A Friend Called Me Today........

Nothingman54

I have a friend who called me earlier and was freaking out cause he looked through his wifes cell and found that she has been looking at alot of lesbian porn. He dosent know what to think. I told him to just ask her about it in a calm way and figure out if it's just something sexual or if she is indeed a lesbian. I told him maybe he could get a 3 sum out of it. He didn't think that was funny. What would you think in that situation? I don't know what I would think.?

81

was he snooping on the phone or just stumbled across it?

either way, she needs to remember to delete her history when looking at that sort of content.

unlost dogs

My first thought, God's honest truth?

What was he doing looking through her cell phone?

Hugh Freaking Dillon

I don't think that's the answer he was looking for. No, he shouldn't be looking through her cell, but I don't think it's anything to freak out about. Maybe she was just curious. I've known hetero women to do this. I've known hetero men to do this (with male on male porn). No big deal at all.

Nothingman54

He was snooping. I guess he had his reasons.?

BinauralJam

Tell your freind he's hit the JackPot!!!

Hugh Freaking Dillon

BinauralJam wrote:

Tell your freind he's hit the JackPot!!!

stargirl69

I'm thinking why isn't he thinking he's the luckiest man alive?

Slap upside the head

how big can a picture of a womans' tits be on a cell phone?

Nothingman54

He's not into all that. He just wants a normal marriage. ( if there is such a thing)

Slap upside the head

Nothingman54 wrote:

He's not into all that. He just wants a normal marriage. ( if there is such a thing)

If he wanted a "normal" marriage then the first thing he shouldn't be doing is snooping around
his wife's cell phone.

polaris_x

unlost dogs wrote:

My first thought, God's honest truth?

What was he doing looking through her cell phone?

yup ... there is no trust in this relationship ... you can't ask for a relationship based on trust and not give it ...

in any case - seems to be a double standard here ... if you go through many guys emails or whatever, you're gonna find porn ... for the most part that is normal ... what's the diff?

loadedgun

Has she seen Black Swan yet? Maybe it triggered something.....

DewieCox

So everybody can diagnose the health of a marriage from the fact that he was looking in her phone? Ridiculous

I've looked(not snooped) through my wife's phone and it wouldn't really bother me to find out she looked at mine.


Could be there's enough trust there where it's not even an issue. Maybe he used her phone for somethin and then he started to connect the dots.

BinauralJam

Nothingman54 wrote:

He's not into all that. He just wants a normal marriage. ( if there is such a thing)

One way or the other, he needs to talk to her about it.

81

Slap upside the head wrote:

how big can a picture of a womans' tits be on a cell phone?

4.3 inchs on mine.

cell phones are amazing now. what, bored at work during the day. head on down to the basement restroom and watch some porn.

oh wait, you have an iphone. my condolances.

dimitrispearljam

any link?

Nothingman54

He looked through her phone so I'm guessing he thought something was going on or something?? I'm sure there's more to it. He was going to the store then going back home so we didn't talk for long. I told him to call me later. If I thought something was going on I would want to know and I would do everything I could do to find out.

Hugh Freaking Dillon

+1

When I was on facebook, my wife looked at my page and all that if I left it open. If I have nothing to hide, why would I give a shit?

DewieCox wrote:

So everybody can diagnose the health of a marriage from the fact that he was looking in her phone? Ridiculous

I've looked(not snooped) through my wife's phone and it wouldn't really bother me to find out she looked at mine.


Could be there's enough trust there where it's not even an issue. Maybe he used her phone for somethin and then he started to connect the dots.

mysticweed

loadedgun wrote:

Has she seen Black Swan yet? Maybe it triggered something.....

that's EXACTLY what i thought

now there's two hours of my life i will never get back (and i'm a dancer)

Hugh Freaking Dillon

I was going to say he's making a mountain out of a molehill, but if he had previous suspicions, maybe he's onto something. did he tell if you if their intimate life has slowed down or halted completely? that would, to me, be the biggest indicator of an issue.

Nothingman54 wrote:

He looked through her phone so I'm guessing he thought something was going on or something?? I'm sure there's more to it. He was going to the store then going back home so we didn't talk for long. I told him to call me later. If I thought something was going on I would want to know and I would do everything I could do to find out.

ZiggyStar

A lot of lesbian porn is way hotter than hetero porn. There aren't many hot men in porn. There are a lot of hot women in porn.

Regardless of whether he was looking at her phone or not (when imo she should have been smart enough to delete it if she didn't want it found), I think it's sad that they aren't comfortable enough with each other to watch porn together and for her to express that lesbian porn turns her on. Does it mean she's a lesbian? Hell no. Does it mean she's curious? Possibly. But there's a good chance his wife is just like lot of chicks who think watching females in porn....as well as men....is really fucking sexy.

Loulou

Hmmmm, I'm not so sure he should say anything unless he has a strong suspicion that's she auctually cheated with a woman. Sexuality is a very complex and private thing and I think he might really hit a sore spot if he confronts her for just looking at porn. She might get reeeeeeally embarrased and be even more reclusive! I know some people get a bit upset when they catch their spouse looking at porn but I really don't see the big deal, we're only human after all.

