concert faux pas
musicismylife78
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one is why do some women insist on bringing their purses to concerts? its a pain for them to have to carry them and worry about them being stolen especially in such a densly packed crowd, and additionally its a pain for people next to that person who have to deal with being hit by said purse everytime the person moves.
as a smaller stature male it often makes me upset having to fight for a view in general admission. I know its not others faults for being tall, but frankly its not my fault i am not tall in height! i think if you are tall and are in the first few rows you have an obligation to be aware of your surroundings and to look behind you and if there are females or small people of any gender behind you or around you, you need to ask them if you should move or if they need to be accomodated.
cell phone pictures. i have a pretty crappy cell phone and rarely use it and its photo taking quality is awful, and it doesnt record video or sound. i however, do understand the desire to take pictures of bands and record a song or two for youtube uploads. i've benefitted from that many a time, checking out a band live via youtube clips. however i dont get the people who tape multiple songs on their cellphone, or who take dozens and dozens of photos. its annoying.
people who push their way into a crowd. nothing upsets me me more than when someone from the back, pushes their way into the crowd and moves up into the first few rows, or worse pushes their way up and then decides oh so nicely to be standing right in front of me! Its like thanks buddy! and almost always its a person who is taller than i am. so not only have you taken my spot, but you have forced me to move over. Frankly, people arrive early for shows and get good seats or stand in good spots. theres been many a show i wanted to be more in the front, in the first few rows, but i didnt get to the venue early enough. i was saddened, but made the most of the situation. i did not however, push my way to the front of the crowd.
people with no reguard for space. i understand at concerts alot of times we have to deal with being right next to someone, or occasionally bumping elbows with someone. i get it. its a cramped space. what i am not a fan of is people with no reguard for my personal space. i've been to shows where a guy was dancing with his girlfriend in a manner that was outrageous. dance all you want, and this guy had alot of space to work with, but he'd be doing like mambo and tango type moves really close to me, bumping into my back, dancing centimeters from my face. not cool. i was just at a show the other day, i was at a space first. standing, gen admission, this girl and 3 or 4 other people come through, set up right next to me, and in a manner that is really close. like i move my elbows and arms at all and i am touching her. its a pain and its rude frankly. i got there first. why should i have to move over? if you are in a cramped spot tailor your dancing and movements to that situation. or move to the back of the floor sections and dance in any manner you want as widely and freely as you want.
people who go to concerts and talk-enough said.
as a smaller stature male it often makes me upset having to fight for a view in general admission. I know its not others faults for being tall, but frankly its not my fault i am not tall in height! i think if you are tall and are in the first few rows you have an obligation to be aware of your surroundings and to look behind you and if there are females or small people of any gender behind you or around you, you need to ask them if you should move or if they need to be accomodated.
cell phone pictures. i have a pretty crappy cell phone and rarely use it and its photo taking quality is awful, and it doesnt record video or sound. i however, do understand the desire to take pictures of bands and record a song or two for youtube uploads. i've benefitted from that many a time, checking out a band live via youtube clips. however i dont get the people who tape multiple songs on their cellphone, or who take dozens and dozens of photos. its annoying.
people who push their way into a crowd. nothing upsets me me more than when someone from the back, pushes their way into the crowd and moves up into the first few rows, or worse pushes their way up and then decides oh so nicely to be standing right in front of me! Its like thanks buddy! and almost always its a person who is taller than i am. so not only have you taken my spot, but you have forced me to move over. Frankly, people arrive early for shows and get good seats or stand in good spots. theres been many a show i wanted to be more in the front, in the first few rows, but i didnt get to the venue early enough. i was saddened, but made the most of the situation. i did not however, push my way to the front of the crowd.
people with no reguard for space. i understand at concerts alot of times we have to deal with being right next to someone, or occasionally bumping elbows with someone. i get it. its a cramped space. what i am not a fan of is people with no reguard for my personal space. i've been to shows where a guy was dancing with his girlfriend in a manner that was outrageous. dance all you want, and this guy had alot of space to work with, but he'd be doing like mambo and tango type moves really close to me, bumping into my back, dancing centimeters from my face. not cool. i was just at a show the other day, i was at a space first. standing, gen admission, this girl and 3 or 4 other people come through, set up right next to me, and in a manner that is really close. like i move my elbows and arms at all and i am touching her. its a pain and its rude frankly. i got there first. why should i have to move over? if you are in a cramped spot tailor your dancing and movements to that situation. or move to the back of the floor sections and dance in any manner you want as widely and freely as you want.
people who go to concerts and talk-enough said.
