Alcoholism.

megatron

i went to rehab to evaluate my drinking. when i came back i hung with my friends. we are all alcoholics and know it. no one was offended. most were supportive. i'd say your friends aren't offended as much as you becoming aware of your drinking has made them look at their own problem. and they may not like what they see.

Green Circle

You should just do as you please. Your true friend(s) will stay with you and still want you
to come around whether you decide to drink or not.

Stay strong.

LikeAnOcean

Theovl316 wrote:

You should just do as you please. Your true friend(s) will stay with you and still want you
to come around whether you decide to drink or not.

Stay strong.

I'm fine. I'm more so worried about my friend. Yeah, he'll probably be fine, livers are tough, but I don't think he understands how it effects the quality of his life when he's not drinking. He's always itching to have a drink. He's a functional alcoholic, so its not effecting his job or anything, but its sad to see how badly and desperately he talks about and goes for that first drink, and then continues... I mean, at least admit its not great for you and not question when other people don't drink as much. Really, thats all I want him to understand.

iluvcats

when my friend and I would go out to bars (probably before some of you all on here were born), she would make fun of me for only having two beers. she is really thin and Type A personality. By the time she was 44, she was already on blood pressure meds and she told me she has to stop drinking. she hasn't stopped. she got really drunk at my house in november.

iluvcats

somebody mentioned livers and alcoholism....arteries are affected too. When I was 36, the man we bought our house from obviously drank alot, there were broken windows in the house and empty Jack Daniel boxes in the closet. he was recently divorced, facing foreclosure, and he told me he could not walk out to get the mail, he had hardening of the arteries. I thought he was in his sixties and it turned out, he was not even old enough to be my father. the neighbors said that family drank alot and had fights (that explained the broken windows.) he had a disability retirement. he died about 2 yrs ago...wow, our house was a handy man's dream...I've posted before about "footsteps in the hall." I think his ghost is admiring my husband's ability to fix it up!

so don't drink

facepollution

Gob wrote:

facepollution wrote:

Gob wrote:

I've cut back to just a few glasses of wine a day (which is healthy)

A few glasses is a bottle, no?! I'm pretty sure a bottle of wine a day is not 'healthy'.

No, a glass of wine is considered 4 oz.. about 5 glasses for a bottle. I'm having half a bottle actually, so half of what I was.

Ah right, when you said a few I was thinking like 4-5 or something.

facepollution

eyedclaar wrote:

facepollution wrote:

I'm pretty sure a bottle of wine a day is not 'healthy'.

Riiiiight. And next thing you know you will tell me that my crack for breakfast isn't the most important activity of the day. Or, that I can't swim for thirty minutes after being impaled by a unicorn. Do I look like I fell off the turnip truck yesterday?

Hey I'm not knocking it, I'd drink beer every day if it didn't make me feel fat and sluggish, but I wouldn't try and call it healthy. Plus there's research that indicates that grape juice has pretty much the same health benefits as wine - I'm betting the OP doesn't drink a few glasses a day purely for the health benefits

LikeAnOcean

facepollution wrote:

eyedclaar wrote:

facepollution wrote:

I'm pretty sure a bottle of wine a day is not 'healthy'.

Riiiiight. And next thing you know you will tell me that my crack for breakfast isn't the most important activity of the day. Or, that I can't swim for thirty minutes after being impaled by a unicorn. Do I look like I fell off the turnip truck yesterday?

Hey I'm not knocking it, I'd drink beer every day if it didn't make me feel fat and sluggish, but I wouldn't try and call it healthy. Plus there's research that indicates that grape juice has pretty much the same health benefits as wine - I'm betting the OP doesn't drink a few glasses a day purely for the health benefits

As far as antioxidants go, yes grape juice has the same benefits, but the alcohol in moderation thins out the blood, which is good for the heart and also boosts some other things in prep for a high alcohol intake, so long as you stop drinking...

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/20 ... 133610.htm


so in a sense, wine is a little better.

norm

true friends should understand if you want to drink less



but more importantly, what the fuck is with your screen name?? why does it keep changing?? :?

LikeAnOcean

norm wrote:

true friends should understand if you want to drink less



but more importantly, what the fuck is with your screen name?? why does it keep changing?? :?

I changed it once, but I doesn't seem to want to keep. :?

oona left

The "alcoholic" experiences abandonment.

You used to drink with him or her, but now you've changed your ways. Even if (for now), you're only moderating your consumption, the alcoholic may well fear you will like the effects, and quit drinking altogether.

This would leave the alcoholic - - - where??? He or she cannot binge alone. What would people say? Surely they would say, "if you drink that much by yourself, you're an alcoholic." Gasp!!!

He or she is literally pressuring you to keep drinking close to their rate, to prove that their rate is A-okay. Perfectly normal. Move along, nothing to see here-type drinking.

dcfaithful

This may be a silly observation and I haven't read all three pages of this thread so if it was already mentioned I apologize, but maybe your buddy has a hard time dealing with the fact that you can, and have made the decision to cut back drinking an dhe hasn't...or can't?

I dunno, it's a vague thought.