should i be obligated to give 30 days notice?
Pepe Silvia
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to make a long story short i had moved into this house, the female lease holder started coming on to me but i resisted for a while saying i didn't want to date her and thought it would make things too weird. she insisted she didn't want to date either and repeatedly said things like "i know this isn't a relationship but whatever it is works for me"
we messed around then i tried to break it off saying if she wanted a boyfriend maybe we should stop since i wouldn't date a girl getting nailed by her roommate. she said she is an adult and is capable of making these decisions, when she feels she wants a relationship she will tell me.
eventually that time came as she began to talk about long term things with me. so i finally ended our relations. she flipped out doing a 180 now saying she thought i'd come around eventually.
this was a while ago, she eventually calmed down and she started going out with other guys and getting off my case. things seemed ok until a night i stayed out pretty late with another girl. then she asked me to move out, by this time i had a new job and because of the schedule i rarely had to deal with her.
but i was fine with moving out, after i went out with that girl she started coming up with more and more ridiculous rules for me and only me.
so, i started looking for another place but she refuses to give me a reference, which can make it difficult as most people will want to talk to who you live with now. she is the only one on the lease (the other roommate might have signed a lease but i never did) and she told me she needs 30 days notice for me to move out. i thought that was understandable since she needed time to find another roommate. this made finding another place somewhat difficult as i didn't want to pay rent at two places.
she had told me one of her best friends is coming down the beginning of january....i find out today he is actually moving in!!!!! so, since she already has another roommate already in line and i never signed a lease and she wants me out as soon as i find a place (meaning i'd be paying her for january knowing i'd probably be moved out most of the month) i don't feel that i'm obligated to give her 30 days notice or pay for 30 days.
she already does shady shit to pay less rent than anyone else despite her having an entire floor to herself so i didn't feel i was obligated then but now with her friend moving in in a few days i definitely don't feel i have to pay her since she's getting money from him.
we messed around then i tried to break it off saying if she wanted a boyfriend maybe we should stop since i wouldn't date a girl getting nailed by her roommate. she said she is an adult and is capable of making these decisions, when she feels she wants a relationship she will tell me.
eventually that time came as she began to talk about long term things with me. so i finally ended our relations. she flipped out doing a 180 now saying she thought i'd come around eventually.
this was a while ago, she eventually calmed down and she started going out with other guys and getting off my case. things seemed ok until a night i stayed out pretty late with another girl. then she asked me to move out, by this time i had a new job and because of the schedule i rarely had to deal with her.
but i was fine with moving out, after i went out with that girl she started coming up with more and more ridiculous rules for me and only me.
so, i started looking for another place but she refuses to give me a reference, which can make it difficult as most people will want to talk to who you live with now. she is the only one on the lease (the other roommate might have signed a lease but i never did) and she told me she needs 30 days notice for me to move out. i thought that was understandable since she needed time to find another roommate. this made finding another place somewhat difficult as i didn't want to pay rent at two places.
she had told me one of her best friends is coming down the beginning of january....i find out today he is actually moving in!!!!! so, since she already has another roommate already in line and i never signed a lease and she wants me out as soon as i find a place (meaning i'd be paying her for january knowing i'd probably be moved out most of the month) i don't feel that i'm obligated to give her 30 days notice or pay for 30 days.
she already does shady shit to pay less rent than anyone else despite her having an entire floor to herself so i didn't feel i was obligated then but now with her friend moving in in a few days i definitely don't feel i have to pay her since she's getting money from him.
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i was thinkin 'death before dishonor'
what are you but my reflection? who am i to judge or strike you down?
"I will promise you this, that if we have not gotten our troops out by the time I am president, it is the first thing I will do. I will get our troops home. We will bring an end to this war. You can take that to the bank." - Barack Obama
when you told me 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'
i was thinkin 'death before dishonor'
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Moral of the story ... Men! Don't mix bizness with leather with unbalanced girls
i guess i misspoke, she will give me a reference, just a very shitty one. i asked if she could just say i pay my bills and rent on time but since we had a relationship she shouldn't really comment on anything else but she won't do it.
i asked a female friend if she would say we lived together and be my reference and she said she will do it.
i looked at a place yesterday, it was perfect - walking distance to downtown, markets, music venues....the guy really liked me and said i had his thumbs up but still need to meet the other people living there, the only problem is they want someone to move in right away. at first i was willing to pay rent both here and there because it was such a perfect place but when she told me this friend is MOVING IN i shouldn't have to give her any notice or money
what are you but my reflection? who am i to judge or strike you down?