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most of those annoy me, as well, though, the taking pictures and videos doesn't bother me as long as it's not constantly in my line of sight.
i never understood the people who insist on having conversations in the middle of songs, especially those that start by saying 'this is my favorite song!' and then talk all of the way through it! the last time i saw mogwai there were some people having a conversation rather loudly during a quiet part and stuart shot them a pretty nasty look.
i think the best crowd i've been a part of was for sigur ros, no one made a noise until the end of each song, not even any wooooooooooh's or fuck yeah's
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As far as the issue with women who carry purses to concerts well you wouldn't understand why they carry a purse unless you are a woman. They carry them for ALL sorts of reasons including it could be that time of the month or they maybe expecting it to be that time of the month. It always is best to be prepared. Also women like to always look nice and want to bring things to help them look nice during a concert.
Now on another note my fiance and I recently went to a RUSH concert and she wore a tight you can't breath mini skirt. Well she's speedy and likes to walk in front of me and started to walk the steps of Cruzan Ampitheatre when I noticed she wasn't wearing any panties. I ran up and said to her and said "honey you do realize you are NOT wearing any panties." She said, Yes I know it's too damn hot to wear any, let's speard the blanket and have some fun". I was like KOOL!
Leave the women alone they have enough problems dealing with us men already.
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I'm also a bit of a short-arse, and yes it is incredibly annoying when tall people stand in front of me, but I don't really blame them, sure a little consideration would be nice, but quite honestly it's my problem really not theirs - so if it's a band I'm desperate to see I will make the effort to get down to the front row, or else I just have to move around a bit.
Mobile phones in the air is probably the most annoying. Sure film the odd song or two, but EVERY FUCKING SONG?! How can anyone enjoy a gig whilst filming everything? Nevermind the fact that they are blocking the views of many people behind them. Invariably the footage is absolute shite anyway, which leads me on to another pet peeve.....people who then upload said shite footage onto youtube, as if anybody would want to view footage so poor that even the most rabid fan wouldn't be able to tell that it is in fact a ten second clip of Mike McCready's Even Flow solo!
People who dance really over the top and aggressively with zero regard for who they bump into. I once witnessed a drunk guy 'dance' into a pregnant woman, needless to say he did it once and once only, her boyfried went schizo.
And finally, girls on men's shoulders - oh yes, I'd love to stare at your back instead of the stage, you selfish fuck.
You should print a couple hundred of these up and pass them out to every one around you at your next concert....anyway,thanks for making me laugh today.
Correct, however at RUSH concerts amongst
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Lol, loving your flashing Rush signs there!
I understand you are a male but most males do care to see beautiful including myself. Most would rather look at beautiful women rather than dogs. During concert time there's quite a bit of down time and men like to take in the atmosphere and if that atmosphere includes beautiful looking pretty women then all the better before and after showtime.
BTW this is the question you asked and a legitimate answer was given as to why a woman may want to carry a purse to a concert. So it is what it is.
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*The scientists of today think deeply instead of clearly. One must be sane to think clearly, but one can think deeply and be quite INSANE*....Nikola Tesla(a man who shaped our world of electricity with his futuristic inventions)
GA=Free for All. I expect tall people to stand in front of me, most of the time guys will ask if I can still see, I have even had guys my height (5'2") ask and make sure I can see if they happen to stand in front of me.
If I want to get up front, I will slip around others and find an open spot to stand. I don't mind being closer to people if my goal is to get as close to the stage as possible. If a big dude tries to push me out of the way, I give him a dirty look and stand my ground, believe me, he usually finds a different way to go.
I really only have one request at concerts...please don't grab any of my lady parts...it's really not necessary to do a 'walk by and grab'. I will figure out who you are, I will point you out...very loudly, and I usually go to concerts with some big guys who aren't afraid to fight.
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The other which winds me up he most is people talking the whole time.
i've gone on tons of dates cause i pick up girls at concerts. if a cute girl is next to me i'll strike up a convo but not like i seek them out.
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Yes this is a big one. Men at shows (and girls too I suppose), especially GA shows, should keep their hands to themselves or on the person they came with. I'm not with you so please no grabbing.
Here's my take on the tall ones. I don't care where they decide to stand but I it makes a huge difference if they will stand still. I't short but if I am standing behind someone that's tall I can usually find a hole to see through. If they start dancing around like crazy, I end up moving around like crazy looking for my little hole again. I'm not saying you have to be a statue and I'm not saying you should give up your spot for me, just have a little courtesy of us short folks.
