Destination Weddings
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Is having a destination wedding a rude gesture in a way to your friends considering it costs so much to get there , and we cant cover those costs for them ? opinions please would be appreciated ...thanks
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As long as you give your loved ones plenty of notice (like a year) then it could be a really awesome way to spend a few days with those that are the closests to you. My step brother and his wife recently went to a wedding in Rarotonga and had an awesome time.
You could have a reception at home later. Friends of ours did that, and like a month after the wedding, they had a big lookout at a park pavilion as an informal reception. They played the wedding video, had picture slide shows running, and had the pavilion decorated in a Caribbean theme.
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“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
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I would take into consideration cost before you plan though and maybe say no gifts if they are spending.
Who needs all the gifts anyways, overrated, the memories are the true gifts.
I dont think its rude at all. It's your wedding...it should be where you want it to be. A good friend of mine just got married in Mexico in May. I went and it was a blast. They had another reception back at home too for the people who couldn't make it to Mexico.
ok maybe thats harsh... but it does put people in an awkward situation... some may still feel obligated to buy a gift... and thats just not fair... its like testing the limits of what people are willing to do for "your day"
theres no reason you can't get married close to home and save the traveling for the honeymoon... its not like newlyweds really want to spend time with anyone other than each other at that time anyway... so its basically a mandatory vacation for close family of the bride and groom... just so they can experience the same thing they would at home
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i wouldn't attend anyone's fucking wedding if it meant i had to travel a great distance.
weddings are a pain in the ass anyway.
i would have no problems not going to a wedding like this.
good for the couple getting married, that's great.
it isn't great for me.
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I guess it all depends on your friends. If you are best friends with a few couples who want to go on a nice vacation anyway, then going together for your wedding might be a fun idea. But if your best friends (who you would want in your wedding) are people who probably can't afford it or whatever, then it's not fair to expect them to go. I guess just have an upfront honest discussion about it, to see what they think.
was like a picture
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I think getting married is dumb as shit, but if I ever did...it would be a destination wedding. Me and her and only invite our very closest friends and family.
That's the way it SHOULD be if you ask me!
I'm always amazed at people who have weddings and invite like 500 people. Either they are cool as shit, or they just want a lot of wedding presents/gifts.
I don't think its rude. It might give some people an excuse to visit that place--for the ones who can afford it or need a vacation.
Where is the wedding?
Also I might that if you are like in your early-mid 30s and all your friends are going to weddings like every two weeks, then it is a bit more rude. People might be able to swing one wedding but don't forget that that your friends also have about 12 others to go to too. I think people REALLY forget this!
I completely disagree. Bachelor party weekends are the best. Those are some of the best times I've ever had with my friends. A couple in Vegas, a couple golf weekends...great timejs. Whenever I do get married, my bachelor party will absolutely be in Vegas.
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i have travelled for tons of weddings (all in the U.S.). the worst, though, is when the bride picks $200+ dresses for their bridesmaids. THAT is super rude. especially when some of your bridesmaid dresses are travelling from out of town. this has happened to me so many times, so that is a good thing to keep in mind :P
just having my wife be in a couple of weddings, the whole expense thing irritates me... They gotta buy a dress (plus get it tailored and stuff), help put together a shower (including buying a gift), bachelorette party, hotel at wedding (for two nights because of the rehersal the night before), and a wedding gift... it's like $1000 for the whole process. It's almost like it's a test to see how good of a friend you are.
We are both glad that outside of her sister (who isn't getting married any time soon), she won't have any more weddings to be in.
was like a picture
of a sunny day
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
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I think I've mentioned this on a similar thread but I wanted a destination wedding but the usual "so and so won't like it" blah, blah, blah. We had the wedding in England and the person my wife was worried about offending couldn't come. :roll:
I think if you have a destination where guests HAVE to fly, get a passport, etc., then it's probably a little too much.
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Just don't be disappointed when some people(there will be some) can't make it because of genuine financial concerns.
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This is right on. I think guys have a different situation. For girls you really are supposed to drop everything, including money, for a close friend's wedding. For someone who doesn't plan on getting married, at least not anytime in the foreseeable future, it gets a little irritating because you know your friends would not do the same for you for something else that's important to you. I average about $500/wedding, depending on travel, whether I'm a bridesmaid, etc. The best you can hope for is a local wedding you're not in and aren't invited to the bachelorette party...best to be friends with the groom cuz then you don't have the shower (pure evil, btw). This is rarely the case!
yeah but it's also kind of like you're determining where these other people have to take their vacations (unless they're enormously wealthy and can afford to take more than one trip in a year or whatever). I mean, if you're planning on going to or really want to go to Jamaica or whatever, and you can kill two birds with one stone that's great, but I've got one this fall that's not anywhere I'd really want to go, and I can't afford to go on a trip for myself, so it gets disheartening to keep paying for these 1 or 2-night trips that other people decide on for me (but I do want to go because I want to see everyone, etc). Even if it's in a good place, I can never afford to stay for more than the actual wedding, so I fly out the next day. It gets to be a lot of expense for not much benefit to the person spending it. I mean it's not that weddings aren't enjoyable, but I can see people recite vows and dance to Billie Jean in town.
I'm getting married in April and there will be a lot of people travelling to it... if they can't come I will completely understand... I'm not expecting or demanding anything from anyone. I hope they come but if they can't, I'd rather they simply call me and explain... then go and then bitch about it for years to come :roll: .
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I think it would only be a rude gesture if you required them to be there. My suggestion would be to just do the wedding with the bride and groom. When you get back you can have a reception to celebrate with friends and family. IMO, if I had mine to do over again, it would be a destination. It would have been so much more perfect just me and my hubby.
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