Does Facebook ever freak you out?

shine79

I have a love/hate relationship with fb myself.

Although i've been on and off it for four years i guess now, i'm not exactly comfortable with it.
In fact, i will likely close (temporarily disable..or whatever you wanna call it) at the end of January.

I happen to be more of a private person by nature, so i struggle with it. I sometimes feel exposed even after i put out an occasional status update.
There's a few other factors that bother me as well:
Narcissism central: "hanging out with my HOT preggers wife" -WB :roll:
Too Much Info: "I'm so proud of Mason who not only pees on the potty, but poos now too" -LB eeeek!
"I have officially been puked on by both kids in one day" -AK
(and that is just from the past month...)
Superficial friendships: this can take on many forms i guess. I'm thinking of a few personal examples where we have mutual friends, but don't really get on.

i much prefer that human-to-human/real-life contact, or even just speaking over the phone.
Understandably that's not always possible, so fb sometimes fills in the gap good there, but sometimes i feel that it has replaced it.

All that being said, i realize there are certainly a few advantages:
it is helpful for sharing photos, especially when there's a few people involved.
As well, getting invited to events is also much more likely to happen when you're on fb.

Anyways, i think i've just gone on too much...!

Got a hard hard head

The whole concept of telling the world your every waking move, the need to post hundreds of pictures of totally random things and label them '2011 so far...' and the compulsion to have 3452 friends of which you speak to five on a regular basis freaks me out.

In very, very small doses, it's bearable. An alternative to e-mailing. Just don't start with the poking shit or send me some bullshit story about some incredibly brave soldier who had been mortally wounded and was visited in hospital by the same nurse every night and then she sees him one morning, standing at the roadside, unhurt and healthy and when she gets to the hospital he's died the previous night and if this story touched you send it to 10 of your friends along with the hidden tracking cookies and virus that'll fuck your pc up for weeks.

And no, I don't give a fuck what score you got on Jewel Quest either.

Thoughts_Arrive

Yes, especially when people find me and request I accept them as a friend, even though my account is private and you cannot find me in search.

nuffingman

shine79 wrote:

I have a love/hate relationship with fb myself.

Me too. I don't have any old school friends on there, all my Facebook friends are family and current friends. I like the way we can update each other on what we are doing and put up a few pics. There are some real wankers that go on there though. Why we need to know that someone has just gone out for a walk, or visited the bathroom I don't know. One of my wife's FB friends is so full of himself he spends most of the time letting people know how wealthy he is. He once posted "just going out to take some pics and realised I left my £2000 zoom behind" What a tit!

The good thing though is if someone pisses you off, delete them.

neilybabes86

I ONLY JOINED 2 MONTHS AGO SO IM LATE TO THE PARTY....however ... its kind of bogus

so many people just have a look at me attitude on there ..such and such is in the airport ,things like that

and the non stop baby pictures from some are just way to excessive

of course their are good aspects..but overall i think its bogus

markymark550

Facebook doesn't freak me out in terms of its concept and being able to reconnect with past friends. Not too worried about the privacy since I don't have a lot of personal info on there and have the security settings locked down.

I do wonder about some of the things people feel the need to share though (refer back to shine79's post for examples). It's also interesting to see who sends you a friend request and who accepts your requests. Got a request from a guy that I got into a fight with in middle school. We hated each other all through school so it was a WTF? moment when I got that request (and ignored because I still don't like the guy).

UpSideDown

Got a hard hard head wrote:

the need to post hundreds of pictures of totally random things and label them '2011 so far...'

This made me laugh.

F facebook in the A, I need to delete my account. I think I joined back in 2004 or so.....much different back then.

dunkman

no website has freaked me out... well other than that one with the japanese woman and a tank of live eels... but that aside... what freaks me out more is the PJ lyrics as updates...

We know you love the band!!!! stop using their fucking lyrics as status updates!?!?!??!?!

Jay DeMarco "Routine was the theme. He'd wake up wash and pour himself into uniform."

3 likes and 7 comments...

fuck that. :thumbdown:

pjhawks

glad to see so many on here have the same attitude as me. never been on it, no interest in it at all. was in high school in the 80s so not really the facebook generation. no interest in reconnecting with people from the past, if i cared i'd still be in touch.

Jeanwah

The people who have loads of pictures of themselves...ya gotta wonder about those people, and I particularly stay away from them. Extreme narcissism turns me off.

iluvcats

I temporarily deactivated my account. Either a grandchild of his may be playing in his account, not sure, but one of my relatives is really acting weird. Constantly deleting me and 1 month later, asking me and my Aunt back as friends. He drops his own kids and asks them back. I have posted about him before and I asked you guys if you think it is FB (and not him) asking me back. Also, "sickbook" would be a better name. My relatives are constantly posting "bobby has a fever today and blah blah blah..." and all the responses are the same, get well wishes. so if you read the news feed and it's five ppl with colds, wow what a hot news flash! BTW, I've never seen anything as petty as constant updates with their every move (you guys often use the toilet as the example.)
No it's not that bad...

nuffingman

I've never thought of Facebook as a way to contact old school friends etc. I just use it to keep in contact with our friends and family who are all over the place. Used properly it's brilliant. Of course there are a number of dickheads and few unnecessary comments but that's no different to this place.

Flagg

It doesn't freak me out. Of course there are all the stories about privacy but people have to use common sense. It is what you make it.

stargirl69

I was persuaded by friends to join face book before I went travelling.I did and within 4 hours deeply regretted it when I checked my emails and had friends requests ++++++++++++
I closed the account ... which was harder than finding hen's teeth ... and never went back ... it is truly evil and it did indeed freak me out.

iluvcats

stargirl69 wrote:

I was persuaded by friends to join face book before I went travelling.I did and within 4 hours deeply regretted it when I checked my emails and had friends requests ++++++++++++
I closed the account ... which was harder than finding hen's teeth ... and never went back ... it is truly evil and it did indeed freak me out.

friend requests were negative? I don't understand.

stargirl69

iluvcats wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

I was persuaded by friends to join face book before I went travelling.I did and within 4 hours deeply regretted it when I checked my emails and had friends requests ++++++++++++
I closed the account ... which was harder than finding hen's teeth ... and never went back ... it is truly evil and it did indeed freak me out.

friend requests were negative? I don't understand.

Oops hit the wrong keys was multiple requests ... damn evils of facebook