B/c of many of the things said in this thread, I have decided for the most part my place at a show is in the back. The sound is better most of the time, I can see and I don't have to worry about people holding up their arms the whole time to get pics....those people are in the front
People taping songs on their phones during the show is annoying when they're RIGHT in your line of sight. Like I don't want to watch the stage through your viewfinder!
At the first PJ Seattle show last year, my friend and I are on the aisle. This chick comes down during Daughter wanting to tape it, and is asking everyone around (including me) not to sing along cuz she's trying to tape it. We were all like WTF?
And Daughter? Really? It ain't like it's some rare shit lol how about just being in the moment?
Another peeve is people talking during a show. I went to see Bob Schneider at the Independent in SF on Saturday, and it's a pretty small joint. The opening band was playing and there were these 5 girls chattering away HELLA loud next to the stage. It's not like a huge arena where they're in the back where nobody could see them. Just is disrespectful.
Picking up women at concerts is not the interest for me but like you I appreciate a lady who is styling or is wearing a vintage tour t-shirt. I like to see that or some sexy outfit what man doesn't, this of course won't happen during the show but before and after yes.
Oh one of my fav siting was at an ACDC concert this woman had a pink and black ACDC cheerleading outfit with pom poms, it was hot.
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But it's not their fault they were born tall, just like it's not her fault she was born short. A tall guy could say the same thing to you: "hey buddy, short people sit in the stands, don't you know GA etiquette?".
People texting with their super-bright screens shining in my face piss me off. Why the FUCK are you texting during the show?
Girls carry purses. They need lots of shit to try to look good for us/themselves. Isn't it nice to feel confident about yourself out in public? You don't wear sweats and a pizza-stained wife beater to a show, do you?
I can hear it now; someone in another band's thread, asking this of their forum members: "don't you fucking hate when you're at a PJ show and everyone and their dog is holding a fucking poster and they act like it's their newborn child? sorry if I bumped the 4 foot pole jutting out of your arms! I mean, get it off tenclub after the show!".
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Uh, maybe she was trying to get "down in yer hole"... :oops:
This comes up on this board every couple months...
If you know full well that people are going to push past you to the front, yet you spend an entire bloody day, thru 10 shitty opening bands, hoping your bladder doesn't fail, while clutching a railing in hopes that 20,000 people will leave you be when the headliner takes the stage....who is the dummy in this scenario?
If it's a fuckin Simon n Garfunkel show, ok, I see your point...but if it's a rock concert where you expect a mosh pit? Come ON. I'll spend the afternoon in the beer garden, the parking lot, home, watching from the back to conserve energy for the headliner, wherever I choose to be...and I will feel no guilt going to the front (3 or 4 songs in, after the initial push dies down). If you stand like 50 feet back from the stage (behind the inevitable slam-dance/open area), you will still have a great view and not have to deal with the pushing and shoving.
The rest of the complaints don't bother me. I do get a bit annoyed by people talking, but whatever. Take all the pics you want, bring your purses, wear your band shirts, smoke whateverthefuck you wanna smoke, get drunk, rock out, dance, get the odd splash of your drink on me, I DON'T CARE...when I'm at a show, I'm in good-time mode...if you're not being totally obnoxious and blatantly disrespectful about any of the above, I can deal with it. It takes a lot of BS to ruin my fun at a concert.
I totally agree with this concerts, rock concerts are about having fun and about enjoying your favorite band. Sometimes the unusual makes some concerts big fun. I can remember back when Metallica played Merriweather Post Pavillion the day after they played the second Woodstock Concert. It poured that day and my friend and I were trying to stand on the lawn. I couldn't so I went back to my truck and wore my softball cleats so I could stand and see the show. Well peeps decided to have these long mudslides down the hill and played in the mud. To me it was one of the koolest spontaneous things I've ever seen at a show.
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.....song_Music & Politics....Michael Franti
*The scientists of today think deeply instead of clearly. One must be sane to think clearly, but one can think deeply and be quite INSANE*....Nikola Tesla(a man who shaped our world of electricity with his futuristic inventions)
I am 6'1"... but lanky. If I want to see a band bad enough, I will invest a couple of hours of my time to get to the rail. And yeah, I will yield the rail to a gal (typically a friend) and stand behind her. I stand upright to let everyone know... i am 6'1" as the floor begins to fill. If you are 5'3" and decide to stand right behind me, you must be made aware... I am not shrinking to 5'2" when the headlining band hits the stage. Maybe, you should scope out the floor and stand behind that group of girls who are 5'2".
