tacky?

JOEJOEJOE

Just think, they could have asked you to add postage to the envelope.

They also could have asked you to fill-in your name and type of gift on the thank you card to reduce their work-load even more.

In our wedding planning, we are trying to be consistent when we choose the level of quality for everything.

IMHO, all aspects of a wedding, no matter how swank or basic, shouldn't drastically vary.

tinkerbell

If money was tight, why not say BYO on invite or ask close family if they could bring a bottle?

If there was no alcohol what did you do?!?

Card thing not only tacky but rude!!

JaneNY

decides2dream, did you receive a mailed invitation for the shower to your home?

chadwick

no booze, no greenery?
:?
what the fuck do i look like "your envelope filling out secretary?"

decides2dream

JaneNY wrote:

decides2dream, did you receive a mailed invitation for the shower to your home?

yes.
i think i mentioned it earlier - the maid of honor hand-wrote out EACH invitation and accompanying envelope. i was actually surprised about that, very old school. for my sister's bridal shower a few years ago, i designed her invites on the computer, i input everyone's name/addys into my avery label program....so i did not hand-write a thing, tho i did put a lot of time/effort into designing the invitation and printing everything etc.


so hell yea.....i agree, just total laziness on the bride's part imo. tacky. and, the wedding is 2 months away, so plenty of time. hell, my bridal shower was one week before my wedding, and i hand-wrote all my thank-yous/envelopes and got em out in the post. it doesn't take that much time, cmon! :P

Lizard wrote:

Must be the "new" thing. I have done it a couple times recently.

that is just beyond sad....


i do *get* it....oh, save time, so easy! but where is the forethought, the idea that yes.....it IS tacky to ask your guests to write out an envelope for the gifts they bothered to shop for and wrap to give to you?



as to the alcohol, i kinda figured the bridesmaids are simply watching their budget. i get it and understand. i didn't like it ....but that i can at least understand. the whole envelope thing tho, if it indeed is becoming 'the new thing'...ugh.....one less niceity in the world is slowly dying. hell, if that's the case...do away with showers, period! now that's an idea i can get behind!

JonnyPistachio

what's tacky is that it was probably alcohol that got her knocked up in the first place, they should serve it to keep others drunk so that the viscious cycle of mandatory gift giving continues in the face of all condom manufacturers!

j/k!

Black Diamond

Dear :fill in name:

Thank you so much for the :fill in gift:. It will really come in handy. I'm sorry we did not have any alcohol at the bridal shower but I did not have the time to visit Costco in the short 3 months that this shower was being prepared. I hope to see you at the wedding. Please see the attached thank you card for the wedding which you need to fill in before the :2 weeks before wedding: and return so that I can make sure I do as little as possible

Sincerely

: Pre-stamped Signature:

PS - If ordering something from my bridal registry, please tell them your guest number :xxx: so it will be personal to me...

chadwick

Black Diamond wrote:

Dear :fill in name:

Thank you so much for the :fill in gift:. It will really come in handy. I'm sorry we did not have any alcohol at the bridal shower but I did not have the time to visit Costco in the short 3 months that this shower was being prepared. I hope to see you at the wedding. Please see the attached thank you card for the wedding which you need to fill in before the :2 weeks before wedding: and return so that I can make sure I do as little as possible

Sincerely

: Pre-stamped Signature:

PS - If ordering something from my bridal registry, please tell them your guest number :xxx: so it will be personal to me...

and then when you're done please feel free to kiss my fat fucking ass

them people are idiots
and i'd probably throw up at this bullshit wedding
thank god i am not invited


mr. harsh has spoken

decides2dream

JonnyPistachio wrote:

what's tacky is that it was probably alcohol that got her knocked up in the first place, they should serve it to keep others drunk so that the viscious cycle of mandatory gift giving continues in the face of all condom manufacturers!

j/k!

hey now!
this is my nephew's future wife we're talking about here! :evil:
i know, i know....kidding.....
and no, she's not knocked up. they actually are a very responsible couple, very smart in all ways. she probably looks at it from a efficiency pov, instead of well.....erm, tacky.



