations and she then chats for a while and jokes around.

If she isn't initiating conversations should I take it as not interested or is this just girls playing games.

My previous thread got locked, so I am starting this one....
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
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  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Never trust anything that bleeds for a week and lives...
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    Never trust anything that bleeds for a week and lives...

    :lol:
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • BinauralJam
    BinauralJam Posts: 14,158
    THEY ARE ALL CRAZY!
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    ask her out. if she says yes, go out, if she says no, delete her as a friend.
    81 is now off the air

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  • EmBleve
    EmBleve Posts: 3,019
    hmm.. sounds shady. If she's one of those with 1,000+ plus friends on fb, I wouldn't think twice about it. btw, I never initiate those chat things on fb with anyone, even if I like them, unless I have something to say, so that may not mean anything.
  • tombaker
    tombaker Posts: 3
    Does anyone?

    ...psst...they don't get us, either. Take that info and use it to your advantage.
  • 12345AGNST1
    12345AGNST1 Posts: 4,906
    81 wrote:
    ask her out. if she says yes, go out, if she says no, delete her as a friend.

    basically that. dont waste your time trying to talk to her everyday if she isnt the one starting the convos. It makes you look desperate. Just ask her out and see what she says.
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  • EmBleve
    EmBleve Posts: 3,019
    ^^yes, this. I would definitely stop initiating those convos.
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    they key is to send her a penis picture. you have done this right???
    81 is now off the air

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  • polaris_x
    polaris_x Posts: 13,559
    also mention that thing with the naked seniors was a misunderstanding
  • Kat
    Kat Posts: 4,973
    It looks like 81 wants a vacation from the forums.

    I'm probably old-fashioned, but maybe she'd like to be pursued? You can't lump all women/girls into the word "chicks." Men are all different from each other too. If you're interested in this person, pursue it (her) for a bit until you find out if you're still interested or if she's still interested or if it's going where you want it to go. It's not easy to find the right person but if you're looking, you may find her. If you're not actively looking, you probably will not although sometimes it comes out of the blue when you don't expect it. :)

    Behave 81. Suggesting penis photos is ....bad...
    Falling down,...not staying down
  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Kat wrote:
    It looks like 81 wants a vacation from the forums.

    I'm probably old-fashioned, but maybe she'd like to be pursued? You can't lump all women/girls into the word "chicks." Men are all different from each other too. If you're interested in this person, pursue it (her) for a bit until you find out if you're still interested or if she's still interested or if it's going where you want it to go. It's not easy to find the right person but if you're looking, you may find her. If you're not actively looking, you probably will not although sometimes it comes out of the blue when you don't expect it. :)

    Behave 81. Suggesting penis photos is ....bad...

    Especially those comments coming from a baby

    :o
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



    A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    i blame Ziggy. she's a bad influence.
    81 is now off the air

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  • comebackgirl
    comebackgirl Posts: 9,885
    I never initiate conversations online. Not even with my husband :|
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  • LikeAnOcean
    LikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    81 wrote:
    ask her out. if she says yes, go out, if she says no, delete her as a friend.
    Exactly.

    If she isn't going to date you and she isn't going to initiate communication, what's the point of having her as a facebook buddy?


    Shit or get off the can. Many women/people are weird like that.
  • marcos
    marcos Posts: 2,112
    Girls / Guys love to play games at one time or another, sounds like maybe she is, but play along if you're in the mood, if you have better prospects, follow them, facebook should always be a last resort, nothing good ever comes out of the internet.
  • LikeAnOcean
    LikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    Kat wrote:
    It looks like 81 wants a vacation from the forums.

    I'm probably old-fashioned, but maybe she'd like to be pursued? You can't lump all women/girls into the word "chicks." Men are all different from each other too. If you're interested in this person, pursue it (her) for a bit until you find out if you're still interested or if she's still interested or if it's going where you want it to go. It's not easy to find the right person but if you're looking, you may find her. If you're not actively looking, you probably will not although sometimes it comes out of the blue when you don't expect it. :)

    Behave 81. Suggesting penis photos is ....bad...
    This is why he needs to ask her out and get to the point. Chasing is fine, but if it comes to a point where she doesn't want to go further, or communicate as friends, then it's stalkerish for her to be adding him on facebook.
  • Drowned Out
    Drowned Out Posts: 6,056
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    If she isn't going to date you and she isn't going to initiate communication, what's the point of having her as a facebook buddy?


    Shit or get off the can. Many women/people are weird like that.
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

    If she isn't initiating conversations should I take it as not interested or is this just girls playing games.
    Geez guys....maybe she just wants to be friends or casual aquaintances...or fwb...or she's just too busy to initiate conversations but is polite enough to make time to reply when you message her....or or or....

    Without asking her out, talking with her about it, or giving it enough time to become obvious where she stands, you are making blind judgements...
    Talking to you without initiating it isn't playing games at all...maybe she's just polite...maybe she's a bit shy etc...Also, 'initiate communication, date me, or defriend me', to me, seems a bit overboard...I def don't expect everyone on my fb friend list to initiate conversations with me...actually, that would suck.
  • LikeAnOcean
    LikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    Drowned Out wrote:
    ...I def don't expect everyone on my fb friend list to initiate conversations with me...actually, that would suck.


    If someone I don't really know adds me on facebook, and they aren't going to try to know me better, what's the point?

    He should keep initiating the conversations, but if it goes nowhere, there's no point in having her as a friend.

    I actually do a facebook cleaning quite frequently. I HATE when people you've met once add you and then don't communicate with you. It's stalkerish. I don't expect everyone to send me messages, but we alteast have to have a history together.
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    looks at me at a party a few times, sends me a facebook friend request soon after, initiates one conversation ever after I accept her as a friend, I initiate all the conversations and she then chats for a while and jokes around.

    If she isn't initiating conversations should I take it as not interested or is this just girls playing games.

    My previous thread got locked, so I am starting this one....

    I don't do facebook so I don't know about all that but the interaction between men and women hasn't changed all that much.

    She was interested ...
    thought you cute and intriguing, wanted to know you better or she would have ignored you.

    If she just collects friends :? whats up with that? she probably wouldn't even respond then.

    So, if you want to talk to her ... keep talking. Do it without expecting anything in return.
    She might be like me and countless other women, just a bit shy
    If you care she will see that, then begin to trust.

    Games in 'come and get me' ...maybe ;) but that can be fun!

    Perseverance is the key to courtship and time will tell

    You are a really nice man, Best of luck ! :D

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