What gets you through hard times?

mtade17

Sawyer, I know how you feel and what you're going through. 2010 has been a really hard year for me as well. It's not easy dealing with all of that at one time. Overwhelming seems to be an understatement. I had to rely on my friends a good bit and luckily they were there for me, even when they were tired of hearing about everything that was going on. Music has become a bigger part of my life, even though some music would remind me of the past. I never let myself stay at home for too long. I found that when I sat at home, I would begin to pity myself and it would be hard to pull myself out of that little state of depression. I still hve a hard time dealing with everything that has gone on in the past year. I'm ready for a new beginning. 2011 has got to be better.

OceanInDisguise13

gimmesometruth27 .. wow.. you are awesome. Keep the faith and stay hopeful and determined.

Sawyer.. During difficult times I personally throw myself one million percent into what I love..hobbies, work, anything..I think of much more difficult times that I made it through and realize that this too shall pass and I will be over it and happy again. Stay strong. DO NOT GIVE UP. It's like a wave, it will reach its peak and then it will break, and everything will be well again.

Take care and good luck to one and all.

gimmesometruth27

lina319 wrote:

gimmesometruth27 .. wow.. you are awesome. Keep the faith and stay hopeful and determined.

Sawyer.. During difficult times I personally throw myself one million percent into what I love..hobbies, work, anything..I think of much more difficult times that I made it through and realize that this too shall pass and I will be over it and happy again. Stay strong. DO NOT GIVE UP. It's like a wave, it will reach its peak and then it will break, and everything will be well again.

Take care and good luck to one and all.

thank you, but i am not awesome. i'm just a normal guy going through some stuff and gaining new perspectives on things. i shared it here because i thought it might help people get through hard times. even though it is much easier, and in some cases more familiar and comforting to feel all hurt and defeated, it is no way to live. it is good that people have passions that they can lose themselves in. but i was so bad that i did not even find joy in playing guitar. it felt more like work to pick one up, make sure it is in tune, turn on the amp and let it rip. that is when i knew i had somethng seriously wrong, because that had always been what i lived for. at the show last night it was the first time i have felt alive in months....

OceanInDisguise13

gimmesometruth27 wrote:

lina319 wrote:

gimmesometruth27 .. wow.. you are awesome. Keep the faith and stay hopeful and determined.

Sawyer.. During difficult times I personally throw myself one million percent into what I love..hobbies, work, anything..I think of much more difficult times that I made it through and realize that this too shall pass and I will be over it and happy again. Stay strong. DO NOT GIVE UP. It's like a wave, it will reach its peak and then it will break, and everything will be well again.

Take care and good luck to one and all.

thank you, but i am not awesome. i'm just a normal guy going through some stuff and gaining new perspectives on things. i shared it here because i thought it might help people get through hard times. even though it is much easier, and in some cases more familiar and comforting to feel all hurt and defeated, it is no way to live. it is good that people have passions that they can lose themselves in. but i was so bad that i did not even find joy in playing guitar. it felt more like work to pick one up, make sure it is in tune, turn on the amp and let it rip. that is when i knew i had somethng seriously wrong, because that had always been what i lived for. at the show last night it was the first time i have felt alive in months....

I don't want to derail the thread...But I do have to say that sometimes it's easier for a person to hear other's stories/troubles. It makes theirs seem so small. I completely understand how you feel about what brought you joy seeming like just another thing, a chore that you have to do and move on....I am so glad that you're starting to feel better. I hope that Sawyer will soon as well....Its hard to be so far down at the bottom and not feel like there's any way to get out...Thank you for sharing your story, gimmesometruth27.

gimmesometruth27

lina319 wrote:

I don't want to derail the thread...But I do have to say that sometimes it's easier for a person to hear other's stories/troubles. It makes theirs seem so small. I completely understand how you feel about what brought you joy seeming like just another thing, a chore that you have to do and move on....I am so glad that you're starting to feel better. I hope that Sawyer will soon as well....Its hard to be so far down at the bottom and not feel like there's any way to get out...Thank you for sharing your story, gimmesometruth27.

one thing i am learning as i talk to more people is that it could always be worse. someone always has bigger problems than i do, but my problems are just that, MY problems and they are having a negative effect on my life, which in turn affects those around me and those that care about me, ya know? i learned to be thankful that the situation is only what it is and not worse. also, it helps to remember you are not the only one going through tough times and that you should pick the brains of people that you know that have been through some tough times and ask them how they dealt with it and how they got through it. that has helped me tremendously. there is no magic formula that works for everyone because everyone and every situation is different. we are complex beings and there is no easy answer for how to fix things. counseling and meds don't work for everyone.

Thoughts_Arrive

Alcohol, Music, Guitar.

Flagg

gimmesometruth27 wrote:

lina319 wrote:

I don't want to derail the thread...But I do have to say that sometimes it's easier for a person to hear other's stories/troubles. It makes theirs seem so small. I completely understand how you feel about what brought you joy seeming like just another thing, a chore that you have to do and move on....I am so glad that you're starting to feel better. I hope that Sawyer will soon as well....Its hard to be so far down at the bottom and not feel like there's any way to get out...Thank you for sharing your story, gimmesometruth27.

one thing i am learning as i talk to more people is that it could always be worse. someone always has bigger problems than i do, but my problems are just that, MY problems and they are having a negative effect on my life, which in turn affects those around me and those that care about me, ya know? i learned to be thankful that the situation is only what it is and not worse. also, it helps to remember you are not the only one going through tough times and that you should pick the brains of people that you know that have been through some tough times and ask them how they dealt with it and how they got through it. that has helped me tremendously. there is no magic formula that works for everyone because everyone and every situation is different. we are complex beings and there is no easy answer for how to fix things. counseling and meds don't work for everyone.

