Tipping Friends...

mookeywrench
mookeywrench Posts: 6,081
edited July 2010 in All Encompassing Trip
So say your friend is a waiter, bartender, hair stylist...whatever

you go to them for their service, then comes the bill.

You want to give a big tip because they're your friend.

But then you start to second guess yourself because you don't want them to think of it as a charity case. The act could come across as though you think you're better than them, such as saying, 'look how well off I am and how much you need this money.'

Then you start to think what if they think any tip is a charity case and should I be tipping them at all?

what do you do?
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  • small town beck
    small town beck Posts: 6,691
    Do think of tipping other servers as charity?? I used to be a server and if I had a friend serve me I would probably leave the standard and maybe a bit extra. Nothing over the top but a nice tip. :)

    Though I did have a friend of a friend who left a salon to have her own hair business in her own home...I feel like I left her a bit less of a tip.
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    friends get an extra big tip
  • PJPixie
    PJPixie Posts: 3,026
    lol..........i thought this thread was going to be like COW TIPPING.
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  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    PJPixie wrote:
    lol..........i thought this thread was going to be like COW TIPPING.

    you push your friends over while they are sleeping standing up? :P :lol:
  • chadwick
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    i'd leave a tip and tell 'em to stop by for a green smoking session.
    no big deal.
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  • small town beck
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    PJPixie wrote:
    lol..........i thought this thread was going to be like COW TIPPING.

    :lol:

    Thanks for that :D

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  • prism
    prism Posts: 2,440
    in the benefit of friendship you really should slip 'em more than just the tip ;)
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  • dcfaithful
    dcfaithful Posts: 13,076
    I think a nice tip is jsut fine - nothing over the top, but just because they're your friend doesn't mean you can get away with not tipping either.
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  • mookeywrench
    mookeywrench Posts: 6,081
    alright, time to change the dynamic....

    suppose they comp a drink or food dish for you. Do you add the cost of what was comped to the tip?
  • dcfaithful
    dcfaithful Posts: 13,076
    mookeywrench wrote:
    alright, time to change the dynamic....

    suppose they comp a drink or food dish for you. Do you add the cost of what was comped to the tip?

    I'm assuming comp is sneak?

    and I say no - they took the risk of doing so, and I'm assuming no friend would force their friend to give them free refreshments that may jeopardize their job.
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  • juan lester
    juan lester Posts: 321
    always tip high, huge for friends if you can afford it. enormous tips are never seen as charity.
    shitty service is a completely different story.
    and please don't cow tip. wtf did they ever do to you, except supply delicious burger?
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  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    mookeywrench wrote:
    alright, time to change the dynamic....

    suppose they comp a drink or food dish for you. Do you add the cost of what was comped to the tip?


    just tip what you would if you didn't know them...if they expect more from you because you're friends, well, that doesn't sound very friendly
  • gunda
    gunda Posts: 97
    depends on the quality of their service you would tip accordingly and if they were to comp you, return the favor and tip extra
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  • dimitrispearljam
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    pandora wrote:
    friends get an extra big tip
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    pandora wrote:
    friends get an extra big tip

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  • Digital Twilight
    Digital Twilight Posts: 5,642
    In this country we only tip the tax man.


    And we tip generously :?
  • joejoe988
    joejoe988 Posts: 62
    This should help

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIbasjfpzH4
  • Kilgore_Trout
    Kilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    mookeywrench wrote:
    alright, time to change the dynamic....

    suppose they comp a drink or food dish for you. Do you add the cost of what was comped to the tip?
    as a general rule i would say yes

    when i was a server it would always bug me when people didnt repay my "generosity" with a better tip... sure the logic is faulty cause i am technically stealing from the company then expecting to make more $ from it... BUT most servers are overworked and treated like shit... so it works out :)
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  • Nothingman54
    Nothingman54 Posts: 2,251
    Wife and I went out to eat at nice place for valentines day 5 years ago and my waiter was a guy I knew when I was younger, he was always mean to me so when I knew we was our waiter I was like oh shit this is weird but after 3 strong drinks I didn't care. I wrote a note on the back of the ticket that said thanks for the great night and I tipped him 65.00
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  • mca47
    mca47 Posts: 13,337
    Big tip unless your friend sucks at his/her job! :D

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