"I will promise you this, that if we have not gotten our troops out by the time I am president, it is the first thing I will do. I will get our troops home. We will bring an end to this war. You can take that to the bank." - Barack Obama
when you told me 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'
i was thinkin 'death before dishonor'
That is not true, even if his name is not on the lease, if he has resided there for a certain period of time, he has some rights as a resident, she can not just kick his butt out with no notice. It all depends on the laws in the area in which you live.
yeah, last week she tried to 'evict' me for smoking pot! she knew i smoked before i moved in, then she said i could smoke anywhere, then after i broke it off only downstairs, then only in my room, then only outside to now she doesn't want anything in the house, i'm supposed to keep everything in my car. when i questioned this she said if i'm not willing to take the consequences for it then maybe i should quit.....i had given my guy a ride home and he said he'd throw some in extra for the ride...i couldn't find my scale so i left it in the bag, which she found...
the annoying thing is her best friend moving in smokes a lot more than i do so i'm positive she will ask me to get him high when he comes.
what are you but my reflection? who am i to judge or strike you down?
"I will promise you this, that if we have not gotten our troops out by the time I am president, it is the first thing I will do. I will get our troops home. We will bring an end to this war. You can take that to the bank." - Barack Obama
when you told me 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'
i was thinkin 'death before dishonor'
How about telling your new potential landlord that your current living situation is with a woman you were romantically involved with, it ended badly, and now you're moving out. as a result of that. Tell them she's the reference, but considering the circumstances, you expect that she would not provide a fair account of your habitation together.
Offer him either a work reference or a couple of personal references. I'm sure that would be an acceptable alternative.
GET OUT OF THE OLD PLACE before she can go all crazy on your ass.
You don't have a lease. Just leave, settling up for whatever days you're there.
Let her try to take you to Small Claims Court. If she threatens that, say that such a move on her part would result in you having to share intimate details of your relationship in a courtroom. And that you would be fully prepared to do so if need be.
if you have a place you can move into right away, I wouldn't worry about giving her any notice especially as you said, she already has another room mate. I would try to get that in witing in some sort of email though - just to cover your ass.
How do you lock the terror out when you've already invited it in?
As far as her not giving you a reference, it is OK to say to a prospective landlord that you have left a relationship that didn't work out. They should understand that it will be difficult to get a reference. Don't elaborate on your story though, first off its none of their business, secondly, she might scare of a prospective landlord who might otherwise have taken you as a tenant.
Good luck dude. This time get all male roommates!
jo
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must. resist. temptation. to. make. naughty. pun.
Oh go on
yes but then i wouldn't be obligated to pay for 30 days, right? i'm more than happy to get out, i just don't feel i should have to pay her for 30 days if i'm not going to be here
what are you but my reflection? who am i to judge or strike you down?
"I will promise you this, that if we have not gotten our troops out by the time I am president, it is the first thing I will do. I will get our troops home. We will bring an end to this war. You can take that to the bank." - Barack Obama
when you told me 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'
i was thinkin 'death before dishonor'
no I wouldn't think so, especially if you have it in writing that she has a new room mate coming in January - that why I stessed trying to get it in an email or a text - she has no right to collect from two tenants, especially if you are not living there.
from what i understand that is not a law and with me not signing a lease or anything if anything it would be out of courtesy. but since she is having someone else move in i should, at the very least, have my rent go down
what are you but my reflection? who am i to judge or strike you down?
"I will promise you this, that if we have not gotten our troops out by the time I am president, it is the first thing I will do. I will get our troops home. We will bring an end to this war. You can take that to the bank." - Barack Obama
when you told me 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'
i was thinkin 'death before dishonor'
Yet still I'm giggling...
jo
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"How I choose to feel is how I am." ~ EV/MMc
"Some people hear their own inner voices with great clearness and they live by what they hear. Such people become crazy, or they become legends." ~ One Stab ~
jo
http://www.Etsy.com/Shop/SimpleEarthCreations
"How I choose to feel is how I am." ~ EV/MMc
"Some people hear their own inner voices with great clearness and they live by what they hear. Such people become crazy, or they become legends." ~ One Stab ~
judges hear all sorts of accusations between lovers gone bad, and take each with a grain of salt.
unless she has pictures of you doing the deed, and even if she does, who's to say there was anything illegal going on in pictures. can't test the film. i'd say no worries on that front. just get the hell outta dodge, dude.
jo
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"How I choose to feel is how I am." ~ EV/MMc
"Some people hear their own inner voices with great clearness and they live by what they hear. Such people become crazy, or they become legends." ~ One Stab ~
she's not gonna go to court or if she did i seriously doubt she'd mention it because she is a guardian ad lightem or whatever so she wouldn't want all that bad stuff coming out, especially since i can say i've seen her smoke pot, take mushrooms, she had me buy pot for her friend once, whenever she has a friend visit she asks me to get them high.....and when i moved in there were 2 other roommates and they did far more drugs than my pot smoking. one even sold it!
and no, i never gave her a security deposit.
what are you but my reflection? who am i to judge or strike you down?
"I will promise you this, that if we have not gotten our troops out by the time I am president, it is the first thing I will do. I will get our troops home. We will bring an end to this war. You can take that to the bank." - Barack Obama
when you told me 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'
i was thinkin 'death before dishonor'