how much older/younger would you date?

Pepe Silvia

it seems i'm having trouble finding women around my age. it seems like everyone that shows interest is college age-27 or so or 40s n up! right now there are two girls interested, one is 25, the other in her 50s or so. i'm 34 but most people think i look around 26 so i guess that plays a part in it. perhaps i'm overthinking this n should just have fun while it's being offered but it just feels odd to think i was graduating high school while the one was finishing 3rd grade!

neilybabes86

Age means balls dude...as long as its over 18

pjfan31

I'm 24, I would go 18 and maybe 30ish. But that depends. I Would be going that 25 year old for sure.

chadwick

neilybabes86 wrote:

Age means balls dude...as long as its over 18

agreed

stardust1976

I don't think it's necessarily about an age factor, it's more to do with how much you have in common with a person. There are plenty of younger people out there who act a lot older, and there are plenty of older people who act younger. It should come down to how much you like the person and can see yourself continuing to like them - being with someone your own age doesn't automatically mean you have things in common or will actually like them. Go for what your gut tells you, not what you think society wants from you!

chadwick

i've been with women a lot younger and a lot older
who frickin knows
i can't keep up with it

woman are fun and awesomely amazing @ all ages
love them all

justam

I think age means something. For example, when people get attached to someone much older, it tends to age them. Also, when people go with people much younger, they don't have as much in common with them in terms of basic cultural background.

I don't date (because I'm married) but I'd say you might want to limit the age difference to 7 or 8 years only.

maj4e

Depends on what dating means. Serious relationship dating? I'm 35 I'd go 10 down and maybe 7 up. But really all that goes out the window if the girl knocks your socks off.

adropinthepark

I've been trying to feel this one out for a while. It is definitely seems to be largely based on personal preferences, and, for some people, I guess the law plays a part in helping them set their boundaries.

I think I'm most comfortable around my peers, but probably would be okay dating up to about ten years older or five years younger.

I don't think it's unusual to see a woman, aged 23 or older herself, date a man 12 years older than her. And, I've seen a lot of women in their late twenties and up dating men 7-9 years younger.

unlost dogs

Mr. Unlost is 10 years older than I am. When we got married he was 38 and I was 28. The boyfriend before him was also 10 years older, we started dating when I was 22 and he was 32. The one before him was a year older.

If I was single I suspect I'd be uncomfortable dating anyone more than 10 years older or younger.

Except Neilybabes, of course.

neilybabes86

unlost dogs wrote:

Mr. Unlost is 10 years older than I am. When we got married he was 38 and I was 28. The boyfriend before him was also 10 years older, we started dating when I was 22 and he was 32. The one before him was a year older.

If I was single I suspect I'd be uncomfortable dating anyone more than 10 years older or younger.

Except Neilybabes, of course.

I'm over 18

small town beck

I would go maybe five or six years younger and maybe seven years older??! Although if some 25 year old guy wanted to rock my world I wouldn't say no

I am starting to feel like single guys my age are a myth :?


Good luck

igotid88

18-60

comebackgirl

I agree with unlost dogs...I'd be most comfortable going 10 years younger or older. My husband is 10 years younger...before I met him I would have probably said 5 years in either direction...made me realize I wouldn't rule someone out because of age alone, as long as they can function as my partner and not my son or my dad When you meet someone and you click...you click. Seems like most of my friends have been dating guys 10 years younger lately. I think all the guys our age are married

Gary Carter

comebackgirl wrote:

Seems like most of my friends have been dating guys 10 years younger lately. I think all the guys our age are married

and the ones that aren't married are perving on the chicks near my age range, douchebags

my age range is 18-37

18-22 for a fuck buddy relationship

23-37 for an actual relationship

god that sound's so bad

small town beck

comebackgirl wrote:

I agree with unlost dogs...I'd be most comfortable going 10 years younger or older. My husband is 10 years younger...before I met him I would have probably said 5 years in either direction...made me realize I wouldn't rule someone out because of age alone, as long as they can function as my partner and not my son or my dad When you meet someone and you click...you click. Seems like most of my friends have been dating guys 10 years younger lately. I think all the guys our age are married

They are all married :( or want to date the young chippies :roll: . Or they just plain have hang-ups (not that I am bitter or anything )

comebackgirl

small town beck wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

I agree with unlost dogs...I'd be most comfortable going 10 years younger or older. My husband is 10 years younger...before I met him I would have probably said 5 years in either direction...made me realize I wouldn't rule someone out because of age alone, as long as they can function as my partner and not my son or my dad When you meet someone and you click...you click. Seems like most of my friends have been dating guys 10 years younger lately. I think all the guys our age are married

They are all married :( or want to date the young chippies :roll: . Or they just plain have hang-ups (not that I am bitter or anything )

chippies maybe the ones that aren't married are dead Or just have too much damn baggage :shock:

mickeyrat

comebackgirl wrote:

small town beck wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

I agree with unlost dogs...I'd be most comfortable going 10 years younger or older. My husband is 10 years younger...before I met him I would have probably said 5 years in either direction...made me realize I wouldn't rule someone out because of age alone, as long as they can function as my partner and not my son or my dad When you meet someone and you click...you click. Seems like most of my friends have been dating guys 10 years younger lately. I think all the guys our age are married

They are all married :( or want to date the young chippies :roll: . Or they just plain have hang-ups (not that I am bitter or anything )

chippies maybe the ones that aren't married are dead Or just have too much damn baggage :shock:

hey hey hey!!! single here( well, divorced, still dont understand it but whatever) unsure what age you're speaking of but 42 aint dead!!!

comebackgirl

mickeyrat wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

chippies maybe the ones that aren't married are dead Or just have too much damn baggage :shock:

hey hey hey!!! single here( well, divorced, still dont understand it but whatever) unsure what age you're speaking of but 42 aint dead!!!