BD.....omg....that was priceless!
eaxctly!
it's like a kiddie thank you...


and you bet.....quite a nice bridal registry....they have a wedding website.....and we DID, happily, buy a really nice gift. we do LOVE them, but yea.....manners are manners.

norm

decides2dream wrote:

this is my nephew's future wife we're talking about here! :evil:
i know, i know....kidding.....
and no, she's not knocked up. they actually are a very responsible couple, very smart in all ways. she probably looks at it from a efficiency pov, instead of well.....erm, tacky.

what are their ages?

chadwick

decides2dream wrote:

JonnyPistachio wrote:

what's tacky is that it was probably alcohol that got her knocked up in the first place, they should serve it to keep others drunk so that the viscious cycle of mandatory gift giving continues in the face of all condom manufacturers!

j/k!

hey now!
this is my nephew's future wife we're talking about here! :evil:
i know, i know....kidding.....
and no, she's not knocked up. they actually are a very responsible couple, very smart in all ways. she probably looks at it from a efficiency pov, instead of well.....erm, tacky.



BD.....omg....that was priceless!
eaxctly!
it's like a kiddie thank you...


and you bet.....quite a nice bridal registry....they have a wedding website.....and we DID, happily, buy a really nice gift. we do LOVE them, but yea.....manners are manners.

well blow me down and shiver me timbers
they have a wedding website
unbelievable

i have a bamboo wedding testicle scratcher

decides2dream

norm wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

this is my nephew's future wife we're talking about here! :evil:
i know, i know....kidding.....
and no, she's not knocked up. they actually are a very responsible couple, very smart in all ways. she probably looks at it from a efficiency pov, instead of well.....erm, tacky.

what are their ages?

he's 28, she's 29.
they are a lovely couple.
this is the only negative i can say about her, at all.....well, her family is a little too politically conservative for me ....but then again, so is my oldest sister and my nephew. so yea.


and yes, exactly why i asked other people's thoughts, to see if as lizard said, this is a 'new thing'...as in a generational thing. i do think it is, but it still saddens me, b/c yes...i do still think it is a very tacky, and unthoughtful, practice.

JaneNY

decides2dream wrote:

JaneNY wrote:

decides2dream, did you receive a mailed invitation for the shower to your home?

yes.
i think i mentioned it earlier - the maid of honor hand-wrote out EACH invitation and accompanying envelope. i was actually surprised about that, very old school. :

Oh sorry - I must have missed it. I already said I thought it was tacky, but esp. now. If they can take the time (and they have the addresses already!) to handwrite invitations so they can GET PRESENTS, they can take the time to write addresses on the thank you notes.

Given to...

This would have to be one of the "new things" I dont agree with.

I understand that neccessity is the mother of invention, but does anyone else think that todays society has lost touch with the benefits of just doing, and instead has become irrationally compulsive about making everything easier?

Is there an app for this yet?

decides2dream

JaneNY wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

JaneNY wrote:

decides2dream, did you receive a mailed invitation for the shower to your home?

yes.
i think i mentioned it earlier - the maid of honor hand-wrote out EACH invitation and accompanying envelope. i was actually surprised about that, very old school. :

Oh sorry - I must have missed it. I already said I thought it was tacky, but esp. now. If they can take the time (and they have the addresses already!) to handwrite invitations so they can GET PRESENTS, they can take the time to write addresses on the thank you notes.

no apologies necessary....
and yes, my thoughts exactly.
the maid of honor apparently went to all the trouble of hand-writing everything...so you bet...i think the bride can go to the 'trouble' of hand-writing thank yous, including the envelopes, to all the people who showed up for her non-alcoholic shower and brought her gifts!

Given to... wrote:

This would have to be one of the "new things" I dont agree with.

I understand that necessity is the mother of invention, but does anyone else think that today's society has lost touch with the benefits of just doing, and instead has become irrationally compulsive about making everything easier?

Is there an app for this yet?

yea....*sighs*.......


and that last line made me laugh.

DewieCox

No alcohol at a shower? I've never heard of a shower with alcohol. Maybe a few drinks afterwards.

Asking guests to fill out their own thank yous the epitome of tacky.

chiquimonkey

fill out your own thank you card?

oh HELL no. i would have filled out a card thanking them for being such bitches and left it for 'em. but that's just me

norm

chiquimonkey wrote:

fill out your own thank you card?

oh HELL no. i would have filled out a card thanking them for being such bitches and left it for 'em. but that's just me

chiquimonkey

norm wrote:

chiquimonkey wrote:

fill out your own thank you card?

oh HELL no. i would have filled out a card thanking them for being such bitches and left it for 'em. but that's just me

seriously though, how much of a lazy punk ass twit do you have to be ??

and don't EVEN get me started on there being no booze? so they're cheap on top of all that? what did they toast with? kool-aid? was this the best man?



which actually would be cool as all hell, especially if he broke thru shit. but these lame-oids don't sound like they got that kinda flavor.

norm

if i ever get married, my best man is wearing the kool aid costume!!




and no alcohol?? traders joes - case of 2 buck chuck 24 bucks...everybody's happy