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thefixer9thefixer9 Posts: 9,376
edited February 2011 in All Encompassing Trip
Hey, I just figured out that whenever I talk to some girl I like it ends up disastrous and the conversation be really boring or bland. Any tips on how I could talk to my crush....thanks! :D;)8-)
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  • joely_91joely_91 Posts: 795
    I suppose it all depends on the type of person but if you talk about things that she's interested in and actually show and have an interest in what she's saying it might be a little better... things like that can be one of the most difficult or the most easiest things for some people.... some times you just meet people who you can just talk to forever about anything without a forced conversation...
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  • LoulouLoulou Adelaide Posts: 6,247
    I guess it really depends on the girl, mate. I would be friendly but not too friendly, I think alot of girls your age like a bit of a chase and sometimes become less interested when they know you like them. So be friendly but not toooo friendly. Hope that makes sense??? :? Oh and let her do most the talking, I know it's hard if they are boring but just try to act interested. :lol::lol::D

    Just be yourself dude and she's bound to like you, if not, she's not worth it! :D:D:D
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  • thefixer9thefixer9 Posts: 9,376
    Thanks for the tips guys! :D:D
    Tres Mts- 3/16/2011
    Eddie Vedder- 7/16/11
    Brad- 4/21/12 (RSD Performance), 4/27/12, 8/10/12
    Flight To Mars- 5/23/12
    RNDM- 11/27/12

    PEARL JAM- 12/6/13 I have finally seen Pearl Jam live!
  • Staggering GeniusStaggering Genius Posts: 169
    Loulou wrote:

    Just be yourself dude and she's bound to like you, if not, she's not worth it! :D:D:D
    Well, fuckers, he still stands.
  • voidofmanvoidofman Posts: 4,009
    Talk to her about things that interest her (and you), that way you will have something / some things in common. Also don't be too overpowering with going on and on, kind of limit how much face time you give her so that she can think about you when you aren't around and will be happy the next time she sees you.
  • stargirl69stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    thefixer9 wrote:
    Hey, I just figured out that whenever I talk to some girl I like it ends up disastrous and the conversation be really boring or bland. Any tips on how I could talk to my crush....thanks! :D;)8-)


    That is so sweet :D ... breath,relax and talk about what interests you both but above all be yourself ... if she likes you she'll stay around but she needs to see the real you to decide ... Oh and have fun!
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  • Gibson72Gibson72 Posts: 1,245
    Be yourself. Girls can always tell when you are "put on"
    Also- like George costanza says "know when to leave. Always leave them wanting more"
    Gibson1972
  • EddieMcCreadyEddieMcCready Posts: 337
    Gibson72 wrote:
    like George costanza says "know when to leave. Always leave them wanting more"



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  • LukinFanLukinFan Florida Posts: 29,069
    Gibson72 wrote:
    Be yourself. Girls can always tell when you are "put on"
    Also- like George costanza says "know when to leave. Always leave them wanting more"
    +1

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  • pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    thats really hard cause the crush gets in the way and makes a person a little stupid...
    you me anyone.

    Now players are less likely to have a crush so this makes you one of the keepers,
    a genuine person.

    Don't be hard on yourself....
    a good lady will see this, she'll feel it in her heart. This speaks volumes.

    Just be yourself, time spent with your 'crush' will bring a new friend
    and possibly a new kind of love.
    One where you both see each other just as you are with faults,
    then that pedestal will come crashing down
    replaced by a journey hand in hand.

    You have a lovely life ahead of you, Enjoy! :D
  • zarocatzarocat Posts: 1,901
    Loulou wrote:
    I guess it really depends on the girl, mate. I would be friendly but not too friendly, I think alot of girls your age like a bit of a chase and sometimes become less interested when they know you like them. So be friendly but not toooo friendly. Hope that makes sense??? :? Oh and let her do most the talking, I know it's hard if they are boring but just try to act interested. :lol::lol::D

    Just be yourself dude and she's bound to like you, if not, she's not worth it! :D:D:D

    You got it.

    Just listen and feed off the communication between you two. If she isn't talking, be funny about something totally random
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  • LikeAnOceanLikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    It's not really what you say believe it or not..


    Psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone. Research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather..