We've got a live one! :thumbup: Are you into the young chippies???

small town beck

comebackgirl wrote:

small town beck wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

I agree with unlost dogs...I'd be most comfortable going 10 years younger or older. My husband is 10 years younger...before I met him I would have probably said 5 years in either direction...made me realize I wouldn't rule someone out because of age alone, as long as they can function as my partner and not my son or my dad When you meet someone and you click...you click. Seems like most of my friends have been dating guys 10 years younger lately. I think all the guys our age are married

They are all married :( or want to date the young chippies :roll: . Or they just plain have hang-ups (not that I am bitter or anything )

chippies maybe the ones that aren't married are dead Or just have too much damn baggage :shock:

Really I just wanted to say chippies I am sure there are decent, single chaps my age. Well pretty sure :think:

Thoughts_Arrive

Women ideally under 30, I am 26.
No younger than 21 because they are immature under 21, some are immature over 21.

comebackgirl

small town beck wrote:

Really I just wanted to say chippies I am sure there are decent, single chaps my age. Well pretty sure :think:

Is that what all the hip kids are saying these days? Oh they're out there...somewhere...I think.. :problem:

small town beck

comebackgirl wrote:

small town beck wrote:

Really I just wanted to say chippies I am sure there are decent, single chaps my age. Well pretty sure :think:

Is that what all the hip kids are saying these days? Oh they're out there...somewhere...I think.. :problem:

You know it

I think I will just start collecting cats and wearing tin foil hats.

Black Diamond

I only date woman who are 2 years, 3 months and 10 days younger.

mickeyrat

comebackgirl wrote:

mickeyrat wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

chippies maybe the ones that aren't married are dead Or just have too much damn baggage :shock:

hey hey hey!!! single here( well, divorced, still dont understand it but whatever) unsure what age you're speaking of but 42 aint dead!!!

We've got a live one! :thumbup: Are you into the young chippies???

think I'm into chippies period. if by chippies you mean good looking, intelligent, witty women. age isn't that big of a consideration. It is late twenties is probably my limit as for younger.

morello

I haven't read the whole thread but I've heard that within 5 years of your own age is ideal, it's the high school rule, you want them to be within the range that they might have been at high school with you(aag, can't remember what high school's called in the U.S.. The school you go to between the ages of 13-18ish, ie before you 'leave school' & go to uni or start working...) because it's those years you deveop a lot of your personality & have your main influences & then then they're going to have grown up with the same influeneces - music, tv, sport stars etc...

gimmesometruth27

i don't think age really matters. if a younger girl is mature it should be ok, and if an older gal can let herself go and act as young as you feel that is just as cool....it just depends on what you are looking for...if you just want to lay chicks you don't have to have much of a conscience, yet if you want a relationship you need to be a little more careful so that you do not settle, or so you don't just deliberately dick over multiple girls...there is something to be said for being a player and for being the relationship kind....

if you jive together you jive together.

due to recently having my heart destroyed by a girl 8 years younger, i'm not even interested in dating anybody right now... i'm still way too vulnerable...but it is nice when girls pay attention to me. i feel so damaged that i am not even worth a second look, but as time goes on it is getting a little easier....don't get me wrong, i get women throwing themselves at me all the time due to being in my band, and i get a lot of attention from women, but i have never been one to indulge in that kind of thing. i have always been the relationship kind of guy. in my experience sex is alright but it is 1000% better if you are in love...i'm 35 and i'm at the point where i associate sex with love, and being this age i can't bring myself to just sleep with a gal if i am not in love. 10 years ago yes, but not now. i feel like i have outgrown all of that. yes it was fun, but not fulfilling if you know what i mean..

good luck pepe, i know its rough out there, but you can't go on a quest for the right girl, they say the right one will find you... just don't be so arrogant that you are unwilling to be found....

blackredyellow

I think the gap widens as you get older...

When I was 22 I started dating an 18 year old (lasted a couple of years). Four years seemed like a big difference when we started (I was just out of college, she was just out of high school... very different stages of life).

When I met my wife, I was 30, she was 22... I wasn't sure at first, but she was much more mature than most girls her age. I am now 36 and she is 27 and we are so alike it doesn't seem like we are apart in age at all.

mickeyrat

gimmesometruth27 wrote:

just don't be so arrogant that you are unwilling to be found....

This i really like. agreed with all the rest but this hits it spot on.

catefrances

you know what?? if youre thinking about it then its a problem.

mickeyrat

catefrances wrote:

you know what?? if youre thinking about it then its a problem.

or just seeking the validation for an answer hes already got.