This is true. In a way, reading or hearing other people's stories makes you seem more "normal" than you thought you were, if that makes any sense. At least it does to me anyway.

Who Princess

Flagg wrote:

gimmesometruth27 wrote:

lina319 wrote:

I don't want to derail the thread...But I do have to say that sometimes it's easier for a person to hear other's stories/troubles. It makes theirs seem so small. I completely understand how you feel about what brought you joy seeming like just another thing, a chore that you have to do and move on....I am so glad that you're starting to feel better. I hope that Sawyer will soon as well....Its hard to be so far down at the bottom and not feel like there's any way to get out...Thank you for sharing your story, gimmesometruth27.

one thing i am learning as i talk to more people is that it could always be worse. someone always has bigger problems than i do, but my problems are just that, MY problems and they are having a negative effect on my life, which in turn affects those around me and those that care about me, ya know? i learned to be thankful that the situation is only what it is and not worse. also, it helps to remember you are not the only one going through tough times and that you should pick the brains of people that you know that have been through some tough times and ask them how they dealt with it and how they got through it. that has helped me tremendously. there is no magic formula that works for everyone because everyone and every situation is different. we are complex beings and there is no easy answer for how to fix things. counseling and meds don't work for everyone.

This is true. In a way, reading or hearing other people's stories makes you seem more "normal" than you thought you were, if that makes any sense. At least it does to me anyway.

I think it's part of realizing that you're not alone and it's reassuring to realize that.

BinauralJam

Alcohol, Drugs and Music, so you can think clearly again, then you gotta get back to your roots, who are you, what were you doing before the women, those kinds of things, long walks in the woods, get away from people at all cost.

Ms. Haiku

biscotti and coffee
Christopher Moore books
Hanging out with my twin, who's year has been even shittier than mine. We can help each other out, but we can also spew negativity.

Unfortunately, those things put a band aid on the moment, and the sadness/anxiety may be there underneath anyway. It's been a hard year. If misery loves company, misery has been throwing week long parties, eh?

I think of those worse of than me, and I don't feel bad for a while . . . until I do. I have to say reading up on the Chilean Miners rescue always puts hope in me. C'mon guys, you can do it!

I've thought recently that I am "VERY SAD!" Sometimes I feel like I have to claw air just to walk around my apartment. Knitting helps. The movement of my hands seems to cure some pains. I tried therapy last year, because 2009 sucked as well, and it took over 1.5 hours to get there. So, couldn't go back.

What will clear this up, and no doubt will do the trick, is if I get a new job. The job situation I'm in currently is just full of bad energy. I'm the closest I've been since looking, so wish me luck! I wish you luck in your endeavors as well.

gimmesometruth27

whoprincess wrote:

I think it's part of realizing that you're not alone and it's reassuring to realize that.

exactly. that is the problem with depression, it makes you want to be alone and shut off from your close friends and loved ones. it makes you withdraw and feel alone because you are. half of the time your friends don't know how to help or they don't want to hear about your shit, so you stay away and bottle it all up inside to keep from bringing them down with you. and bottling it up is self-defeating. trust me i know.
it is extremely comforting to know that others have been or are exactly where you are so that is where talking to someone, anyone, makes you feel less alone. remember that you are not alone, and if you are alone it is probably because you are withdrawing instead of people running away from you. it is easy to feel worthless because that is what depression does.

talking to people does 2 things.

1. it encourages you to come out of that shell and be social. even if that person does not offer you advice, or say anything at all. the simple act of them just shutting up and listening and giving you a hug and maybe even crying with you or letting you cry on them is amazingly beneficial.

2. it helps you to realize that you are NORMAL. everyone in this world has gone through hell at some point and most of us survive it somehow. knowing how people got through, even if it is different than what you would have done, is beneficial. depression makes you feel like you are abnormal, even fucked up, but you must realize that it is normal to get down when things are not as you would like.

just talk to people. you will learn a lot about yourself by sharing stories with others.

eeriepadave

usually music gets me through hard times. also talking to friends and my cats (well not talking to my cats just them being there )

eyedclaar

Total immersion in the natural world... that, and killing sprees. Nothing like a good ol' killin' spree.

chadwick

eyedclaar wrote:

Total immersion in the natural world... that, and killing sprees. Nothing like a good ol' killin' spree.

eyed with his killing sprees and a video camera.
he is quite the filmmaker.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ShLmq9a-rG0

Green Circle

swimming underwater and prayer.

mikalina

I have to admit - exercise - helps me quite a bit.... it's my religion...

81

did you get those smokes i sent?

eyedclaar

mikalina wrote:

I have to admit - exercise - helps me quite a bit.... it's my religion...

Ahhh, so you wanna wrestle, eh?

RYEzupSF

Exercise, alcohol, weed, sex, loud music, live music, friends, the ocean, road trips. The order depends on my headspace.

pandora

these guys