Loulou

+++++1

ZiggyStar wrote:

A lot of lesbian porn is way hotter than hetero porn. There aren't many hot men in porn. There are a lot of hot women in porn.

Regardless of whether he was looking at her phone or not (when imo she should have been smart enough to delete it if she didn't want it found), I think it's sad that they aren't comfortable enough with each other to watch porn together and for her to express that lesbian porn turns her on. Does it mean she's a lesbian? Hell no. Does it mean she's curious? Possibly. But there's a good chance his wife is just like lot of chicks who think watching females in porn....as well as men....is really fucking sexy.

dcfaithful

ZiggyStar wrote:

A lot of lesbian porn is way hotter than hetero porn. There aren't many hot men in porn. There are a lot of hot women in porn.

You obviously haven't seen my flicks.

ZiggyStar

People go through phases with porn too...don't you think? I know I do sometimes. Watch heaps of lesbian for a few weeks....then stockings/sexy outfits for a while....then Belladonna....then BJs....then threesome....etc etc....maybe she's just going through a little lesbian phase....and about to move onto another phase.

I really don't see how lesbian porn makes him assume straight away that she's a lesbian....or that she's cheated. He must have had a reason to believe something was going on beforehand.

I wonder if he would care if it was man-woman porn? I also wonder if he would automatically assume she was cheating with another man if that was the porn he'd found?

Hmmm....the more I think about it, he definitely already had suspicions to jump to such a conclusion so quickly.

Hugh Freaking Dillon

I don't think sexuality should be private between spouses. Maybe he should address it like "I saw this on your phone and I found it really interesting! is this something you are into? if so, I'd like you to share it with me!"

Loulou wrote:

Hmmmm, I'm not so sure he should say anything unless he has a strong suspicion that's she auctually cheated with a woman. Sexuality is a very complex and private thing and I think he might really hit a sore spot if he confronts her for just looking at porn. She might get reeeeeeally embarrased and be even more reclusive! I know some people get a bit upset when they catch their spouse looking at porn but I really don't see the big deal, we're only human after all.

Hugh Freaking Dillon

ZiggyStar wrote:

People go through phases with porn too...don't you think? I know I do sometimes. Watch heaps of lesbian for a few weeks....then stockings/sexy outfits for a while....then Belladonna....then BJs....then threesome....etc etc....maybe she's just going through a little lesbian phase....and about to move onto another phase.

I think I need to take an Australian vacation with my wife.

ZiggyStar

ZiggyStar wrote:

People go through phases with porn too...don't you think? I know I do sometimes. Watch heaps of lesbian for a few weeks....then stockings/sexy outfits for a while....then Belladonna....then BJs....then threesome....etc etc....maybe she's just going through a little lesbian phase....and about to move onto another phase.

I really don't see how lesbian porn makes him assume straight away that she's a lesbian....or that she's cheated. He must have had a reason to believe something was going on beforehand.

I wonder if he would care if it was man-woman porn? I also wonder if he would automatically assume she was cheating with another man if that was the porn he'd found?

Hmmm....the more I think about it, he definitely already had suspicions to jump to such a conclusion so quickly.

Okay, re-reading the OP I just realised that there was no mention of him thinking she was cheating....just he didn't know what to think regarding her watching chicks. Sorry.

dcfaithful

Paul David wrote:

ZiggyStar wrote:

People go through phases with porn too...don't you think? I know I do sometimes. Watch heaps of lesbian for a few weeks....then stockings/sexy outfits for a while....then Belladonna....then BJs....then threesome....etc etc....maybe she's just going through a little lesbian phase....and about to move onto another phase.

I think I need to take an Australian vacation and find a wife.

Fixed.

ZiggyStar

Paul David wrote:

I don't think sexuality should be private between spouses. Maybe he should address it like "I saw this on your phone and I found it really interesting! is this something you are into? if so, I'd like you to share it with me!"

Loulou wrote:

Hmmmm, I'm not so sure he should say anything unless he has a strong suspicion that's she auctually cheated with a woman. Sexuality is a very complex and private thing and I think he might really hit a sore spot if he confronts her for just looking at porn. She might get reeeeeeally embarrased and be even more reclusive! I know some people get a bit upset when they catch their spouse looking at porn but I really don't see the big deal, we're only human after all.

OR sit down with her and watch some normal porn together and then once she's comfortable doing that, suggest some lesbian porn or threesome porn!

She's obviously embarrassed or shy about it otherwise she wouldn't be hiding it. He needs to help her explore her sexuality and be comfortable with it. By saying that he looked at her phone and found it, it's just going to make her clam up, get defensive and possibly be embarrassed. The absolute worst thing he could do is make her feel that she's done something wrong....because she hasn't. If he's delicate with the situation, it could be the start of a whole new sexy journey for them.