what does this mean?

karatekid

What does it mean when a guy follows you around for ten years
marries someone else
tells you he wants to have children with you
has his friends call you everyday
leaves mix tapes in your car everyday
says hes in love with you
but pretends you don't exist to everyone else?

vduboise

he's a stalker. :eh:

but seriously, he doesn't sound like someone that you need in your life. I would tell him to move on

Lizard

He is a user

chadwick

karatekid wrote:

What does it mean when a guy follows you around for ten years
marries someone else
tells you he wants to have children with you
has his friends call you everyday
leaves mix tapes in your car everyday
says hes in love with you
but pretends you don't exist to everyone else?

it means he's an idiot

karatekid

wasn't sure
can you believe that?
how sheltered am I?
thanks!

justam

karatekid wrote:

What does it mean when a guy follows you around for ten years
marries someone else
tells you he wants to have children with you
has his friends call you everyday
leaves mix tapes in your car everyday
says hes in love with you
but pretends you don't exist to everyone else?

The parts of this are odd.

Why doesn't he call you himself? Why have his friends do it?
Does anyone even make mix tapes these days?
Why would he pretend you don't exist?

What are you even hoping for?

karatekid

yes its all super wierd to me too
but he has done it so long that I think it means something
I'm like caught in some wierd stockholm syndrome
I get paranoid because he has his friends show up at place where i go
and I'm used to it. He thinks it shows he cares. Its wierd I don't know how he does it.
But it makes it hard for me to be with anyone in real because I feel like he will hurt me if I do.

vduboise

umm... this definitely has Stalker written all over your situation.

what justam said- what do you want from this person? do you want to be with him?

justam

Yikes.

karatekid

I tell him to stop but he won't. What should I do?

Loulou

It means he wants his cake and eat it too. Tell him you'll tell his wife if he doesn't piss off

chadwick

karatekid wrote:

I tell him to stop but he won't. What should I do?

step. #1). get a berserker to scare the crap out of him. that should end it.
if he keeps getting stupid with you
step. #2) he gets introduced to stuff he won't enjoy much at all

chadwick

examples:
a brick thru his car's windshield, a bloody face, a broken arm
good times stuff

vduboise

karatekid wrote:

I tell him to stop but he won't. What should I do?

how many times have you asked him to stop and leave you alone?

Don't take any of his "gifts", hang up the phone when he or his friends call, and try to be unavailable to him a much as you can.

I think one of the steps you can try to do is go to the police and see if there is some steps you can take to get him to stop or ways to protect yourself.

Phantom Pain

Sweep the leg..Johnny

chadwick

vduboise wrote:

karatekid wrote:

I tell him to stop but he won't. What should I do?

how many times have you asked him to stop and leave you alone?

Don't take any of his "gifts", hang up the phone when he or his friends call, and try to be unavailable to him a much as you can.

I think one of the steps you can try to do is go to the police and see if there is some steps you can take to get him to stop or ways to protect yourself.

police can be of service, true.
defending one's self by taking action into your own hands
that's probably were things are more effective

just my opinion...

voidofman

Phantom Pain wrote:

Sweep the leg..Johnny

That made me laugh.

Seriously, restraining order of some kind, even though he isn't physically near you, he is still around in some capacity.

Loulou

Tell him your herpes is flaring up again! That'd fix him up, you won't be seeing him again!

karatekid

thanks guys!! you are awesome. I am amazed by such support! I needed it bigtime.
I have regained faith in humanity. I have lived so terrified for so long. THanks!!

vduboise

chadwick wrote:

vduboise wrote:

karatekid wrote:

I tell him to stop but he won't. What should I do?

how many times have you asked him to stop and leave you alone?

Don't take any of his "gifts", hang up the phone when he or his friends call, and try to be unavailable to him a much as you can.

I think one of the steps you can try to do is go to the police and see if there is some steps you can take to get him to stop or ways to protect yourself.

police can be of service, true.
defending one's self by taking action into your own hands
that's probably were things are more effective

just my opinion...

true, but depending on what action she decides to take, he may or may not become more aggressive and violent. Finding what laws are in your area can help with decisions that you can make if you have to go a legal rout.