I don't mind being in a crush... I do not possess, 'my space', other than the area on this side of my skin. If you get crushed up against me.. no big deal.
People who come late... drink at the bar during the opening act and try to push their way to the front for the main show... nope. That doesn't fly right with me. I feel it all comes down to whether you are a considerate person... or a selfish person. A considerate person would not place their self interests before those who spent the hours outside and the time spent standing in the one place they are right now. Especially, loathesome... fucking guys that push their way to towards the front and stop in front of girls. What kind of pussy does that? I will, and have said things... mostly directing them that they are free to pass on through, but they cant's stay here. Find some dude to stand in front of... quit being a douchey McDouchebag, you pussy. You can push your way to the front... just not in front of me.
As for girls who pull the chick thing to get to the front... more power to ya. I have often yielded my place with gals much shorter than me... moving back the depth of one person is no big deal, as long as i can see over your head. But, please, do not try to take advantage of me and pull in your 5 girlfriend or your lame ass boyfriend and his buddy. Besides, he is your boyfriend, he should be looking out for you... i shouldn't. If you are a rude drunk chick and decide that you expect to shove others away and stand in front of me, please, be forewarned, that by doing so, you are granting me permission to grab you ass, right? if you aren't okat with that... please, move along and find someone else's shoes to puke on.
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im a woman and i dont understand. for me if it doesnt fit in my pockets it doesnt get taken and that includes at certain times of the month. licence, ticket, atm card, tampon or 2, camera, money, tictacs, maybe lipgloss. what else could you possibly need?
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I'm 5'3", which is not my fault. But, it's not my fault that you're 6-foot either. Everyone just be respectful, that's all I ask. I've been behind courteous people who ask if I'm able to see, and I've been behind complete douchebags with no respect for who is around them (particularly little me behind them!) Pushing is my biggest pet peeve! If there's clear room, that's one thing. People being idiots about personal space and just ramming through a crowd for their own gain is one of the single most annoying things at a concert! Again, just have some respect!
I never go all-out on concerts. And when I see a fellow female dressed really nicely, I always sort of laugh. I try and look decent for a show, but also keep in mind that I'm probably gonna end up being sweaty and gross afterwords. Typical concert attire for me is usually a semi-nice top or a band t-shirt depending, leggings, and Converse if I know I'll be moving around a lot. Always gotta be comfortable, that's my number one! I'm here to see a band, not to get a guy's number!
Taping every single song is freaking annoying- soak in the concert, people! Would be lying if I said I havent taped a song before, but I usually tape a snippet or two of a few songs, just for memory's sake. But then again, you are always grateful when you see a good YouTube video that brings you back.
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Well very good for you, however not all women wear clothes that have pockets so they carry a purse. Like you my other half usually doesn't carry a purse except for that time of the month based on what she may have chosen to wear. Like you she doesn't carry money, atm card, candy, lipbalm, license, etc i usually carry her license if she wants to buy a beer or wine. I'll carry anything for her except tampons (but if she asks me to it's not a problem), she's very independent and likes to have her hands free for other pleasurable things.
What do some of you ladies have to say about carrying a purse to a show?
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*The scientists of today think deeply instead of clearly. One must be sane to think clearly, but one can think deeply and be quite INSANE*....Nikola Tesla(a man who shaped our world of electricity with his futuristic inventions)
i DO carry those things.
for me its partly a safety issue. i travel on public transport and i do it a lot late at night so my thinking is no bag lowers my chances of being a target for theft.
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I'm with you here. I like to dress on the down low and keeping it very simple. My fiance likes to look nice, anytime she goes out especially when it's time to go clubbing. However, for rock concerts I'll wear t-shirts with holes in them whatever I want to be comfortable. I gather after 4 children and wearing monkey suits to work she wants to look good for these events all the time. Especially the hair, she spends an hour or more working on her red hair as I wait and wait and wait.
I do get a big chuckle out of women who attend a rock concert in high stiletto heels, what to turn an ankle?
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.....song_Music & Politics....Michael Franti
*The scientists of today think deeply instead of clearly. One must be sane to think clearly, but one can think deeply and be quite INSANE*....Nikola Tesla(a man who shaped our world of electricity with his futuristic inventions)
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