    55% is through body language

    38% is the tone and speed of their voice

    Only 7% is through what they say


    Fun facts for ya. 8-) Knowing that will help you stop over thinking the situation and just be natural.

    So stop worrying about what you have to say and just be yourself. Talk to her like you'd talk to a good friend. I've had women I gave my all to and they treated me like shit.. I've had other women I've treated like shit, but still had to beat off with a stick. lol

    If you like her that much just ask her out and it won't matter what you say. She'll either bite or you move to the next. Love is more about being yourself. Let the phormones do the deciding. It's evolution baby.
  • Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    take a xanax and splash on a little alpha male wolf urine

    you'll be fending off the ladies with a stick
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  • LikeAnOceanLikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    Kilgore_Trout wrote:
    take a xanax and splash on a little alpha male wolf urine

    you'll be fending off the ladies with a stick
    Haha!

    If youre that nervous and can't control your jitters, drugs can help. Women like confidence. Just look at McLovin. :lol:


    Drugs or no drugs, confidence will get better with age and experience. First girl I kissed had to kiss me first. How lame is that. No wonder she dumped me. Next girl I had to ask. She dumped me too. Next girl I just did it and I couldn't keep the stalker away. :lol:

    You don't have to be a cock, but women like it and expect you to take control. If you're crushing for her, just do what it takes.
  • LikeAnOceanLikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    edited February 2011
    Gibson72 wrote:
    Also- like George costanza says "know when to leave. Always leave them wanting more"

    So in other words, wear a trench coat, flash her, tell her that's all she gets and then walk away from the situation..


    OK, maybe not, but if things get boring she might be turned on by that a few years down the line. :lol:
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  • Chip McFlenniganChip McFlennigan Posts: 1,162
    Listen, forget what the rest of these fools say, and pay attention to good ol' JA.

    Step one: You club her over the skull.
    Step two: You drag her back to your lair.
    Step three: ????
    Step four: Profit.
    I knew it all along, see?
  • Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    johnny america wrote:
    Listen, forget what the rest of these fools say, and pay attention to good ol' JA.

    Step one: You club her over the skull.
    Step two: You drag her back to your lair.
    Step three: ????
    Step four: Profit.
    i dont know johnny... not to hate on your game... but it sounds an awful lot like date rape
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  • Chip McFlenniganChip McFlennigan Posts: 1,162
    Whoa, WHOA! DATE RAPE?!

    Are you accusing me, Johnny AMERICA (which is a synonym for Freedom & Justice, in case you didn't know), of date rape?! That's absurd!

    I, for the record, would never stoop so low as to drug a female just to have sex with her.

    I'm highly offended by this, and I plan on writing a strongly-worded PM of concern to the mods and admins, which hopefully results in you getting b&.
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  • Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    johnny america wrote:
    Whoa, WHOA! DATE RAPE?!

    Are you accusing me, Johnny AMERICA (which is a synonym for Freedom & Justice, in case you didn't know), of date rape?! That's absurd!

    I, for the record, would never stoop so low as to drug a female just to have sex with her.

    I'm highly offended by this, and I plan on writing a strongly-worded PM of concern to the mods and admins, which hopefully results in you getting b&.
    my apologies johnny... I obviously read what I wanted into the "????"... what does that say about me? :| :?

    you certainly give new meaning to "going clubbing" though
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  • Chip McFlenniganChip McFlennigan Posts: 1,162
    Your apology is accepted, this time.

    Fear my wrath, though, should you cross me again!
    I knew it all along, see?
  • Chip McFlenniganChip McFlennigan Posts: 1,162
    Let me ask you something, Mr. Trout. Who is that poor soul you are attacking in your avatar?
    I knew it all along, see?
  • thefixer9thefixer9 Posts: 9,376
    Thanks everyone for the awesome tips!!!! :D Well.....except for the last couple of ones..... :lol:
    Tres Mts- 3/16/2011
    Eddie Vedder- 7/16/11
    Brad- 4/21/12 (RSD Performance), 4/27/12, 8/10/12
    Flight To Mars- 5/23/12
    RNDM- 11/27/12

    PEARL JAM- 12/6/13 I have finally seen Pearl Jam live!
  • Chip McFlenniganChip McFlennigan Posts: 1,162
    thefixer9 wrote:
    Thanks everyone for the awesome tips!!!! :D Well.....except for the last couple of ones..... :lol:

    Don't come crawling back to me when "asking her out" blows up in your face.
    I knew it all along, see?
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Hopefully you don't end up in the friends zone

    Worst place to be as a guy who likes a girl
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  • Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    johnny america wrote:
    Let me ask you something, Mr. Trout. Who is that poor soul you are attacking in your avatar?
    a dear friend... in the "friend zone" as phantom put it :(
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,412
    Ugh.

