I don't understand boys....

washedinblack91

at all. i can't believe i told one i liked him more than a friend. i feel like such a moron. he told me "lol i thought so but i thought i was clear that i was seeing someone". the only thing he mentioned about another girl was that he had a date and that he broke up with a girlfriend. he told me that when he was taking me home after the newark show which i invited him to. how does "i had a date" and "i had a girlfriend and i broke it off" = "seeing someone"? and if he DID have a girlfriend, why go with me to the newark show without at least telling me about her? and that "lol".... what the hell is there to "lol" about?! he never says "lol"! GOD what a horrible day! i can't believe i wasted my extra lottery front row seat with him! (he never did pay me back for that ticket and beer by the way...)

the crappy part is that i still like him. ughhhh........

markin ball

Girls pull this crap, too. Sorry, by the way. That sucks.

jimed14

You need to switch from boys to men ...

wait ...



I made a lol!

(sorry, I'm an idiot, blame it on me being a boy)

Maybe he didn't tell you it was more serious because he likes hanging out with you, but didn't want to rub in the fact he's seeing someone more seriously?

Maybe he just wanted you to take him to PJ and you never would have if you know he was involved with someone else?

Maybe, (going out on a limb here), maybe he's an immature cock knocker?

washedinblack91

i dunno, i mean whenever i would describe what he does to people i know they're always going ohhhhh he likes you! i mean i've had guys like hanging out with me but they had more of a "meh" attitude. i mean he would high five me just to hold my hand and the way he hugged me when he dropped me off, i was about to let go but he kept holding on. he would get excited to see me whenever i went to his store. he would compliment me, he would be nice to me and be a gentleman like offer me his jacket when i was cold and whatever. my guy friends wouldn't even think to do that, they'd just be like "oh you're cold? funny i'm not that cold." and go about their business.

he also called me (but i had no service so he left a message asking me to call back) but to me it's like, you were straightforward, what else is there for you to talk about to me? fine you have a girlfriend what more is there to say?

i dunno anymore. not that i knew much to begin with.

arq

I would've have told you anything that helped me to score front row!!!

And yes girls do that all the time too :crazy:

jimed14

I was best friends with a girl in which it was blatently obvious to everyone (and to me) that she liked me.

It took me a while, close to a year, before we started dating. We flirted a ton, everyone was always telling us what a great couple we'd make, etc etc etc ... I was hesitant because I really liked having a female friend that I wasn't dating. And honestly, I was looking for something more, she was kind of a pushover when it came to me and I dind't really like that. But eventually, we gave it a try.

We ended up dating for about two years, but, in the end, we were just meant to be best friends, and we are still that over a decade later.

UpSideDown

Don't feel bad becuz he was unclear with what he told you and the signals he was giving you.........

It is better to put yourself out there and go for it then to be left wondering what if...even if you feel embarassed for it...but this guy thus far kind of sounds like a doucher.

Gary Carter

weather its a man or boy they will always think with their cock and not with their brain or feelings

Sounds to me like he's being a typical 18-25 year old. Playing games and just wants to get laid.

washedinblack91

everyone thought it was obvious he liked me but i don't know anymore! i was always oblivious to when guys asked me out or showed signs of liking me unless they asked me out straight out or if someone told me that so and so liked me. so when people were saying "oh ari he totally likes you!" i thought well ok then cool! but now i don't know what to think anymore! i was always bad with judging whether a boy liked me and now it'll be even harder since i don't even have people to help me judge these things anymore! :crazy:

why can't it be 1950 where boys actually asked girls to be steadies? then again i like the internet... and i don't think i'd care for impending nuclear disaster.. ok never mind.

jimed14

Don't beat yourself up about this and please don't think you can understand guys ... that just ain't gonna happen.

Distance yourself from this guy for a bit ... it may not happen tomorrow, but, I'm sure you'll find someone that's on your wavelength.

thesewordselope

jimed14 wrote:

Don't beat yourself up about this and please don't think you can understand guys ... that just ain't gonna happen.

Distance yourself from this guy for a bit ... it may not happen tomorrow, but, I'm sure you'll find someone that's on your wavelength.

I would take a different approach since it seems like there may be a mutual circle of friends involved...

Since he is a friend already, I would talk to him about it...let him know your misunderstandings and see if he can explain his side.

Overall, it sounds like maturity is the issue. When a guy is interested in you, he usually makes every effort to make it known...

Regardless, don't stress it to much

megatron

both sexes suck
we only like the ones that don't show it back
i think seinfeld said it best..something like, "god doesn't really want anyone to get together"
for me i've had one miracle time in life where the feelings for each other was perfectly mutual..and even then we still broke up over bs.

keep pluggin. if he's smart he'll come around. or someone lucky enough will

everyone sucks!!

TravisTheSky

If you are young enough that your world consists of "boys" and "girls" instead of men and women...