Search and use all options to try to get this guy to stop- if you really want him to stop- including beating the shit out of him (if that is the route you want to take)

Hugh Freaking Dillon

I personally wouldn't recommend physical violence. that won't solve it. it never solves anything. if anything, it will make it worse for your and/or the person who does it.

be honest: are you being an enabler? I know you've said you've asked him to stop, but there are ways, as someone else mentioned, to just cut him out completely if you really want to. changing your phone number is one option. block his friends' numbers from even ringing at your house.

how are his friends able to find where you are? are you posting these personal details on facebook or twitter or something? make your profile private enough that people who aren't your "friends" can't see your status updates. are any of your friends maybe giving out information that they shouldn't?

make it clear to him that if he doesn't stop you'll have a conversation with his wife. do you have any physical proof, like a letter or an email from him, or is it all just verbal? what kind of "friends" are these that he has that are calling you for their married friend and stalking you for him? how bizarre. sounds like a pack of loonies.

81

creepy

Hugh Freaking Dillon

karatekid wrote:

But it makes it hard for me to be with anyone in real because I feel like he will hurt me if I do.

if you feel fearful for your own safety you need to speak with the proper authorities and find out what your rights are. NOW.

Loulou

I'd be moving on with someone built like a brick shit house and make sure to introduce them to each other. "John this is Bruiser, Bruiser this is John, the dick who keeps sending me dorky mixtapes!"
Nah, in all seriousness, there must be something that keeps this bloke coming back??????????? Are you sure you have been straight up with him?? Tell him flat out, you leave me alone or I call the cops and your Mrs.

Paul David wrote:

karatekid wrote:

But it makes it hard for me to be with anyone in real because I feel like he will hurt me if I do.

if you feel fearful for your own safety you need to speak with the proper authorities and find out what your rights are. NOW.

Jason P

The fact that he still makes mix tapes probably disturbs me the most out of everything listed.

justam

Looking at this the next day it occurs to me that the man chasing you is a closet homosexual and that you're a young man. Perhaps he is chasing you but can't acknowledge you because he doesn't want others to know he's gay? (And that's a sad commentary on the social group he's chosen.)

That's a little more common than if you were a woman being pursued by a straight man this way.

Either way, I think this must a tough situation for you to be in.

Loulou

justam wrote:

Looking at this the next day it occurs to me that the man chasing you is a closet homosexual and that you're a young man. Perhaps he is chasing you but can't acknowledge you because he doesn't want others to know he's gay? (And that's a sad commentary on the social group he's chosen.)

That's a little more common than if you were a woman being pursued by a straight man this way.

Either way, I think this must a tough situation for you to be in.

:think: :wtf:

Hugh Freaking Dillon

stalker said he "wants to have children" with karatekid. that leads me to believe karatekid is a female.

justam wrote:

Looking at this the next day it occurs to me that the man chasing you is a closet homosexual and that you're a young man. Perhaps he is chasing you but can't acknowledge you because he doesn't want others to know he's gay? (And that's a sad commentary on the social group he's chosen.)

That's a little more common than if you were a woman being pursued by a straight man this way.

Either way, I think this must a tough situation for you to be in.

justam

Loulou wrote:

:think: :wtf:

Doesn't that make a bit more sense? Not any better, but less unusual...

Loulou

They could adopt? But yeah I would say female too coz that's kinda getting a little bit cryptic

Paul David wrote:

stalker said he "wants to have children" with karatekid. that leads me to believe karatekid is a female.

justam wrote:

Looking at this the next day it occurs to me that the man chasing you is a closet homosexual and that you're a young man. Perhaps he is chasing you but can't acknowledge you because he doesn't want others to know he's gay? (And that's a sad commentary on the social group he's chosen.)

That's a little more common than if you were a woman being pursued by a straight man this way.

Either way, I think this must a tough situation for you to be in.

justam

Paul David wrote:

stalker said he "wants to have children" with karatekid. that leads me to believe karatekid is a female.

Unless that's really just a euphemism for wanting to fuck him.