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Tipping Friends...

mookeywrenchmookeywrench Posts: 5,870
edited July 2010 in All Encompassing Trip
So say your friend is a waiter, bartender, hair stylist...whatever

you go to them for their service, then comes the bill.

You want to give a big tip because they're your friend.

But then you start to second guess yourself because you don't want them to think of it as a charity case. The act could come across as though you think you're better than them, such as saying, 'look how well off I am and how much you need this money.'

Then you start to think what if they think any tip is a charity case and should I be tipping them at all?

what do you do?
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  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    Do think of tipping other servers as charity?? I used to be a server and if I had a friend serve me I would probably leave the standard and maybe a bit extra. Nothing over the top but a nice tip. :)

    Though I did have a friend of a friend who left a salon to have her own hair business in her own home...I feel like I left her a bit less of a tip.
  • pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    friends get an extra big tip
  • PJPixiePJPixie Posts: 3,026
    lol..........i thought this thread was going to be like COW TIPPING.
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    PJPixie wrote:
    lol..........i thought this thread was going to be like COW TIPPING.

    you push your friends over while they are sleeping standing up? :P :lol:
  • chadwickchadwick Posts: 21,157
    i'd leave a tip and tell 'em to stop by for a green smoking session.
    no big deal.
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  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    PJPixie wrote:
    lol..........i thought this thread was going to be like COW TIPPING.

    :lol:

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  • prismprism Posts: 2,440
    in the benefit of friendship you really should slip 'em more than just the tip ;)
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  • dcfaithfuldcfaithful Posts: 13,076
    I think a nice tip is jsut fine - nothing over the top, but just because they're your friend doesn't mean you can get away with not tipping either.
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  • mookeywrenchmookeywrench Posts: 5,870
    alright, time to change the dynamic....

    suppose they comp a drink or food dish for you. Do you add the cost of what was comped to the tip?
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  • dcfaithfuldcfaithful Posts: 13,076
    mookeywrench wrote:
    alright, time to change the dynamic....

    suppose they comp a drink or food dish for you. Do you add the cost of what was comped to the tip?

    I'm assuming comp is sneak?

    and I say no - they took the risk of doing so, and I'm assuming no friend would force their friend to give them free refreshments that may jeopardize their job.
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  • juan lesterjuan lester Posts: 321
    always tip high, huge for friends if you can afford it. enormous tips are never seen as charity.
    shitty service is a completely different story.
    and please don't cow tip. wtf did they ever do to you, except supply delicious burger?
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    mookeywrench wrote:
    alright, time to change the dynamic....

    suppose they comp a drink or food dish for you. Do you add the cost of what was comped to the tip?


    just tip what you would if you didn't know them...if they expect more from you because you're friends, well, that doesn't sound very friendly
  • gundagunda Posts: 97
    depends on the quality of their service you would tip accordingly and if they were to comp you, return the favor and tip extra
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    pandora wrote:
    friends get an extra big tip
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    pandora wrote:
    friends get an extra big tip

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  • Digital TwilightDigital Twilight Posts: 5,642
    In this country we only tip the tax man.


    And we tip generously :?
  • joejoe988joejoe988 Posts: 62
    This should help

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIbasjfpzH4
  • Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    mookeywrench wrote:
    alright, time to change the dynamic....

    suppose they comp a drink or food dish for you. Do you add the cost of what was comped to the tip?
    as a general rule i would say yes

    when i was a server it would always bug me when people didnt repay my "generosity" with a better tip... sure the logic is faulty cause i am technically stealing from the company then expecting to make more $ from it... BUT most servers are overworked and treated like shit... so it works out :)
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  • Nothingman54Nothingman54 Posts: 2,251
    Wife and I went out to eat at nice place for valentines day 5 years ago and my waiter was a guy I knew when I was younger, he was always mean to me so when I knew we was our waiter I was like oh shit this is weird but after 3 strong drinks I didn't care. I wrote a note on the back of the ticket that said thanks for the great night and I tipped him 65.00
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  • mca47mca47 Posts: 13,282
    Big tip unless your friend sucks at his/her job! :D
  • 8181 Posts: 58,276
    there isn't a function for that on my tip calculator. sorry.
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    81 wrote:
    there isn't a function for that on my tip calculator. sorry.


    it's a wizard
  • 8181 Posts: 58,276
    norm wrote:
    81 wrote:
    there isn't a function for that on my tip calculator. sorry.


    it's a wizard


    i bought it for $50 off some guy on teh street. it might be hot.
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,331
    Or just move to Australia where you don't have to tip :)
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  • mickeyratmickeyrat Posts: 38,031
    mookeywrench wrote:
    So say your friend is a waiter, bartender, hair stylist...whatever

    you go to them for their service, then comes the bill.

    You want to give a big tip because they're your friend.

    But then you start to second guess yourself because you don't want them to think of it as a charity case. The act could come across as though you think you're better than them, such as saying, 'look how well off I am and how much you need this money.'

    Then you start to think what if they think any tip is a charity case and should I be tipping them at all?

    what do you do?
    well I'm no Dunkman, but I'd pay what I owed say thanks and walkout. They would know I 'm a cheapskate!!1
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  • 8181 Posts: 58,276
    mickeyrat wrote:
    well I'm no Dunkman, but I'd pay what I owed say thanks and walkout. They would know I 'm a cheapskate!!1


    good point. set the precedent early so that they don't expect you to over tip in teh future or buy roudns of shots when you go out. fuckin brilliant :lol:
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  • chadwickchadwick Posts: 21,157
    Nothingman54 wrote:
    Wife and I went out to eat at nice place for valentines day 5 years ago and my waiter was a guy I knew when I was younger, he was always mean to me so when I knew we was our waiter I was like oh shit this is weird but after 3 strong drinks I didn't care. I wrote a note on the back of the ticket that said thanks for the great night and I tipped him 65.00
    a bit of reverse psychology of sorts.
    well played.
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  • _Crazy_Mary__Crazy_Mary_ Posts: 1,299
    20% plus. If the bill is $115, tip $25. Be generous, it doesn't come across as charity.
    I really screwed that up. I really Schruted it.
  • 8181 Posts: 58,276
    _Crazy_Mary_ wrote:
    20% plus. If the bill is $115, tip $25. Be generous, it doesn't come across as charity.


    momma always told me, never take advice from a crazy lady named mary.

    :mrgreen:





    just kidding.
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  • _Crazy_Mary__Crazy_Mary_ Posts: 1,299
    I made $94 on one table last weekend & none of them were my friends...
    I really screwed that up. I really Schruted it.
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