Wait a few years! Learn some more life lessons, have some fun, grow a bit. Life gets MUCH easier as you age.

Gary Carter

jimed14 wrote:

Don't beat yourself up about this and please don't think you can understand guys ... that just ain't gonna happen.

so true


i'd go out with the op anytime

:P

catefrances

metsfan wrote:

jimed14 wrote:

Don't beat yourself up about this and please don't think you can understand guys ... that just ain't gonna happen.

so true


i'd go out with the op anytime

:P

thats cause youre a horndog mets. :P

Gary Carter

catefrances wrote:

metsfan wrote:

jimed14 wrote:

Don't beat yourself up about this and please don't think you can understand guys ... that just ain't gonna happen.

so true


i'd go out with the op anytime

:P

thats cause youre a horndog mets. :P

nah it's cause the OP is beautiful

:P

catefrances

metsfan wrote:

catefrances wrote:

metsfan wrote:

so true


i'd go out with the op anytime

:P

thats cause youre a horndog mets. :P

nah it's cause the OP is beautiful

:P

well thats doesnt hurt im sure. but...

pjfan31

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhRMeiyret0

haffajappa

jimed14 wrote:

You need to switch from boys to men ...

wait ...



I made a lol!
?

Ok that made me literally lol. Thanks, i needed that too

the wolf

we men type can be pricks from time to time.


Sorry this happened. we suck.

dimitrispearljam

the wolf wrote:

we men type can be pricks from time to time.


Sorry this happened. we suck.

i was waiting your post,in threads like this i like to read your posts..the last months u seem to learn alot..good work Steve..

chadwick

washedinblack91 wrote:

at all. i can't believe i told one i liked him more than a friend. i feel like such a moron. he told me "lol i thought so but i thought i was clear that i was seeing someone". the only thing he mentioned about another girl was that he had a date and that he broke up with a girlfriend. he told me that when he was taking me home after the newark show which i invited him to. how does "i had a date" and "i had a girlfriend and i broke it off" = "seeing someone"? and if he DID have a girlfriend, why go with me to the newark show without at least telling me about her? and that "lol".... what the hell is there to "lol" about?! he never says "lol"! GOD what a horrible day! i can't believe i wasted my extra lottery front row seat with him! (he never did pay me back for that ticket and beer by the way...)

the crappy part is that i still like him. ughhhh........

whilst reading your short story i became confused, lost, and agitated. i feel as if my uncle's cousin's brother's girl friend's mom's daughter just kicked me square in the balls.
all i can say is that you were supposed to smoke the greenery @ the show :crazy:

i_lov_it

I wouldn't mind Front Row!

pandora

washedinblack91 wrote:

at all. i can't believe i told one i liked him more than a friend. i feel like such a moron. he told me "lol i thought so but i thought i was clear that i was seeing someone". the only thing he mentioned about another girl was that he had a date and that he broke up with a girlfriend. he told me that when he was taking me home after the newark show which i invited him to. how does "i had a date" and "i had a girlfriend and i broke it off" = "seeing someone"? and if he DID have a girlfriend, why go with me to the newark show without at least telling me about her? and that "lol".... what the hell is there to "lol" about?! he never says "lol"! GOD what a horrible day! i can't believe i wasted my extra lottery front row seat with him! (he never did pay me back for that ticket and beer by the way...)

the crappy part is that i still like him. ughhhh........

Actually as you look back on this it will be a good thing you told him how you feel. This is, as a rule, a good way to live your life, honestly. In this case you found out where he's coming from. The biggest thing I see here is you were extremely nice to invite him to an awesome, one of kind, lifetime dream evening of seeing Pearl Jam as we all wish to and he hasn't even paid you yet for the ticket or beer?? He should have been treating you to the beers with the ticket money in your pocket! This a huge clue to the selfishness of the young man. Really not much to like here when there are boys/men out there that will put you first, treat you with love and respect and cherish their time with you. Not much to like at all. Save yourself much heartache in life and find the men with the beautiful hearts, ready to give you what you need.

CantKeepMeHere

Pandora has wisdom beyond all of our years

dimitrispearljam

pandora wrote:

washedinblack91 wrote:

at all. i can't believe i told one i liked him more than a friend. i feel like such a moron. he told me "lol i thought so but i thought i was clear that i was seeing someone". the only thing he mentioned about another girl was that he had a date and that he broke up with a girlfriend. he told me that when he was taking me home after the newark show which i invited him to. how does "i had a date" and "i had a girlfriend and i broke it off" = "seeing someone"? and if he DID have a girlfriend, why go with me to the newark show without at least telling me about her? and that "lol".... what the hell is there to "lol" about?! he never says "lol"! GOD what a horrible day! i can't believe i wasted my extra lottery front row seat with him! (he never did pay me back for that ticket and beer by the way...)

the crappy part is that i still like him. ughhhh........

