tacky?

decides2dream

just curious what people may think.


went to my nephew's fiancee's bridal shower yesterday. firstly, no alcohol of any form was served :shock: ....that was new to me, and yea, not so fun. haha. bridal showers are tough enough to attend, but cold-stone sober, yikes. however, my query is about this:

there was a basket set up with envelopes and thank you cards in it. that's right, the actual thank you cards i assume that will be sent to all guests to thank them for their gifts, and each guest was meant to address their own envelope for their thank you card. :? :shock: :roll:

i'm sorry, i am all for efficiency and saving time, but cmon.....someone bought you a gift, i think you can manage to write out your own thank you card and address the envelope! hell, you can type up labels on your computer, hopefully have a master list of guests, do a mail merge, whatever. it's not like i expect a hand-written envelope, but to ask your guests to fill it out themselves, yea....utterly tacky in my book. me, my sis and my mom didn't do it.

Black Diamond

No booze? Yeesh!!

And that's a capital T tacky...

decides2dream

Black Diamond wrote:

No booze? Yeesh!!

And that's a capital T tacky...

right?!
wtf?
:evil:


and thank you...i was really surprised!

mysticweed

TACKY to the nth.

No booze and filling out your own thank you cards.
Totally tacky

blackredyellow

No booze if that's their belief, is ok I guess (but annoying to the rest of us)... But if it's just to save money, then that's tacky.

As far as the thank you card thing... Beyond tacky...

decides2dream

blackredyellow wrote:

No booze if that's their belief, is ok I guess (but annoying to the rest of us)... But if it's just to save money, then that's tacky.

As far as the thank you card thing... Beyond tacky...

in all honesty, this is my thought. i met her entire family at thanksgiving, and they ALL drank (my oldest sister, the one who is mother to said nephew, hosted thanksgiving) so i definitely think $$$. but ok, fine, i get it - bridesmaids are supposed to chip in for the shower, maybe they didn't have, or didn't want to, spend that cash. i don't really agree with that, but whatever.

glad everyone agrees on the tacky-factor for the cards tho, just wanted to verify i am not hopelessly out of touch with what is deemed 'acceptible' today, b/c yea....tacky!

vduboise

Filling out your own cards, totally not acceptable. The maid of honor or one of her bridesmaids is supposed to write down what everyone gave, and then the bride is to do the work. That is just laziness talking.

And the booze, I could never get through a shower without it. If its the money thing, then don't get it through the restaurant (or wherever its being held)- just buy it outside. That's a bit cheaper.

But no drinks... :evil:

peacegirl

filling out your own thank you card? VERY TACKY!

SPEEDY MCCREADY

peacegirl wrote:

filling out your own thank you card? VERY TACKY!

Not taking 20 seconds of your life, and filling out the silly card?? Tacky

decides2dream

vduboise wrote:

Filling out your own cards, totally not acceptable. The maid of honor or one of her bridesmaids is supposed to write down what everyone gave, and then the bride is to do the work. That is just laziness talking.

And the booze, I could never get through a shower without it. If its the money thing, then don't get it through the restaurant (or wherever its being held)- just buy it outside. That's a bit cheaper.

But no drinks... :evil:

oh yea, the maid of honor did do all that....and it's like, hello? she also (the moh) hand-wrote all the invites/envelopes....so someone, somewhere, has a master list of all our names/addys in attendance.


the shower was held in the bride's mother's home, so it was a VERY affordable shower.
believe me, both my sister and i were like wtf?! :wtf: :twisted: over the no alcohol thing. i mean, we did take the punch figuring well, guess this IS the only alcohol present, and when we realized it was virgin.... :shock: none too pleased. i did have 2 glasses of wine before i left home to get a wee bit primed for the occasion, but given how long it took us to get there....yea....wasn't much help. :P i will admit, that bottle of wine got wiped out upon my return home.

glad most feel the same way tho. given my own sister, i wonder what she thought, b/c she was always the queen of perfect manners, but just shows...she's going to be a good mil and not say a word.



btw - we were never 'officially' asked to fill out the envelopes b/c we were an hour late. got hopelessly lost on our way, horrible directions from the evite site...so another guest filled us in.

MayDay10

tacky

PureandEasy

Definitely tacky - and a shower WITHOUT alcohol? Nooooooo way. Those things are boring enough.

The best shower I EVER went to was a baby shower, it was a Sunday and it was held at a local restaurant - so it was a brunch, with a bar, so cool.

Well, my girlfriend went into labor and never made it to the shower. Needless to say, the rest of us girls made a day of it and we were still celebrating about 11:00 that evening. It was football season and we must have hit three different bars that day and then ended up watching the Sunday night game too.

It was a blast.

JaneNY

I don't drink so the alcohol doesn't matter to me, but yes it is just too tacky to expect guests to address their own cards. I saw this once at a baby shower. Its like yeah we have to send you thank you cards but we can't be bothered to address your card. I bet they addressed the invitations that asked you to show up and give them presents.

eyedclaar

Sorry, I didn't get past the no alcohol part, nothing really mades sense to me from that point on....

norm

maybe they didn't serve alcohol because they knew that people would get drunk and get creative with the thank you cards

pandora

The cost of this wedding must be setting in for everyone- they're probably broke. Maybe the wedding party is saving the booze and $$$ for the bachlorette party
I think you mentioned they wanted you to fill out just the addresses on the envelopes not the cards themselves, now if you had to make out your own thank you card that would be over the top tacky- filling out the envelope thats still a bit weird. Maybe a time crunch- is the wedding real soon maybe? just stretching for an explanation here.

tybird

Magic 8 Ball told me to say,"Tacky, indeed."

Get_Right

No booze I can understand. Happens more and more.

But the card thing is ridiculous.

And that is coming from someone who just sent out 31 thank you cards.

Lizard

Must be the "new" thing. I have done it a couple times recently.

oona left

Tacky.

I don't even drink, but I would certainly make booze available if it were my shower. Sheeeesh!!!

I was at a bridal shower this past weekend, and I was hitting that soda water like nobody's business, let me tell you.

And the envelopes?? Wow...

mikalina

Completely tacky !!