Creeps at work?
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The shop i work at i am usually alone at after 4:30p or so... There's this guy that has made a habit of coming in every night to talk to me. I'm 22 he looks like he's maybe, oh i don't know, 35 or 40. I don't think he is completely off his rocker but there seems to be the feeling that he's kind of, one brick short of the load.
Anyways, not only does he continue to talk to me while i'm HELPING customers but he always talks about things that are completely inappropiate. I'm not a prude, but he creeps me out so I don't particularly enjoy him talking to me about handcuffing women to his bed (as he went on about tonight). And even worse once he saw me walking to work with my boyfriend and he doesn't stop going on about him, asking me about him and saying shit like, "oh why are you so tired? oh i know, you've been up cuddling all nignt" or, "oh so your boyfriend doesn't stay the night with you or what?" its always something on the cusp of asking about our sex life or something.
I try to just put up with it and not say much and do my best to ignore him or just at least try and give him the impression that i really don't care...
But at what point do i tell him to fuck off? I'm always thinking it...
Anyways, not only does he continue to talk to me while i'm HELPING customers but he always talks about things that are completely inappropiate. I'm not a prude, but he creeps me out so I don't particularly enjoy him talking to me about handcuffing women to his bed (as he went on about tonight). And even worse once he saw me walking to work with my boyfriend and he doesn't stop going on about him, asking me about him and saying shit like, "oh why are you so tired? oh i know, you've been up cuddling all nignt" or, "oh so your boyfriend doesn't stay the night with you or what?" its always something on the cusp of asking about our sex life or something.
I try to just put up with it and not say much and do my best to ignore him or just at least try and give him the impression that i really don't care...
But at what point do i tell him to fuck off? I'm always thinking it...
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I think he's already behaving inappropriately if he's talking to you about subjects that make you uncomfortable AND he's hindering your ability to help other customers by hanging around when he's not actually doing business.
Talk to your employers and explain the situation to them. Tell them you need to put a stop to this and ask if they can help you with the situation. Depending upon their reaction, (and how protective they feel towards you) you may even get some help with "talking to him" about leaving you alone.
i wouldn't have a problem with at all.
The common phrase for this is 'sexual harassment'
Someone HAS to say something. Don't let politeness stop you from standing up for yourself. Politeness rules have to go out the window when you need to defend yourself.
Something def. needs to be done I just gotta figure out how I'm going to do it..
You should look for his name in the sex offenders data base. He could be grooming you, probably a pedaphile, and now that it's getting darker earlier, more likely to strike when you close, be very careful going home, and don't depend on mace as most of these creeps have already built up a tolerance. I use to lock up sex offenders and this fits the profile. There is no such thing as enough paranoia these days!
There is no reason NOT to take this seriously. That sounds totally creepy. You should get a manager to talk to him maybe. But don't be afraid to get the police involved. And that's just judging by those very inappropriate comments.
pedophiles, as I understand it, go after kids, not younger adults.
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Well, the original poster may very well have a problem with me as well, but I'd appreciate the common courtesy of 'fuck off' if my off-beat advances fell on deaf ears....don't encourage the fucker by failing to set boundaries....be decisive..
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
youre at that point now. perhaps past it. speak to your boss about them possibly staying back to observe this creep and then stepping in and having a quiet word to this creep. that way it doesnt look like you ratted him out. this needs to stop NOW.
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If your manager isn't available to help you, maybe you could go with direct eye contact and, "this topic is extremely uncomfortable for me. I am going to give my attention to (the customer, restocking, a dust bunny, whatever) so please excuse me."
I did something like that with a crazy woman who approached me at a train station and wouldn't leave me alone. I said, "I'm uncomfortable with this conversation. I'm going over there. Please don't follow me." I was quite clear in my tone, and I couldn't believe that it actually worked.
Kick Ass!!! Some times i do this at work when i'm bored, just to F with my Co-Workers.
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Carry pepper spray when you are alone. In a place where you can use it. Not the bottom of your purse like my wife.
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First tip, look'em in the eye and stop staring at there chest.
Exactly. He's already pushing a boundary too far. Doesn't matter if he's a customer, he's still harassing you, and something can be done.
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I really didn't know what to do, so I laughed it off and said, "Yeah, okay crazy man!"
And also, two days ago, I had another regular client who is 13 years old, telling me that he spent the day in in-school suspension for stealing an autistic boys hat and throwing in a tree and also for slapping a girl's ass. I told him that I wished the girls would have kicked him in the balls because that is completely unacceptable. He then told me that she belonged in the kitchen, just like I should be as well.... right where I belonged. I looked him square in the face and told him, "Look around, you over-privelaged little shit... you're surrounded by women. You say shit like that again, I WILL cut you and punch you in the face. I am not going to allow you to speak that way. And I hope that you cock off to the wrong person and hope you get yours." He didn't have anything else to say after that....
Some people's kids... :roll:
Anyways, speak up! You win some, you lose some.
I have yet to figure out what to do about the old fuck, but he doesn't worry me.
Luckily, we have the right to refuse service and but also aren't aloud to remain on site solo. I have had to ask my boss to speak to clients before if what I was saying wasn't working. Be safe though. I wouldn't feel comfortable being alone with someone like that.