    Listen to these guys, they know, there's hardly anything more difficult than to cross out of the friend zone once you're in there.
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  • Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    justam wrote:
    Ugh.

    Listen to these guys, they know, there's hardly anything more difficult than to cross out of the friend zone once you're in there.
    women have it so backwards... men would happily get with a friend of several years and already have the chemistry established for good sex / a relationship... without it being weird at ALL... women try to do things the other way around and then complain when the assholes they date don't care about their feelings and thoughts... and when you do things their way and break up they say they don't want to keep in touch because you didn't have a good friendship/foundation to begin with... as if that's EVER what they want

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  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Kilgore_Trout wrote:
    justam wrote:
    Ugh.

    Listen to these guys, they know, there's hardly anything more difficult than to cross out of the friend zone once you're in there.
    women have it so backwards... men would happily get with a friend of several years and already have the chemistry established for good sex / a relationship... without it being weird at ALL... women try to do things the other way around and then complain when the assholes they date don't care about their feelings and thoughts... and when you do things their way and break up they say they don't want to keep in touch because you didn't have a good friendship/foundation to begin with... as if that's EVER what they want

    CHRIST

    Just makes it worse because you're the shoulder to cry on when she's hurt and upset

    Ya gotta be a dick for the most part to get them attracted to you

    :lol:
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,412
    Kilgore_Trout wrote:
    justam wrote:
    Ugh.

    Listen to these guys, they know, there's hardly anything more difficult than to cross out of the friend zone once you're in there.
    women have it so backwards... men would happily get with a friend of several years and already have the chemistry established for good sex / a relationship... without it being weird at ALL... women try to do things the other way around and then complain when the assholes they date don't care about their feelings and thoughts... and when you do things their way and break up they say they don't want to keep in touch because you didn't have a good friendship/foundation to begin with... as if that's EVER what they want

    CHRIST

    You misunderstood me. I'm a woman.

    It's hard from this end too because once you get attached to someone as your friend, you don't want to lose them and so it's easier to continue being their friend than to try to cross over to a "boyfriend/girlfriend" type relationship where you might be rejected or it might not be a successful transition and therefore you fear being cut off from them instead.

    That's how BOTH people end up locked into the friendship relationship vs a dating relationship. It's not just frustrating to the men. It's frustrating to the women also. :?
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  • Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    justam wrote:
    Kilgore_Trout wrote:
    justam wrote:
    Ugh.

    Listen to these guys, they know, there's hardly anything more difficult than to cross out of the friend zone once you're in there.
    women have it so backwards... men would happily get with a friend of several years and already have the chemistry established for good sex / a relationship... without it being weird at ALL... women try to do things the other way around and then complain when the assholes they date don't care about their feelings and thoughts... and when you do things their way and break up they say they don't want to keep in touch because you didn't have a good friendship/foundation to begin with... as if that's EVER what they want

    CHRIST

    You misunderstood me. I'm a woman.

    It's hard from this end too because once you get attached to someone as your friend, you don't want to lose them and so it's easier to continue being their friend than to try to cross over to a "boyfriend/girlfriend" type relationship where you might be rejected or it might not be a successful transition and therefore you fear being cut off from them instead.

    That's how BOTH people end up locked into the friendship relationship vs a dating relationship. It's not just frustrating to the men. It's frustrating to the women also. :?
    I hear/respect ya... but the female side of the argument (broad generalization) just sounds like playing it safe. I'm sure I would have a lot less long term female friends if we did things my way, but I'm willing to take that chance. I much prefer love/lust/loss to the general sense of contentment I get from friendship... but I think that's a matter of personal preference
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