Open marriages
cdp1223
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Anybody have experience on this topic?
Just putting out feelers (yeah that sounds gross) before launching into all my theories, questions, etc.... :?
Just putting out feelers (yeah that sounds gross) before launching into all my theories, questions, etc.... :?
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...are those who've helped us.
Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
Whats that???
You are allowed to fuck all her friends????
Is that what you mean by "Open Marriage"????
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
I'm guessing you aren't married? I don't know.
Marriage and fucking sometimes don't go hand in hand.
hehehehehehehehehehehe..........
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
Not exactly. For example, I know several couples with a sort of "don't ask, don't tell" policy with regards to travelling for business out of town.
I think the idea is usually that you have a great relationship and marriage and therefore don't want to get divorced, but perhaps one person has more sexual needs than the other for whatever reason or wants to explore something different. The Savage Love column has covered a decent amount.
But seriously, I am not talking about cheating or fucking friends, etc. It is more about people who have a relationship where they have openly discussed something like this with their partner and it has worked out ok.
Pretty sure that's what the OP is talking about, and while that sounds great, her being allowed to fuck all of your friends comes along with it I would guess.
though most of my friends are not very fuckable people, so I guess it could all work out .
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
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For me, sex is a very separate thing from love or emotion a lot of times. (I screw like a fratboy I guess.) So to me, this would have nothing to do with my marriage, which is awesome. I realize this is a particularly individual approach (read: selfish) to fucking, but it's just how I think about things. I think my husband would actually be ok with it too, because it would give him certain liberties as well.
LMAO
That was awesome!!
You're basically wanting to enter the lifestyle of a swinger, right?
Sadly, I think people of the same thinking are rare. It's difficult for many people to be emotionally linked to someone bu tthen allow them to go have an intimate realtion with others (male, or female it doesn't matter).
It seems like this is something that needs to be proposed, definitely. But I woul djust think you'd want to take precaution with asking this incase your husband takes it a way that you least expected.
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I will ask...
If your husband comes home tonight and tells you he wants his buddy Nick, or Joe, Or Bubba......To fuck him like an animal....
How would you handle this???
And I cant believe I just asked that question....hehehehehehe
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
Swingers.
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
The swinging lifestyle is VERY often group oriented. Partner-exchange, etc. I am not interested in that AT ALL. Also, most swingers are totally gross.
I have specific people in mind which is also sort of different from the swinger style of fucking.
And yes, if my husband came home and told me he wanted to fuck _____ (insert name here) I would be fine with that. Not kidding.
How long have you been married?
Have you always had these urges to be with another woman, or is it new? if so, did your husband know about it when you got married?
Wow, and it just occurred to me that you are a PJ fan. Many people here might say that he is one lucky man.
It would bug me a lot if my GF had an interest in someone else, however it would bug me less if it were another woman.
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Yes, I have been in mostly open relationships..
Not a big fan of most people who are in the lifestyle though... lots of creepy people. Be careful!
It is important to keep it safe and not a regular thing. Sex can be very addicting and the lifestyle has ruined many marriages.
Make sure you both understand ALL the rules before doing anything. Who can do what, WHY you are doing it, how often (once a month or less is a good one), when you can stop, understanding that it CAN stop at anytime... trust is a must. If there is any lack of trust... don't do it. Open communication is vital.
By the way, it can be traumatizing for some people the first time. Some people think "yeah no biggie I can do that" but when it comes time to talk turkey, they realize it is a big deal.
Yeah, I was just curious if that's what you were into, but you're not.
Just curious, are there people you know and have in mind that you'd like to begin a relationship with given your husband gave his approval?
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
I have been married almost 2 years. Been living together about 5. I dated women before we were married. Yes he knows about it.
And yeah, posting on this topic is going to make me either REALLY popular at pre-parties....or everyone is going to run the fuck away from me!
Haha loveline. Thanks for that old gem. We all know that Dr. Drew's advice never fails!
Yes...a few.
edited that for ya
pictures please...
Steve Nash photo... Canada or Phoenix?
Norm, I've had eyes for you ever since the first time I saw your avatar. Tread lightly, my friend. :twisted: Rawr!
you got the hots for ted knight?!?! :wtf:
you are kinky! :thumbup: :think: :wave:
HELLS YEAH. He is so pithy and snarky. Gimme some of that!
YOU HAVE NO IDEA. (Oh wait. Maybe you do after I posted this thread....d'oh)
You should know your husband well enough to know how he may react to such suggestions, at the same time, if he knows about your previous experiment, this shouldn't shock him the least bit. But, are you worried at all about his feelings towards it? What if he is completely appalled that you even suggested it and then questions your true intentions from here forward? Or, what if he gets a bit too 'into it', will you take offense to his actions to the third party.
Speaking from my own experience, I dont think it does the fantasy justice. Or, maybe it just wasnt as good as it could have been.
To me, this suggestion means that maybe the relationship just isnt really cutting it anymore. Its one thing to explore other ideas to keep things exciting, but, by adding an additional party to the mix, brings up way too many feelings and emotions for it to ever just be 'fun and meaningless'... IMO and my personal experiences.
But, good luck!!!
I can be a total freak on here and get away with it!
You must have not seen me around with my Ronnie James Dio avatar. :?
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2