Would you marry someone of a different political ideology?
TriumphantAngel
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G under P asked this in a different thread and it didn't get any responses, so i thought i'd start a thread on it's own. it's not something that i've ever had to worry about.
a few examples of definite no no no and ginormous no for me.
reading Hannity's ''i'm a little tea pot short and stout, here is my handle, here is my spout" books on a lazy sunday afternoon while sitting on the porch.
putting a bumper sticker on my car saying ''Hockey moms say puck Obama"
waving signs at rallys saying "I'm a pro-lifer, but support the death penalty"
screaming out ''there i am!" when i swear i see my face on national television at the latest rally i attend, even though Glenn Beck used different footage to inflate the numbers in the hopes that repeating the fantasy enough times will make it reality.
when i say Kucinich, instead of recognizing i'm talking about "the man", it's mistaken as a sweet term of endearment directed at them. eww.
this should go without saying, but that would be a little too much for me.
really it depends on how different. we'd have to agree on some things, and i'd like to think we shared some common ground on the things closest to my heart. that aside though, if you truly love and respect someone, you should be able to work through anything.g under p wrote:would you marry someone of a different political ideology?
Peace
a few examples of definite no no no and ginormous no for me.
reading Hannity's ''i'm a little tea pot short and stout, here is my handle, here is my spout" books on a lazy sunday afternoon while sitting on the porch.
putting a bumper sticker on my car saying ''Hockey moms say puck Obama"
waving signs at rallys saying "I'm a pro-lifer, but support the death penalty"
screaming out ''there i am!" when i swear i see my face on national television at the latest rally i attend, even though Glenn Beck used different footage to inflate the numbers in the hopes that repeating the fantasy enough times will make it reality.
when i say Kucinich, instead of recognizing i'm talking about "the man", it's mistaken as a sweet term of endearment directed at them. eww.
this should go without saying, but that would be a little too much for me.
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how come you dont get sick of this band?
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At the risk of sounding obvious; 'No'. :oops:
Though I very rarely ever talk politics when I'm in a bar or wherever, but if the person were a right wing flag-waver I'm pretty sure it wouldn't take very long to figure it out.
I am already hard enough to get along with we do not need to add politics into the mix
ps. please don't kill me. i kid. i kid.
I mean, look at Pearl Jam. They are slowly going from far left towards the middle... People change. (although I know I probably won't ever go conservative... That, I somehow know.)
I am too passionate about it.
When I was young, I did marry outside my political views, but at that time, I wasn't so passionate about politics. Problem now with that long dissolved marriage is that we had 2 kids who have 2 parents with differing views, as well as the extended families being opposite in views. Many people just follow the politics their parents did.
So, one kid is democrat and the other republican. Ouch!!
i am very very lucky that my girlfriend and i have very similar views. i think we have affected and reinforced each other's pre-existing views and meeting her has galvanized my position on many issues that i was on the fence about before, such as the isreal-palestine situation. we are both very passionate people about our beliefs and what we feel is right and wrong and i think that having that agreement on things makes our bond that much stronger...most of my friends all have the same beliefs as we do, and her belief in me allows me to get into the debates on this forum with confidence that even though many on here would disagree with my politics, her belief in me makes me feel that at least in her eyes and my eyes i am right and i can keep fighting the good fight, or the good fight as we both see it...and for that, as well as everything else, i thank her....
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
we agree on that too
Well said, both of you!
But the main issue is kids. Kids change everything. There are plenty of issues in life where I can agree to disagree... but I'll be damned if I'm going to let someone raise my kids that way! For instance, I would never want my kids raised to believe that poor people are less deserving than those with more money, or that women who have unintended pregnancies are necessarily irresponsible, or that war is the answer.
Religion, on the other hand, leaves more room for differences. I could totally marry someone with different religious beliefs, as long as those beliefs included tolerance for other beliefs. For instance, I could possibly (in theory) even marry someone who believed that abortion was a sin, as long as they didn't believe, politically, that women shouldn't have a right to make that determination for themselves. I agree with Gandhi: "Religions are but different roads that converge upon the same point. What difference does it make what road we take as long as we reach our destination?" Just don't try to block anyone else's road and we're good.
So, regarding politics, if the fundamental destination/objective is different (e.g. if someone's primary political objective values money above all else), it's much more of an issue than just what roads are taken.
Well I asked that question only because their seems to be a very strong split in this country down political lines. Religious is one thing which SHOULD be worked out before getting married especially if children are involved or if you plan on having children. The same can be said when it comes to the political spectrum, I've told my daughter a couple things never be afraid to ask questions and just because when it comes to politics I believe this particular party doesn't mean you have to do the same. Never be afraid to stand on your own even in the face of overwhelming opposition.
Now as for my fiance' the last time she voted she vote for Bush 1. If she was to vote in 2008 she has told me she doesn't give a shit which party she would vote for. She believes they all lie, they all cheat and they ALL are power hungry mongers that are in power to strictly benefit themselves. When they can help her pay for her S&L bill and other bills then and only then she may consider one party or the other and it's ideology. She believes it's ALL a scam on the American people, a distraction to basically take up our time.
I was a registered Democrat now Independent, but at least we have our eyes open as what our political system has become. They're in power not necessarily for the people but in power for themselves and their agenda. We see eye to eye on that level she wouldn't try to convince me otherwise and I wouldn't try and change her mind, we have too many children to waste our time. We both can put aside the political ideology in our relationship, now someone else with strong opposition political views my answer would be a definite NO.
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Kucinich for President
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Like I wrote before, people can change their political leanings as they grow and evolve.
I agree with most of this, although I'd point out that "middle of the road" does not necessarily mean uninterested in politics. You don't have to be far left or right to have an informed opinion or even to be passionate about a topic.
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I wouldn't marry anyone with a different sexual orientation than mine either!
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