Actually as you look back on this it will be a good thing you told him how you feel. This is, as a rule, a good way to live your life, honestly. In this case you found out where he's coming from. The biggest thing I see here is you were extremely nice to invite him to an awesome, one of kind, lifetime dream evening of seeing Pearl Jam as we all wish to and he hasn't even paid you yet for the ticket or beer?? He should have been treating you to the beers with the ticket money in your pocket! This a huge clue to the selfishness of the young man. Really not much to like here when there are boys/men out there that will put you first, treat you with love and respect and cherish their time with you. Not much to like at all. Save yourself much heartache in life and find the men with the beautiful hearts, ready to give you what you need.

u have youn answer.washedinblack9 ...Pandora knows...

washedinblack91

but i thought he was nice. he was the nicest guy i've known (what does that say about me? ) he was polite and said i was important to him and seemed genuinely upset that he didn't have money. my dad was there to see him talk to me way before i thought i liked him and he told me the way he was acting, genuinely excited to see me and calling me over every time i went into his store, he said boys don't normally act that way and that that meant he liked me. i even asked my cousin who's around the same age as him about him and he said the same thing. and everyone said that newark show was a date even though i didn't think so. everyone was saying that it was obvious to them that he liked me. so i went with it and it backfired. sigh. i think i'm more upset that i finally thought i found someone i liked who genuinely liked me back as a person and as more than a friend but i guess not.

and i'm not going to wait more years to get a boyfriend! i'm freaking going to be 22, i'm supposed* to be engaged in a few years i have to get cracking!



*note: as a sociology major i know it doesn't have to be this way but i don't care!

norm

washedinblack91 wrote:

but i thought he was nice. he was the nicest guy i've known (what does that say about me? ) he was polite and said i was important to him and seemed genuinely upset that he didn't have money. my dad was there to see him talk to me way before i thought i liked him and he told me the way he was acting, genuinely excited to see me and calling me over every time i went into his store, he said boys don't normally act that way and that that meant he liked me. i even asked my cousin who's around the same age as him about him and he said the same thing. and everyone said that newark show was a date even though i didn't think so. everyone was saying that it was obvious to them that he liked me. so i went with it and it backfired. sigh. i think i'm more upset that i finally thought i found someone i liked who genuinely liked me back as a person and as more than a friend but i guess not.

and i'm not going to wait more years to get a boyfriend! i'm freaking going to be 22, i'm supposed* to be engaged in a few years i have to get cracking!



*note: as a sociology major i know it doesn't have to be this way but i don't care!

he's immature...he might grow out of it but you'll suffer waiting for that day which may never come...move on and wait until you find someone that truly wants to be with you

and don't even think about getting married until at least 30...just my perspective but you should enjoy your 20's without being tied down (unless you're into that :P )

washedinblack91

norm wrote:

washedinblack91 wrote:

but i thought he was nice. he was the nicest guy i've known (what does that say about me? ) he was polite and said i was important to him and seemed genuinely upset that he didn't have money. my dad was there to see him talk to me way before i thought i liked him and he told me the way he was acting, genuinely excited to see me and calling me over every time i went into his store, he said boys don't normally act that way and that that meant he liked me. i even asked my cousin who's around the same age as him about him and he said the same thing. and everyone said that newark show was a date even though i didn't think so. everyone was saying that it was obvious to them that he liked me. so i went with it and it backfired. sigh. i think i'm more upset that i finally thought i found someone i liked who genuinely liked me back as a person and as more than a friend but i guess not.

and i'm not going to wait more years to get a boyfriend! i'm freaking going to be 22, i'm supposed* to be engaged in a few years i have to get cracking!



*note: as a sociology major i know it doesn't have to be this way but i don't care!

he's immature...he might grow out of it but you'll suffer waiting for that day which may never come...move on and wait until you find someone that truly wants to be with you

and don't even think about getting married until at least 30...just my perspective but you should enjoy your 20's without being tied down (unless you're into that :P )

i agree. one of the reasons why i didn't like him was because i thought he was immature, but my mom told me "18, 35, 70, it doesn't matter what their age is all men are immature" and she told me to give him a chance because she thought he liked me and i should give him a chance. ohhhhhhh wellllllll.....

and i always told myself i wouldn't be those kinds of people who have kids at 35... no offense who those who have kids at 35

BinauralJam

Your a Cutie, he's a dick

norm

washedinblack91 wrote:

i agree. one of the reasons why i didn't like him was because i thought he was immature, but my mom told me "18, 35, 70, it doesn't matter what their age is all men are immature" and she told me to give him a chance because she thought he liked me and i should give him a chance. ohhhhhhh wellllllll.....

well according to your mom, your dad is immature!

and you gave this guy a chance and he fucked it up...his loss

washedinblack91 wrote:

and i always told myself i wouldn't be those kinds of people who have kids at 35... no offense who those who have kids at 35

hey my mom had me at 35! and this was before it was fashionable! :P